about praise

[theycallmelisa]

I was just reading the "good job" threads and im wondering if someone could explain this to me, or direct me to a post/article that does... ive never heard of praising in that way to be a bad thing, and am interested in finding out why it is.

thanks

[Daffodil]

Try this article:

http://www.naturalchild.org/robin_gr...ds_praise.html

[mightymoo]

Here is an article Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" by Alfie Kohn, author of Punished by Rewards:

http://www.alfiekohn.org/parenting/gj.htm