my ob with ds g,now 2 1/2..only went to him once. he felt my breasts for eons (at 8.2 days),enough time for me to tell him all about my school history and so on..and then says "classic engorgement"!! then they said we couldnt bring in a video for our ultrasound (when we went to pick up my records later,a pregnant woman walked by with a video tape,just like their pamplets say you can do..we were so mad/sad and dont know why they said no.) then when the woman doing the ulrasound says "8 weeks 2 days" my husband was happily saying how i was "spot on!!" for exactly how far along we thought we were..based soley on implantation bleeding and date i took the test (we didnt tell her how we knew. and my mother thinks the only way was if we only had unprotected sex once or had a condom break. um,no,no mum..but i dont explain it to her either..i dont share private things with her at all.)and she gets angry,angry that i knew how old my baby was. so she grits her teeth,remeausers,adds a bit,grumbles "8 weeks THREE days.." and thats what she put down for it..huh. then with my dd c,3 months,i had one midwife who was super eager to induce and i mean she was telling me that we would be killing our baby if we didnt,in not so many words...they thought my due date was the 15th..and honestly,that was a date i think i had given them (i didnt see a midwife until dec,but anyway..) but then it was let slip that the u/s said the 26th!! and i got to thinking about it and....yes,yes that was right,to the day!! but did they believe me then? nooo,of course not. and one of the midwives i couldnt stand was on call the morning i went into labour. i was actually praying to hold out until my favourite midwife was there for the next shift,and i did (and then some) but oh was i ever happy it was her. i could have just hugged her or danced for joy had i not been in labour!! oh,and i almost forgot,but with my son they told me my hormone levels were "a little low but nothing to worry about.." but when i got my records and compared my numbers to the norm,its amazing i didnt lose him. i have lost several other babies and they knew it to,but didnt believe me. oh,and the woman talking to us about payments and seeing the doctor and giving us our books,info packs at first kept asking me all these questions and when i refused to say how i knew i lost my babies she kept asking me over and over if i had had abortions and if i was sure..(number one i am extremely prolife,number 2 my babies had died and i couldnt stop it from happening,number three im almost in tears already and shortly after while being weighed was telling my husband i just wanted to go home..) and here she was,saying because i couldnt tell her how i knew,that i had aborted them?! and she wasnt using it in the medical way of "spontaneous abortion",either. so when i also mentioned how people cant believe you can see really tiny babies,she tells me how of course,people bring them in in little baggies all the time. she didnt put it kindly,just acted like little babies were some sort of take out gone wrong..it was just horribly sad. on the flip side they did fit me in straight away i had told them about my history. but it went downhill from there thats for sure. oh,and when i couldnt breathe for a solid week,i was told i was fine and it was just nerves at the er,and also i has a sensitive tummy (just bumping a doorknob when pregnant for me is agony) but ultrasound techs and such with always tell me they arent hurting me,or simply must be done...oh i could go on all day and i havent even had many doctors. dont even start with the woman gyn i saw about a cyst who 1) asked me if i was having sex and i said no said "i didnt think so" (thanks,i must look like a dog and no one would WANT to have sex with me!!) and used me as a "finger rest" while she was talking to me and well after she was through checking me. oh and tried to force a tetnus shot on me..okay i'll stop now..whew..
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4/23/05 at 11:39am