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Do you work outside the home, but still consider yourself a SAHM?

post #1 of 27
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I stay home with ds all week while dh works, (leaves at 7:15 a.m.-home at 5:30.) I leave home around 6:10 p.m. to tutor high school students in math (at their homes.) I'm home by 9:00 p.m. at the latest. This happens 3 nights a week. I have 2 students come to my home Sunday mornings from 10-12 while dh and ds play in the other room.
Before ds was born, I used to leave home at 4:00 p.m. to tutor 5 nights a week, so I've cut back significantly. I still consider myself a SAHM, even though I work outside the home. Any others?
post #2 of 27
post #3 of 27
Good question, because i can relate to *both* the working moms forum and many of the issues the sahm's face.

For many years (10) i worked weekends and nights. I was home all day, all week, and when i wasnt here my husband was.

I now work Thurs & Fri days. I go in a 9am (the ER has staggering shifts), so i get the kids off to school, and do crossing guard before i even get there.

But because i *am* home 5 days a week, i do consider myself more of an at home parent than a working one, at least in the way many people do when they thing of working moms. and i do not struggle with as many of the issues as my working sisters do.

I am very much in betwixt and in between and dont really fit in 100% in either camp. But i certainly sympathize and empathize with both camps of mamas.
post #4 of 27
I am also sort of in-between. I work wed and thursday mornings coordinating special events for a family resource center. But dh stays with ds during those hours. Actually I work really early, so by the time I get home they are both just getting up and around.

Of course then I have to attend the events, and ds comes with me to most of those. I also facilitate a group for children who have witnessed domestic violence, so that is once a week for an hour and a half. ds often comes with me, because the older girls like to take care of him.

So I can definately relate to WOH and SAH issues. Although I often feel I have the best of both worlds, sometimes I get the worst of it too.
post #5 of 27
I am a university student, but I am taking a 3-month break and when I start up again, I am only going to go half-time from now on. Also, I only take classes online or in the evenings so I can be at home, and I have always scheduled classes around dh's work or school so he can be home when I'm not. The kids have never been in someone else's care due to my schooling, so even when in school I consider myself a SAHM.

I also do some weekend volunteer work...

That has become my primary identity - when someone asks what I do or if I work, I don't even mention that I'm a student, I just say I SAH.
post #6 of 27
I work m-f, about 20 hours a week-my DD is w/ her dad 3 of those days adn w/ her dcp at her home 2 of those days. I get off and pick her up by 1:15-so I still feel like I am at home w/ her most of the time. But I still get to deal w/ the work drama...........
post #7 of 27
I work at night about 10 hours a week, as a tutor and teaching SAT prep courses. I need the few hours out of the house to keep sane, and it's really good for DH to spend time alone with Julia-- give him the chance to get to learn how to be a dad without me hanging over him. Also, the extra money is a bonus. I still consider myself a SAHM, though, because I am home during the day.
post #8 of 27
Yes, I work 3-4 days a week. DH comes home from work, we eat dinner, go to park, whatever, then off to work for me. I can be gone anywhere from 20 minutes to 3 hours. It's only right across the street and sometimes DS and DH come with. Then on Sunday's we all clean the place my husband works. I do love the extra money!
post #9 of 27
Yup. I work out of the home about 15 hours a week, but dh is almost always home with them during that time. Its really great to have that extra money, although if dh couldn't be with them, we would probably rearrange things, because it wouldn't be worth it for us to pay a babysitter.
post #10 of 27
I work tuesday nights for 2 hours doing some sign language stuff and then again for two hours Wed afternoon. Occasionally I take short term weekend jobs. I definitely consider myself a SAHM
post #11 of 27
Yup. I work 1-3 days a week at a movie theater (# of shifts depend on how busy the current movies are). I work evenings after my husband is home, but sometimes open on Saturdays because it's less tiring than closing. I definitly still consider myself a SAHM because I'm not gone during most of the times the boys are awake, i'm still their primary caregiver, and my husband is the one who is with them most of the time (if for some reason he can't be home & I have to work we get a family member to watch them).

Example of this weeks shifts - Sat 6:30-10:30. Tuesday 8-12. Next week Tue 8-12.

post #12 of 27
Just want to add a "me too". Until just recently, I was home with DD during the day & DH was with her 3 nights a week & saturdays. Now I'm working during the day with DD with me & a few hours with care providers & working sundays. The times she's with care providers, about 5 hours a week, I think she just thinks they're play dates! She's 4 & has kids about her age to play with. The days she's with me while I work for a Mom, she also just thinks are playdates.

I think a lot of families are doing the split shifts of parents working. And I do feel as if I fit into both the SAHM & WOHM "camps".

post #13 of 27
I work on Sundays at a nursing home while DH stays home with the kids. During the week, I have two houses that I clean for extra $$ and the girls go with me.
post #14 of 27
I teach 2 evenings a week, from 6-9 pm. Dh is home at those times.

I definitely id as a SAHM. Even when I teach my class (ESOL for adults), and we are talking about occupations, I insist that my occupation is Mother--even tho they think of me as a Teacher.
post #15 of 27
I've had a varied work history since dd was born. When she was 2.5 months, I went back to my old job five days a week at reduced hours, about 25-30 hours. I did this because my boss was on her own maternity leave. I quit when she came back because I would have had to go back to full-time. Then I was a full-time SAHM for about three months. A part-time job fell into my lap and I took it. I have been working two days a week for a little over a year (dd is in daycare those two days). Now I am in the process of opening my own web business and quitting my other job. Through all of this, though, I have mostly identified as a SAHM. Interestingly, I think that's partly to do with the fact that I dress casually for my job and I see the other moms dropping their kids off at daycare in suits sometimes.
post #16 of 27
I work Tuesdays and Thursdays from 8:30 am to 12:00 pm and I consider myself a SAHM. Starting in June I will be a full time SAHM Going to miss my job though. I really love it!
post #17 of 27
I do concider myself a SAHM. I work over 40 hours a week, but its at my SIL's housecaring for her 3 children as well as my son. So while I'm working outside of my home, I still spend the day with my son doing our normal day stuff.

If only the pay was better. LOL :
post #18 of 27
I bounce back and forth- share some issues with full time WOHM and full time SAHM.
I work three nights a week- gone from about 4:30 to 10.
post #19 of 27
I often state that I'm a full-time SAHM and a part-time WOHM. I pull 20 hours a week at a local University Library. Most of my hours are on Saturday & Sunday, then I do the rest on Monday evening. So four glorious days at home with my sweeties. Best part .... DH takes care of them while I'm at work (he's a full time WOHD and a part-time SAHD). We even work in the same department of the library, so when semester breaks come up and hours change, our boss is quite obliging in our schedules.

So, I (we) get the added security of an extra bit o' money and I get to use the computer to hang out on MDC

Who's ds would never let her spend this amount of time online without insisting on visiting PBSKIDS.org
post #20 of 27
Yep! I'm very much like you. Dh works during the day and I'm home with dd. 2 nights/week I teach a French class - I leave around 4:30 and am home by 7:30 at the latest. I do consider myself a sahm. I'm home during the day and we can go to the zoo, park, library, mama groups, etc. I feel like I really have the best of both worlds because I can earn a little bit of money to help with expenses - yet dd doesn't have to be in daycare and I'm not away from her too much. Plus I think it's neat that dh and dd have some quality alone time together.
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