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post #21 of 90
We have two, and are pretty much thinking we'll have a third. I love the 3y age spacing between the first two, but don't want to wait that long again (I'm not getting any younger!).

During the day I want the third, and during the night I want my tubes tied.
post #22 of 90
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Originally Posted by ecomommy
Has anyone else gone through this? How many kids do you have or want to have? What is their spacing? How did you decide?
We have one, and are planning on one more. And right now, I'm quietly hoping for a third, but dh is adamantly against it. We'll see... accidents do happen, plus twins run in his family.
And while having a ton of siblings can be crazy, I think it'd be nice to have 2 siblings instead of just one - like dh and I. It also ups our chances of being grandparents.

We're planning on loosely ttc at the end of the summer/early fall - ds is currently 18mo, so he's be around 2yo around time of possible conception. We have season passes to a local theme park, and I'm not missing out on an entire summer of roller coasters. Plus they have a waterpark, and it's hard enough for me to find a non-maternity swimsuit.
But our more concrete reasons are to save up for the homebirth and baby stuff we'll need (small diapers, more things like cloth breast pads and pads for me, maternity clothes, etc.) as well as giving me more time to get into better shape and to keep working on our diet (eating healthier and smarter - we've come a long ways, but there's always room for improvement).

Lanna
post #23 of 90
We'll take what we are given, so far we have 3. We seem to get preggo when the youngest will be 2 years 4 months when the baby is born.
post #24 of 90
I have one child who is now 10 years old. He was a 'surprise'. I didn't plan on having anymore children, until I met my sweetie 6 years ago. Within the last year we have become engaged and are getting married in about 5 months. I was not going to have any more children without being married. So, with saying that we are now talking about 1 year after being married we'll try to have a baby. This is very hard for me because my son is already older! He'll be even older in a year! I have a hard time thinking about that. We are far from a traditional family, I know my son will do well with having a little brother or sister someday. We've thought about adopting or foster parenting also. At this point we are only planning one more child, I'm not getting any younger and am turning 31 in a month. So, If we plan on having another child I really want to do it before I'm 33 or 34.
post #25 of 90
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Originally Posted by Simplicity
I have a hard time thinking about that. We are far from a traditional family, I know my son will do well with having a little brother or sister someday. We've thought about adopting or foster parenting also. At this point we are only planning one more child, I'm not getting any younger and am turning 31 in a month. So, If we plan on having another child I really want to do it before I'm 33 or 34.
Fwiw, when I was growing up, a friend of mine got siblings when he was in middle school (12, 13, 14, I forget - it's been a while). He was from his mom's first marriage, and she didn't get remarried for a while. She and hubby #2 waited a few years, then had two adorable boys. They had a kind of built-in babysitter because my friend was fabulous with his brothers and loved watching them. This also made him somewhat irresistable (did I spell that right?) to girls when he was older.
post #26 of 90
I have two children: a girl age 11, and a boy almost 14. I had my tubes tied when I was 18 I chose to stop at 2 kids because I was very young, single, and had no money whatsoever. Also, birth control didn't work out so great for me lol.
post #27 of 90
I have two, 4 yr old and a 21 month old. I go back and forth all the time, but my husband is completely done! I do enjoy the fact that they are older now and are more independent and we can do lots of fun things together as a family of four at least there is one parent for each. Thinking about the newborn phase puts me back into reality and how much harder it would be with three. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. It's hard when your mind is not made up yet.
post #28 of 90
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Originally Posted by lmonter
Fwiw, when I was growing up, a friend of mine got siblings when he was in middle school (12, 13, 14, I forget - it's been a while). He was from his mom's first marriage, and she didn't get remarried for a while. She and hubby #2 waited a few years, then had two adorable boys. They had a kind of built-in babysitter because my friend was fabulous with his brothers and loved watching them. This also made him somewhat irresistable (did I spell that right?) to girls when he was older.
Thank you for your post. It did give me some hope that my son will adjust just fine. That is my main concern but I know deep down he will so love being a very big brother! He has no other brothers or sisters and I'm afraid to say it will probably still be a long while before his dad has anymore children. I love your story! Thanks for sharing!
post #29 of 90
Right now we have 1 - our 18 mo. dd. Since I was a young child I planned on having two boys and a girl, in that order. Since dd wasn't a boy I kind of had to give up on my plan :LOL but I do kind of still want three kids. For a time after dd was born I thought one more would be enough, but now I am back to thinking about three. We are planning to wait until July 2006 to TTC so they will be about 3.5 years apart.

DH is an only child, and he always envisioned himself w/ one child. We compromised on 2, but he is well aware of my thoughts of three. I want my kids to have family. I have an older sister who is not married and has no kids (and is not very close), so dd needs sibs in order to have a family after we are dead and gone.

It hurts my head to try and figure it all out sometimes. I'm just glad that for the most part, kids tend to come one at a time and you can kind of see how things are before having another.
post #30 of 90
I have four, a 12 year old, a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a 14month old.. and we are done, dh went for his vasectomy last spring. In some ways i would love another baby but im slooowly getting over it Im starting to like the idea of sleeping some year soon.
Tanja
post #31 of 90
We have 2 wonderful, amazing boys. We had always talked about having 3 kids but now that we're living the reality of 2 we are seriously reconsidering having another. I'm just not sure I have the energy. And we live far away from any family support so we don't have any one to turn to when we need a break. So we'll most likely just enjoy being the proud parents of 2 fantastic kids.
post #32 of 90
I have 3 and although I absolutely LOVE to be preg again and I cant imagine not ever having a newborn in the house again, I'm feeling pretty complete these days. But I dont know! I hate saying that b/c I dont WANT to be done, I just have this complete feeling the last couple of months. Ok that probably makes no sense!
post #33 of 90
I have 4 -- 14, 12, 11 and 17 months. My husband just has the one (the last one ) And we're currently undecided on if we'll have another. I'd say we're leaning to having one more, maybe ttc in november.
post #34 of 90
We have two children, ages 2 and 4, and we're pregnant with #3. I think we'll go for four because I want an even number, as silly as that sounds. Some days I think I can't do it, but I try to remember they won't be babies or toddlers forever. One of the biggest reasons that causes me to push ahead is that I want them to have each other to lean on when we are gone.
post #35 of 90
We have two, planning on three.

Dd was unplanned, in the sense that she came about two years earlier than we would have scheduled. We wanted at least 3.5 years between children, ended up at 4.5 years between (and love it!) for various reasons.

If ds had not been a boy, we would have seriously considered stopping at two, because of the potential gender and birth order dynamics that we felt could have been detrimental to both the 2nd child & the 3rd. Since ds is a boy, we're planning to have a third, which is what we always both thought of in an abstract way.

I don't worry about the population issue because I was an only child. I tell myself, I'm only going to 'use' one of the 'slots' my parents didn't. :LOL
post #36 of 90
4. 3 I birthed. I would love more, but dh is done.

I am embarrassed by how much i enjoy babies, kids, teens etc :LOL Seriously. There must be something wrong with me. I mean, all people with brains are bored by kids.

My sister is going to have a babe soon and i am hoping that will do it. She is thinking 2 within 5 yrs. So i figure I have at least 5 to 10 more yrs to indulge this wanton child -caring lust i have. :
post #37 of 90
ya i'm an only, my dad is an only, my dh is an only (and adopted) and my exh is fixed so i console my population worries with that and plus we can't only let the conservatives have all the babies .. i'm doing my part to raise the next gen of liberals
post #38 of 90

Two children

The way I see it is this:

-I have two arms, two breasts
-Dh and I are two people
-Each one will have one sibling
-Family vacation packages come in 4
-Money won't be that tight because it's just two
-It's already hard enough to spend one-on-one time with two, imagine three (for me that's very important).
-Hotels have two double beds

I like the number 2!
post #39 of 90
We have 1, plan to have 1 more. Dh is a bit older than me, and took on fatherhood a bit late in life, so 2 makes sense to us. Also, financially we'd be more comfortable with only 2 college educations to pay for. We won't mind if baby #2 is twins though! :
post #40 of 90
We have two kids now, and all during my second PG we were certain that two was it for us. Now we both feel that we may want a third after all, if/when our financial situation improves. I go through stages where I really want a baby or where I think I'd be crazy to try to add a third child to the mix. For a while I found myself thinking about it every day--do I want another baby or not?--as if I had to decide right that second, which is silly since my fertility has not even returned yet. But I find it hard to not be certain what the plan is. Like we ever are truly in control of "the plan" anyway, LOL! :LOL

Tara
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