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post #1 of 34
Thread Starter 
Since one of our concerns for this board is the topics of discussion being appropriate for the forum intent I thought it would be helpful to give a brief mention of threads that are submitted for posting but are not approved due to the topic being one best suited for another forum. I'll list them here and update regularly in this post.

"I am running out for crafty projects to do with the girls. What types of fun I have a 3 & 5 yo home & 8 in school."

This discussion is better suited for the Crafts forum or maybe the Learning at Home forum as it is a source of activities with children ideas.

"Any SAHM's who are going to college FT?...What things should I keep in mind being a student & a mommy? Was there anything about being in college while parenting a young child that suprised you?"


This discussion is better hosted in the Working Mamas forum which is not only for discussion of employed mothers but also those in school or in other commitments outside the home that keep them from being fulltime SAHMs
post #2 of 34
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A friend of mine flipped out (in a good way) when she heard DH thank me for making dinner. He thanks me every night for making dinner (I cook a fresh meal 5-6 days/wk). She couldn't believe he did that. I also thank him for cutting the lawn or taking out the trash. It's cute b/c now dd will say "Thanks for making supper, mom."

Anyway, we are just polite that way. We thank each other for doing stuff. Does your DP thank you for or acknowledge your work?


This would be a great discussion in Parents as Partners but it's not a topic that is specific to SAHMs.
post #3 of 34
if one submits a thread and it is rejected, does it get posted in the more appropriate forum, or does it get swallowed into the ether? i submitted a thread a little bit ago and i have no idea what happened to it. is it in a queue, was it rejected, was it posted for me elsewhere ... ?
post #4 of 34
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It usually takes 24-48 hours for a thread to be reviewed. I'm posting the unapproved threads here so that members have an idea where they should post their threads instead.
post #5 of 34
Thread Starter 
hi, I am new here also, I am a SAHM to 2 beautiful boys, one in school half day, and the other will be going in 2 years. So nice to hear that I am not the only one who chose to stay at home. I am in a rural area, and it seems that everyone around me, is very career oriented, but my kids are my career. I hope to stay at home with them for like ever, but would also like to make a little extra, anyone have any suggestions for at home work, that is not a con? I tried a coupon processing job, months ago, but I was lucky to get $2/hour, plus the travel to pick them up and drop them off. The only good thing about it was that I would do it after the kids went to bed, but then my husband felt neglected. Any suggestions?

This is a discussion for the WAHM Well where work at home ideas, even those that are a con.
post #6 of 34
Thread Starter 
thread

I thought maybe we could post ideas/tips for things

Like Tired posted for the insurance link

I thought of the mama who said she could not get dental cleaning
Sometimes you can get free cleanings/care from the local dental college if you have on nearby
ditto haircuts if you have a cosmetology school nearby ..

check out the consignment shops nearby
when I was a SP I would take ds clothes and they would give me a choice of the cash or the same amount in "new" clothes for him
it helped a lot


This is a discussion for the general community. I'm starting to see a number of discussions along this line presented as somthing of issue to SAHMs. While it is very likely that it is a SAHM issue for many I think input from the general community in the Mindful Home Management forum would be a wonderful for this discussion.
post #7 of 34
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Okay, maybe I'm making too big a deal of this, but....

I got NOTHING for Mother's Day. Oh wait, let me amend that -- I got a card. Nothing else.

I am senstivie about this because I am someone who is giving up all my former educational and career goals so that my kids aren't put in daycare. And, like the rest of you, I am the one on duty 24/7, 365. I work VERY hard at my job, SAHM-hood. I'm not asking for diamonds, but SOME measure of appreciation would be nice. He got the card last night. It would be nice to know he thought about something nice ahead of time, and took the time to get it for me. Doesn't have to be expensive or anything like that. Just NOT something picked up at the last minute for $1.95.

I'm not a greedy person. But this is the ONE day of the year this job is supposed to be recognized and respected. And I feel like it wasn't. I want my kids to make a big deal out of this day in the future, just I will make sure they make a big deal out of Father's Day.

I feel hurt and unappreciated, this has been like any other day...I've been chasing after my toddler, doing laundry, etc. I would at least like to have some flowers to look up at every once in a while while I sweep the floor!

Sorry if this is a whine, but hey, some appreciation would be nice!!!



This would probably get lots of posts in TAO or Parents as Partners as it's a general topic that all of the community could participate in and mamas other than SAHMs surely have the same vent and would join in for support and words of appreciation.
post #8 of 34
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Originally Posted by Cynthia Mosher
Okay, maybe I'm making too big a deal of this, but....

I got NOTHING for Mother's Day. Oh wait, let me amend that -- I got a card. Nothing else.

I am senstivie about this because I am someone who is giving up all my former educational and career goals so that my kids aren't put in daycare. And, like the rest of you, I am the one on duty 24/7, 365. I work VERY hard at my job, SAHM-hood. I'm not asking for diamonds, but SOME measure of appreciation would be nice. He got the card last night. It would be nice to know he thought about something nice ahead of time, and took the time to get it for me. Doesn't have to be expensive or anything like that. Just NOT something picked up at the last minute for $1.95.

I'm not a greedy person. But this is the ONE day of the year this job is supposed to be recognized and respected. And I feel like it wasn't. I want my kids to make a big deal out of this day in the future, just I will make sure they make a big deal out of Father's Day.

I feel hurt and unappreciated, this has been like any other day...I've been chasing after my toddler, doing laundry, etc. I would at least like to have some flowers to look up at every once in a while while I sweep the floor!

Sorry if this is a whine, but hey, some appreciation would be nice!!!



This would probably get lots of posts in TAO or Parents as Partners as it's a general topic that all of the community could participate in and mamas other than SAHMs surely have the same vent and would join in for support and words of appreciation.
I think this would be a perfect thread to post that would get some traffic and go away in a few days. She is a SAHM that would get flack from parents who are not sahm's. She does not need that- she wants support from other people in her shoes.

Finally you give us the area we have been begging for and make such deals of it. Yes, I understand that some things like the craft thing could go in craft or frugal area whatever. Maybe the sinner in parents but 24/7 means at home don't you think
post #9 of 34
Thread Starter 
Thanks for your input Amy.

This forum is a trial. I have expressed my concerns about opening a SAHM forum and explained them clearly. You can read that in the Questions and Suggestions forum if you care to.

Here my purpose is to explain the reason for choosing to NOT host certain threads in this forum so that it is understood what threads we feel can be hosted here and what topics belong elsewhere in the interest of the community as a whole. I'm sure some will disagree with my reasoning but please try to appreciate that one of the things we do NOT want here is to host threads that are very much an entire community issue and not specific to a SAHM. That is the criteria for discussions here - topics that address issues very specifc to a SAHM, things that non-SAHMs do not usually experience.

The wording of your last sentence is confusing. If you'd care to further explain please PM it to me or take your post to the Questions and Suggestions forum. I would like this thread to be used for the purpose I opened it and not to debate the decisions I have made here. Thanks!
post #10 of 34
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Originally Posted by Amys1st
I think this would be a perfect thread to post that would get some traffic and go away in a few days. She is a SAHM that would get flack from parents who are not sahm's. She does not need that- she wants support from other people in her shoes.

Finally you give us the area we have been begging for and make such deals of it. Yes, I understand that some things like the craft thing could go in craft or frugal area whatever. Maybe the sinner in parents but 24/7 means at home don't you think
sorry I was typing and doing 2 other things when posting kwim?

I meant 24/7 means sahm- I think it belongs right here.
Cynthia I don't mean to give you any trouble- I totally appreciate getting this area and understand its a trial basis. I only hope that other new areas also get trial basis as well. I doubt you will get much trouble here. Peace
post #11 of 34
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As I said I don't want to use this thread to discuss the matter. If you feel it's an isue that nees discussion please post to the Q&S board.
post #12 of 34
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i hope it's okay i post this here, but since i know there's some mamas here using government aid, maybe you can give me some advice?

long story short: i had my pg test done at the health dept and after it came back positive i was directed to talk to a caseworker about getting on WIC, foodstamps and medicaid. i talked to her and she was very nice but not very clear about what exactly i needed to do to apply, etc. i left with an appointment made at the foodstamps office which i later had to cancel because i didn't have a ride. as i did my own research, i realized i needed a whole lot of paperwork, (birth certif., etc.) to sign up for stuff, none of which i had. i've been trying to track this stuff down and will be picking up the last of my stuff on sunday so i figured monday i'd call and try to straighten things out.

SO, today, i get a call from a social worker who said she needed to see me and wanted to know if i could come there or she should COME TO MY HOME... i said i could come there, no problem and started to explain what had happened, thinking she was there to help me sort out the ins and outs of the system and how to get the benefits i needed. she gave me the number for someone else to help me with that part and said she wasn't really the person who knew about those things. i told her i'd never done this before and straight out asked her why she needed to see me and what we'd talk about and she totally dodged the question, directed the conversation elsewhere and i got off the phone not really knowing why i need to see her at all. she made it sound like if i didn't go talk to her, she was going to come to me regardless, which i'm not terribly comfortable with. so my question is, have any of you had to go talk to someone like this? what did they want? my guess is since our income is so low that statistically we fall into tons of high-risk categories and it's her job to make sure that there's no domestic abuse, we have enough food, etc. thoughts, experiences, advice would be much appreciated. thanks mamas.


This is something that the general community can participate in discussion of as government aid and benefits is not a SAHM specific topic. This could go to Mindful Home Management or TAO.

I just got done reading the poor SAHM thread, but wasn't sure if my questions would fit so I'm starting a new one.

Our situation has more to do with the area we are living in. All of our family is around here- my whole support system. But, we live in the Seattle/Tacoma area where a starter house is over $200K, and with that said I think if we stay here we will be renting our entire lives. My DH makes what I consider a good enough income, but he is always stressed because it doesn't stretch far in the local economy and we never seem to get "ahead". I think this has a lot to do with my BIL making a six figured income at Mircrosoft so they can "afford" to live here and buy pretty much whatever they want/need.

Anybody else feel torn between living somewhere to be near family or other important places and moving so that the financial burden will be eased a bit? Being a SAHM is a point that is non-negotiable for us... but it is hard just squeezing by in a part of the country where you drive by affluent people everyday. I'm always stunned by all the new developments with houses starting in the $300K range and I wonder how on earth people make enough money to do that... Of course, there aren't many SAHM that I know of... which to me is sad... sorry to blab... :


I can see how this might be an issue for many SAHMs but discussion of moving to live closer to family and being able to get ahead and afford to purchase a home is a discussion the general community can participate in. Perhaps Parenting Issues, if talking about moving closer to family, would be a good place for this, or the Miindful Home Management forum.

Hello all! I am trying to learn to be an AP mom (not easy being raised by a CIO mother myself) and I have some questions about how you SAH-AP Moms play with your children...especially crawlers and walkers. Do you let them play on the floor with toys? Or do you just hold them all the time? What interaction (besides feedings) do you do all day?

This is a discussion for all moms and would do well in one of the age-focus forums - Life With a Babe or Toddlers - depending on the age of the child.


I know this is a weight question, but the problem is mainly b/c I am a SAHM. I graze & eat all day, without realizing it generally, and I'm heavier now than I've ever been! : When I had my daughter, I went back to school within a couple of months, then school and work - I was only a SAHM with her in the summer and for a few months when I was on assistance, and I did gain weight then too. I lost it all when I went back to college. I'm not about to quit being a SAHM just so I can lose weight again. How do you keep your weight down when you're home all day? I've tried doing my sewing etc., but when I'm chasing a crawling baby it's a bit hard to really get into it. :LOL


Fitness and Weight Management can certainly host this as a general community discussion. Non-SAHMs may have some very good advice.

DS is 2 years and 9 months and has been in a great daycare for a year now. My job ended at the end of Jan. and then I had dd at the end of Feb., and we've kept ds in daycare to keep his routine going and give him something to do besides sit around and watch me nurse dd all day. :LOL But since I don't have a job to go back to, ds is going to leave daycare at the end of May.

Should I have a going-away party for him at daycare? Should I talk about leaving school or just let it go? DS is happy to go to school, happy to stay home...I really have no idea whether he will miss it or not.

Any thoughts or experience?


Not quite sure where this should go but it is clearly not a SAHM specific discussion. Perhaps the Toddler's forum? Or maybe the Working Moms forum where most of the daycare discussions are hosted would be a good place.
post #13 of 34
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Interesting, informative, helpful. Thanks for taking the time to do this Cynthia.






(Did that sound like a book review? : )
post #14 of 34
why not just move the threads to the forums they are more relevant in?
that way, the person posting the thread still has a chance to get responses, even though it may not be in this forum?
post #15 of 34
That's what I thought at first too UP but I know one of the reasons they were hesitating w/this forum was the worry of OT threads. The whole (main) reason they're moderating it is to avoid having to move threads. I was thinking that since Cynthia posts them here they can copy and paste and start their thread in the appropriate forum.
post #16 of 34
Righto. It is also a chance for all of us, myself included, to learn what is appropriate before the forum becomes unmoderated (of course not totally unmoderated, you know what I mean). Eventually, original threads won't have to be approved then those threads would get moved.
post #17 of 34
Thread Starter 
how to find a way to sit down and eat dinner at table
hi all,
i have a dilema, u see hubby and i always eat dinner after we put kay to bed. and we usually end up sitting on couch in living room and eating. I really wnat to start having the family dinner with kaylee. But it is hard like another mom mentioned my hubby works different hrs and is not always home at the same time for dinner. so how do u all get the chance to sit down and eat dinner at the dinner table.
I need some advice becuase i really want to do this.


This is likely an issue that other non-SAHMs face as well and can be discussed in Parents as Partners or Parenting Issues for general community input.


What Does Your DP Do?
I'm just curious what other SAHP's partners do. My dh is a pharmacist...not the most exciting profession but it provides a comfortable salary.


This should be a discussion for the Parents as Partners forum for general community input. If there's a specific reason for limiting this to SAHMs the OP can contact me to clarify or can post a new thread of more specific SAHM focus.
post #18 of 34

Emergency Plans

My dh and I are working on our "emergency" plans. What this is for us, is if the unthinkable happens, and one of us dies, what do we need the other person to know to make their lives "easier".

For instance, I've asked dh to help me make a folder with copies of ALL our important paperwork, insurance policies, deeds, credit card info, etc. We are also including our advance directives, medical powers of atty, and our wishes SPELLED OUT and notarized LOL... just in case.

But there are also a LOT of other things we need to know. Like, if my dh dies suddenly, I want a step by step plan I can follow in a time of turmoil when I know I won't have the stability of mind to make good decisions. I want to be free to "not think" as much as possible. Same for dh. If I were to drop dead, what would he want/need to know to keep the home running smoothly??

So, what sorts of stuff should I tell dh? He's making me a list of stuff that he wants me to include, but I'm more interested in the stuff that he doesn't even *know* that he'll need to know... stuff like, don't buy FOTL underpants because they chafe ds's bits ;-) or, washing instructions for the cloth dipes.... you know, the *important* stuff.

Any ideas?


As Cynthia said previously,
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This is likely an issue that other non-SAHMs face as well and can be discussed in Parents as Partners or Parenting Issues for general community input.
post #19 of 34
Biting...

I have no idea where to post this so I will start here....
My 3 yo dd has decided to take up biting. I think it actaully started with my 4yo who was biten by a friend a while back and she bit the 3 yo once. Well Now my 3yo is always biting my 16 month old. I have NO idea how to handle this. I was so proud my kids never went thru biting. I thought that happened earlier in life. But here I am with a major biter

I will not do what most will tall me like bte her otr hit her but I have no diea how to get her to stop. she is a very strong willed sprited little girl, and nothing bothers her. If I have her go lay on her bed if she chooses not to help. she doeesnst care, and if i put her in the corner wiht her nose on the wall. she doesnt care, if i take her blankie away she doenst care. ( please dont yell at me for how i have tried ot handle her ) Nothing Phases her...

Please help....


This belongs in Gentle Discipline. This is not a topic that only pertains to SAHMs.
post #20 of 34
The "Queen of your castle" thread was not approved because of copyright violations.
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