Having trouble Bonding with baby in utero

[Serenity]

I'm having trouble bonding with this baby. With my first, I was so excited, reading all the time, amazed at my growth, talking to him, journaling about him. This time I don't feel anything. I'm not sure if its because I'm worried about baby's health or just too busy with ds. I'm 15 weeks and not showing too much and I can't feel the baby. I heard the heartbeat a few weeks ago but I guess its not enough to sustain me. I feel guilty not to be as excited and enthused although this baby was very much wanted. Anyway, thanks for listening

[Worldshakerz]

I would say at least part of it is being busy with ds. My ds is 2 yrs old and he does keep me busy! I know what you mean though. This pregnancy is definitely different from my first. When pregnant with ds I was constantly thinking of the little baby growing in me, wondering how it was doing, reading books, etc, etc. And with this pregnancy I'll be going through the motions of my busy day, waking up, giving ds milkie, cooking breakfast, doing dishes, driving around shopping, etc, and filling the requests of my 2 yr old. And then I'll go, "Oh yeah, that's right, I'm pregnant". :LOL . In one way I like it, because this pregnancy is going by much quicker and before I know it I will have the new babe in my arms.
But it's also almost like I am still in disbelief that I'm actually pregnant again and going to have a new baby in about 5 months! As the pregnancy progresses I do feel more bonded but it's not in the same way...when you are caring for a little one already you just can't spend as much time doing all those things you did before. But remember, it's not quantity, it's quality. So even if it's just passing thoughts throughout the day, you are still thinking of the new baby in your belly and that's what counts .

[zinemama]

Not everyone bonds with - or, to be more accurate, FEELS they are bonding with - their baby while pregnant. Although since many women do, and love to talk about it, it's easy to get the impression that when you don't feel much of anything, you're some kind of freak. You're not. I didn't feel a thing for either of my babies while pregnant, and of course it all changed once they were born, as it will for you. And since you did feel bonded with your first, I'm going to second pp and agree that having one already to care for can really make a difference in the amount of mental attention you can devote to pregnancy. Best wishes!

[Serenity]

it's good to hear that it doesn't have to be the same as the first. I honestly forget about the pregnancy half the time because ds requires so much of me. After ds goes to sleep and I've had a moment to breathe I do think of the baby and hope its ok. I guess I feel like if I don't devote all my energy towards the baby, it won't be ok, but of course my body takes care of everything for me.

[Greensleeves]

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[Serenity]

Yes, we are getting an ultrasound and I will be finding out the sex. Didn't find out with ds so I'm excited about that!