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post #41 of 68
Arms the size of a T-Rex? What am I missing? :
post #42 of 68
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Originally Posted by Starr
Arms the size of a T-Rex? What am I missing? :
I didn't get it either.... I had to ask dh : He clued me in. There was no question to him..... but that's just the way guys think, I guess. :LOL

Have I posted anything here yet? I can't remember. But I do want to say that I hope my kids will be so open with me - and I think they will. Anything else I could say has already been said. But yeah, I'm embarassed to buy condoms too, espially being 'young looking' and having kids. But that doesn't mean I shouldn't be having sex!!
post #43 of 68
LOl Well, i also wrote that in a gramatically incorrect way, so it seemed that I was saying a there is a reason a person might not have arms the size of a T- rex body. Fast typing will be my down fall, i swear.

So what i really meant was -- there is a reason you don't have the arms of a T Rex. I can do a funny visual of a T -rex by moving my arms in the air way up near my chin next time you're in town.

There. Clear as mud.

I have a bunch of these. My kids' least fav for me to say when I am trying to pull rank is, 'If you didn't need parents, you would have been born a sea turtle". (Yk, how the mommy turtles just lay eggs and go back out to sea.

Footage of baby turtles racing deperately to the surf only to get eaten by brids is soooo sad.
post #44 of 68
I aggree with pp's that your son just wants to talk to you about sex.

I also wanted to throw out there that boys should not only know how to put on a condom, but also "practice" with them a few times before the main event.

Lots of boys loose their erections (hard to beleive I know) when they put on a condom to have sex. This can lead to not bothering to use one. Practicing (masturbating) with a condom on can help a boy get ready for the new sensations.

Sorry for the graphic post- but I know this is an issue. You don't want your kid deciding in the heat of the moment that it's just not worth it. (Perhaps more out of embarrassment than anything else.)
post #45 of 68
when i was first sexually active my then fourteen year old boyfriend had no problem talking to his mom about sex or buying his own condoms. my 31 year old husband? will *not* do it. went without sex for two months rather than buy condoms.
post #46 of 68
haven't read all the responses, but I would get them for him but encourage him to be the one who walks into the store to buy them. I don't know why this makes a difference in my mind, but it's what I plan to with my DS if he ever asks.

I think I would be different with my daughters, and would actually buy them for them, no questions asked.

of course we all want our kids to wait... but they won't necessarily. I want mine to wait for STD safety issues and emotional issues... but of course it is not my choice. I
post #47 of 68
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Originally Posted by mommyofshmoo
I aggree with pp's that your son just wants to talk to you about sex.

I also wanted to throw out there that boys should not only know how to put on a condom, but also "practice" with them a few times before the main event.

Lots of boys loose their erections (hard to beleive I know) when they put on a condom to have sex. This can lead to not bothering to use one. Practicing (masturbating) with a condom on can help a boy get ready for the new sensations.

Sorry for the graphic post- but I know this is an issue. You don't want your kid deciding in the heat of the moment that it's just not worth it. (Perhaps more out of embarrassment than anything else.)

Great post! Never thought of that before!

I also wanted to comment that I will buy condoms rather than make my ds do it. Dd too! Just my .02, but if they were comfortable purchasing them in the first place, they would. I would also rather not take a chance on ds simply not using them. This probably isn't even relevant, but would you make your son buy a cup or jock strap? Does he have to buy his own deodorant? I realize that these things are sorta out of step with condoms, but my point is the embarassment issue....

JMHO
post #48 of 68
First of all, I want to pat you on teh back that your son trusts you enough and feels comfortable enough with you to be so honest and open.

Second, I want to pat your son on the back for being smart and wanting to practice safe sex.

While the idea of a 15 year old, especially when it is your own... having sex makes you want to squirm and/or cry... the reality is the vast majority of kids are going to have sex when they choose to have sex, be it at 15 or 25.
post #49 of 68
Take him with you to the store to buy the condoms, discuss the differences between the different types/sizes with him, and let him pick them out. Ignore the looks you get from the other folks in the sotre.
post #50 of 68
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Originally Posted by mmmummy
why does this post seem very..trollish to me?
What does "trollish" mean?
post #51 of 68

Trollish

Noticing that the OP, joined in April, has made only two posts, both on this subject and has disappeared. Good topic but I agree trollish.
post #52 of 68

disagree

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Originally Posted by Coffee Mom
Noticing that the OP, joined in April, has made only two posts, both on this subject and has disappeared. Good topic but I agree trollish.

I don't think she's being trollish. Maybe she doesn't have anything else to say. There are a lot of times I read through forums and don't post anything. There's so much in MDC already that almost everything is redundant.

~Nay
post #53 of 68
I have three sons and have imagined that in a few years (probably less) I will have a candy dish full of condoms sitting on the buffet. I suppose the basket under their sink is a little more discrete.

I recently went to learn about how to use them........I was amazed at how clueless I was. Did you know there is a certain way to open them.......so as not to rip/tear them; and that they shouldn't touch them to get them off........recommendation is to pee them off, or have the female take it off as it is her fluids! I swear this was a HUGE eye opener for me.

Anyway, my point is that we should not assume they know how to use them PROPERLY or that even we are the ones to teach them. The first thing I am planning on doing when they ask for condoms is to take them to the person who taught me.

p.s. can anyone give me a clue as to where I can find a list of abbreviations that might help me read these forums. THANKS ! ~ Cathy
post #54 of 68
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Originally Posted by AntoninBeGonin
I don't think she's being trollish. Maybe she doesn't have anything else to say. There are a lot of times I read through forums and don't post anything. There's so much in MDC already that almost everything is redundant.

~Nay
So, a troll is somebody who posts only once or twice and disappears?

Truth be told FOR ME -- I don't think the OP was a mother/parent. I think razzledbrat is a teen. Course, I have a suspicious/investigative mind, but after reading the whole thread (as well as the update), that's what I think.
post #55 of 68
Just wanted to share a bit of info in regards to PP.

When I was undergoing IVF, I had to have a lot of vaginal ultrasounds. I made a joke to my RE about IVF being so expensive because they use so many Trojan condoms. Why not use cheaper ones and save us all some bucks.

He chuckled and said they used to buy them in bulk from PP but they had troubles with the condoms breaking.

That scared the heck out of me. It also might explain my first pregnancy at 16. Condoms, from PP. It broke.

I'm not trying to bash PP as they are a great group. I went back there to get on the pill. But I would be leary of telling kids to get condoms there.

I just took my son to the store after we had talked. I let him pick the ones he wanted and off we went to pay.

He repaid the kindness by going to buy my HPT later on down the road. LOL

Janis
post #56 of 68
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Originally Posted by mommaToad
I have three sons and have imagined that in a few years (probably less) I will have a candy dish full of condoms sitting on the buffet. I suppose the basket under their sink is a little more discrete.

I recently went to learn about how to use them........I was amazed at how clueless I was. Did you know there is a certain way to open them.......so as not to rip/tear them; and that they shouldn't touch them to get them off........recommendation is to pee them off, or have the female take it off as it is her fluids! I swear this was a HUGE eye opener for me.

Anyway, my point is that we should not assume they know how to use them PROPERLY or that even we are the ones to teach them. The first thing I am planning on doing when they ask for condoms is to take them to the person who taught me.

p.s. can anyone give me a clue as to where I can find a list of abbreviations that might help me read these forums. THANKS ! ~ Cathy

Pee them off? where? you aren't supposed to flush them down the toilet, ESP if you have a septic system. Yikes, why not just wash your hands after?
post #57 of 68
I grew up in a small town in the midwest (ie everyone went to church or at least said they did :LOL ) and you couldn't sneeze on one side of town without everyone on the other side of town knowing about it the next day. I can totally understand why some teens wouldn't want to be the ones to buy the condoms. Even if his/her parents were cool with them buying them, one tends to gain a reputation quickly (um, ask me how I know that one...I wasn 't embarrassed to buy condoms and actually bought them for a lot of my friends). It wasn 't even the highschool kids who had issues with it...it was their parents who were convinced I was going straight to hell. I hope my girls feel comfortable coming to me with such issues when they're ready. I will talk to them about waiting, but I realize I can't make those decisions for them, so I'd rather they be safe and protected if they make that choice.
post #58 of 68
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Originally Posted by Curious Me
So, a troll is somebody who posts only once or twice and disappears?

Truth be told FOR ME -- I don't think the OP was a mother/parent. I think razzledbrat is a teen. Course, I have a suspicious/investigative mind, but after reading the whole thread (as well as the update), that's what I think.
No, from what I understand a troll is someone who posts something just to get a rise out of people. For example if I went to the Gentle Discipline boards and made up a story about how people in Canada are required to beat their children with rakes 2ce a month or go to jail. Or something similarly stupid.

~Nay
post #59 of 68
I don't have a teen yet, but I do have two boys (oldest is almost 6) so I've read this entire thread with interest and also fear,lol. I've still got time, but dh & I should probably talk about how we'll approach this time with our boys and how we'll handle it. You seasoned Mamas are defintiely giving me some good ideas (and making me think about it). So thanks for that. And I'll keep coming here every now and then. Help preparing for a teenager,lol.
post #60 of 68
Any condom is better than no condom, and yes, condoms break. it is a fact of life. However, it does not really matter where you get them. They are all tested and made well. They have to be. Be on the safe side and don't get any condom "thin for enhanced sensation" because they are bound to be more apt to break.

On the other hand, I have a friend who is a professional theatrical makeup artist, and one of the most popular tools of the trade is a condom. Just fill it with a little of the "fake blood mix", and put it under a shirt. When the blast cap goes off, the shirt busts, and the condom breaks all over. They use condoms over any other aparatus BECAUSE they break so easily.
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