Do you socialize with the EX at family functions? - Page 2

[oldcrunchymom]

My ex and I get along now and he comes to family events and stuff like that. Sometimes (not often) he and I will take the kids somewhere together. And he comes over here to watch the Super Bowl. However, it took 4 years to get to the point where I actually feel comfortable with him in the same room and be friendly with him again. Our breakup was stressful to say the least, but for the sake of the kids we managed to forgive and forget.

[yaM yaM]

Originally Posted by SillyTreeFairy

May May, did you ever tell him that you don't appreciate those comments and find them a poor example for him to set for your dd? Or did you just decide that there wasn't any point?

I did. . . . many times, in fact. We've had this 'That's Setting a Bad Example for Her/ That's Hurtful to Her' battle sooo many times in her ten years of life. (Almost every time, it's referring to how he talks about me to her behind my back or how he talks to me in person, sometimes in front of our dd.) He'll play along like he agrees with me or understands, at least, when I tell him. But then he'll just go behind my back and say "your mom is uptight" and "she thinks she knows everything" and "your mom is very controlling" to our dd. . . . sigh. . . .



Of course~
My dd and I do a lot of verbal processing about all this