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post #81 of 299
my ob with ds g,now 2 1/2..only went to him once. he felt my breasts for eons (at 8.2 days),enough time for me to tell him all about my school history and so on..and then says "classic engorgement"!! then they said we couldnt bring in a video for our ultrasound (when we went to pick up my records later,a pregnant woman walked by with a video tape,just like their pamplets say you can do..we were so mad/sad and dont know why they said no.) then when the woman doing the ulrasound says "8 weeks 2 days" my husband was happily saying how i was "spot on!!" for exactly how far along we thought we were..based soley on implantation bleeding and date i took the test (we didnt tell her how we knew. and my mother thinks the only way was if we only had unprotected sex once or had a condom break. um,no,no mum..but i dont explain it to her either..i dont share private things with her at all.)and she gets angry,angry that i knew how old my baby was. so she grits her teeth,remeausers,adds a bit,grumbles "8 weeks THREE days.." and thats what she put down for it..huh. then with my dd c,3 months,i had one midwife who was super eager to induce and i mean she was telling me that we would be killing our baby if we didnt,in not so many words...they thought my due date was the 15th..and honestly,that was a date i think i had given them (i didnt see a midwife until dec,but anyway..) but then it was let slip that the u/s said the 26th!! and i got to thinking about it and....yes,yes that was right,to the day!! but did they believe me then? nooo,of course not. and one of the midwives i couldnt stand was on call the morning i went into labour. i was actually praying to hold out until my favourite midwife was there for the next shift,and i did (and then some) but oh was i ever happy it was her. i could have just hugged her or danced for joy had i not been in labour!! oh,and i almost forgot,but with my son they told me my hormone levels were "a little low but nothing to worry about.." but when i got my records and compared my numbers to the norm,its amazing i didnt lose him. i have lost several other babies and they knew it to,but didnt believe me. oh,and the woman talking to us about payments and seeing the doctor and giving us our books,info packs at first kept asking me all these questions and when i refused to say how i knew i lost my babies she kept asking me over and over if i had had abortions and if i was sure..(number one i am extremely prolife,number 2 my babies had died and i couldnt stop it from happening,number three im almost in tears already and shortly after while being weighed was telling my husband i just wanted to go home..) and here she was,saying because i couldnt tell her how i knew,that i had aborted them?! and she wasnt using it in the medical way of "spontaneous abortion",either. so when i also mentioned how people cant believe you can see really tiny babies,she tells me how of course,people bring them in in little baggies all the time. she didnt put it kindly,just acted like little babies were some sort of take out gone wrong..it was just horribly sad. on the flip side they did fit me in straight away i had told them about my history. but it went downhill from there thats for sure. oh,and when i couldnt breathe for a solid week,i was told i was fine and it was just nerves at the er,and also i has a sensitive tummy (just bumping a doorknob when pregnant for me is agony) but ultrasound techs and such with always tell me they arent hurting me,or simply must be done...oh i could go on all day and i havent even had many doctors. dont even start with the woman gyn i saw about a cyst who 1) asked me if i was having sex and i said no said "i didnt think so" (thanks,i must look like a dog and no one would WANT to have sex with me!!) and used me as a "finger rest" while she was talking to me and well after she was through checking me. oh and tried to force a tetnus shot on me..okay i'll stop now..whew..
post #82 of 299
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Originally Posted by mmmummy
dont even start with the woman gyn i saw about a cyst who 1) asked me if i was having sex and i said no said "i didnt think so" (thanks,i must look like a dog and no one would WANT to have sex with me!!) and used me as a "finger rest" while she was talking to me and well after she was through checking me. oh and tried to force a tetnus shot on me..okay i'll stop now..whew..
Eww on the finger rest. I was going to say I don't know how you get that she thought you were a dog and nobody would want to have sex with you by asking if you were having sex though. They ask everyone that question when you go in for an exam.......then I re-read it and saw that you meant *she sad "I didn't think so." I thought at first you had said that to her. All I can say is wow, that was R U D E!! I'm sorry you've had so many bad experiences. s
post #83 of 299
Hmmm... I have a couple of crazy quotes.

"If you have a homebirth you will die and the baby will die and you will regret it for the rest of your life!!!" (from my MD FIL)

"Nursing will ruin your breasts." (from my sister)

"Breastfeeding longer than three months?! Whoever heard of such a thing?!" (from MIL, who is a nurse!!!)

"I'm going to hire you a housekeeper to clean before your homebirth, to get your house as clean as the hospital so the baby doesn't get an infection." (my sister again)

:LOL :LOL :LOL
post #84 of 299
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Originally Posted by USAmma
I was told by a group of Indian women at a cultural event that dh and I attended, "I think your baby must be a girl. Yes, a girl. Girls will steal a mother's beauty when she's carrying."

Um, thanks. : I didn't think I was *that* ugly. :LOL

Second thing is that I was told by Dh's guru to avoid violent or shocking movies or music because then the baby would be out of control with emotions. I humored dh to the point where he covered my eyes if a bad commercial came on. Well . . I gave birth to a little firecracker of a child. With Nitara's pregnancy I watched whatever the heck I wanted since I was on bedrest. She turned out to be a very easy baby.

I got both of these! Although with the second, I give my mom some credit for being caring at least, she didn't want me to watch scary movies while I was pregnant (The Exorcist was rereleased while I was pregnant with dd) because the fear hormones would freak out the baby and it (she) wouldn't know why she was scared. Kinda makes sense to me, but I don't know.
post #85 of 299
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Originally Posted by dnr3301
I got both of these! Although with the second, I give my mom some credit for being caring at least, she didn't want me to watch scary movies while I was pregnant (The Exorcist was rereleased while I was pregnant with dd) because the fear hormones would freak out the baby and it (she) wouldn't know why she was scared. Kinda makes sense to me, but I don't know.
:LOL I always joke that we scared dd2 out of me - we went at watched the updated Texas Chain Saw Masacre and later that evening she was born.
post #86 of 299
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Originally Posted by pamamidwife
a friend, who had just had a baby, told me when I was six months pregnant:

"Oh, LOVE the episiotomy! The episiotomy is YOUR FRIEND!!"

With "friends" like that, who needs enemies??
: No kidding!

Healing the episiotomy was the WORST part of giving birth. I'd have gone through the whole thing more than once if I could have avoided that stupid, idiotic, crazy, procedure.
post #87 of 299
I wonder if she meant Epidural??

It's so hard to imagine anyone being happy about getting cut open.
Maybe her provider convinced her she would have had to push for much longer otherwise? and she didn't have a good pushing experience?
post #88 of 299
This isn't outrageous or horrible, it's actually kind of cute, but it was EMBARRASSING. My father is a minister. When I was about 3 months pg I told my parents they could finally start telling people. So my dad announced from the pulpit one Sunday (I was sitting in the pews) that I was "with child". WITH CHILD?? I just about passed out! :LOL

He sent me an e-mail the other day referring to "when Nora pops out". Eww...I don't want to think of a) Nora "popping out" - not how I envision her being born or b) my dad thinking of Nora "popping out"!!

He just can't get the terminology right, poor guy
post #89 of 299
A nurse in Labor and Delivery at a local hospital said I couldn't use rice packs with my client (ie hot sox) because applying heat during labor would rupture the uterus.

?!?!?!?!

The same nurse said women who did not have epidurals didn't bond with their children as well because they were angry with them for causing them pain.

Needless to say, this hospital's csection rate is rather high.
post #90 of 299
[QUOTE=LizD]The same nurse said women who did not have epidurals didn't bond with their children as well because they were angry with them for causing them pain.

[QUOTE]


get her out of that place!
post #91 of 299
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Originally Posted by LizD
The same nurse said women who did not have epidurals didn't bond with their children as well because they were angry with them for causing them pain.


get her out of that place!
post #92 of 299
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Originally Posted by LizD
The same nurse said women who did not have epidurals didn't bond with their children as well because they were angry with them for causing them pain.

Needless to say, this hospital's csection rate is rather high.
Right...women can't bond with their children because of the "anger" with the child for causing them pain. But, they bond no problem while trying to b/f with a great gaping wound across their abdomen????

This woman should be living in a psych ward...not working on a maternity ward!
post #93 of 299
I was GBS+ so had to have IV antibiotics at the hospital. I am extremely afraid of needles and I cried for 20 min when my midwife told me. Anyway, the nurse blew my vein and I told her that's it, no antibiotics for me. They would just have to monitor dd after the birth. So she had to get a form for me to sign saying I knew the risks of denying the antibiotics and afterwards told me how she knew babies born to GBS+ mothers that were fine at birth but died suddenly hours later. Nice thing to tell a laboring woman : I wanted to smack her! Good thing her shift was over not too long after that and I had a wonderful L&D nurse that helped me with my NCB.

PS: dd was fine


Oh and of course there was my SIL who gave birth 4 mos before me and insisted that I would need an epidural, "you just wait and see". I loved being able to prove her wrong
post #94 of 299
Great thread! I've been the whole time reading it!

Someone asked me who would do my episiotomy if I had a homebirth. Because that's the one medical intervention we can't do without, I guess.

One of the nurses in the hospital told me I had to put formula on my nipples to get my baby interested in them.

Can't think of any more right now.
post #95 of 299
Wow, we could fill a book with the shocking, outrageous,misinformed things people believe about pregnancy, labor and bfeeding!

I am pretty petite and had a friend tell me that all my babies would have to come out c-section, cuz I just didn't have "birthing hips". My hips spread beautifully while preggo and while dd#1 was indeed a c-sec (nothing to do with my hips :LOL thank you very much), dd#2 was a VBAC, no problems there!
post #96 of 299
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Originally Posted by paquerette
Great thread! I've been the whole time reading it!

Someone asked me who would do my episiotomy if I had a homebirth. Because that's the one medical intervention we can't do without, I guess.

One of the nurses in the hospital told me I had to put formula on my nipples to get my baby interested in them.

Can't think of any more right now.
:

Unbelieveable!

Dr. Robert Mendelsohn, pediatrician to the founding mothers of LLLI and a medical advisor to LLLI, used to say that bottlefeeding was a dirty habit that should only be carried out in a bathroom.
post #97 of 299
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Originally Posted by fiddledebi
Someone was telling me that her daughter was having a planned c-section for her second child, "since she'd had to have a section for her first." I asked if there was some permanent damage from her first birth or something, and she said no, just that you always have to have c-sections once you've had a c-section: "Yes, it's just common medical knowledge. It's not good for the babies to have a natural birth if the first baby was born by c-section. All doctors know this." I said, "Wow, really? All doctors say that?" And she said, "Yes. It's a medical fact."
well, i think she got her reasoning wrong, but my understanding is that this used to be true. before they came up with the "bikini cut" and still sliced mamas open from navel to pubic fur, VBAC was out of the question because the risk of uterine rupture was too high. or maybe it was because sliced uterine muscles can't push effectively? i hope someone knows the real story here.
post #98 of 299
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Originally Posted by paquerette
One of the nurses in the hospital told me I had to put formula on my nipples to get my baby interested in them.
Wow. Just, Wow.
post #99 of 299
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Originally Posted by indiana ima
well, i think she got her reasoning wrong, but my understanding is that this used to be true. before they came up with the "bikini cut" and still sliced mamas open from navel to pubic fur, VBAC was out of the question because the risk of uterine rupture was too high. or maybe it was because sliced uterine muscles can't push effectively? i hope someone knows the real story here.
From the reading I've been doing, the rupture rate with a vertical cut is very high...can't recall the numbers I was seeing, but it was definitely scary. My mom had the vertical incision, and having seen the scar from that my whole life, I can honestly say that I wouldn't want to chance a VBAC with one...
post #100 of 299
my mama has the vertical incision too. and yeah. yikes!
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