when would you allow your DD hair removal?

[huggerwocky]

I am asking because my daughter is now 8 and has discovered that she is hairy.Ever since she's been a baby she had this little down on her lower back and later developed lots of black hair on her arms.

She said : I am hairy, but it's not bad, right?Papa is hairy,too! :LOL ( now that's right)

I do think though that she'll get to the point where she'd at least want the hair on the back removed.When would you say should I allow that?I mean, she might just come after this summer, who knows?!

[milk_maker]

Make a weak lemon juice mix with water, put it in a spray bottle, and spritz her hairy spots before she goes in the sun. The hair will bleach out and no one will see it. Peroxide works too.

[huggerwocky]

That would work on the arms but seriously, she does have a hairy lower back, it's thick enough to be seen even with blond hair.

[Persephone]

Yes, I'd let my dd get hair removal. If she wanted it. Kids can be really cruel, and I'd rather save her the humiliation.

[zo's ma]

Originally Posted by huggerwocky

That would work on the arms but seriously, she does have a hairy lower back, it's thick enough to be seen even with blond hair.

Are you thinking electrolisis??? My dd's lower back is pretty hairy too, but she's not even 3 yet. I think if my dd were really bothered by it I'd have something done about it...maybe once she's a teenager.

[prmom]

Coming from someone who personally has experience with a hairy lower back, mine was down hair from birth too...I would allow my dd to do something once it becomes something she is aware of and wants it done. Just help her choose to do something that won't make it come back worse. Nairing or waxing would be optimal. I remember my mom doing that when I was in Jr. high, but I think until then I just wore things that didn't reveal that part of my body.

Truth be told I wish it just didn't matter, but unfortunately it seems to.

[zo's ma]

Originally Posted by Persephone

Yes, I'd let my dd get hair removal. If she wanted it. Kids can be really cruel, and I'd rather save her the humiliation.

ITA!

[KoalaMommy]

I thought maybe you were talking about shaving legs, which I view kinda like make-up, in which case I'd say 13ish, but really dark hair in other places that was embarrassing or opening her up to teasing, I'd allow that earlier if she asked.

[huggerwocky]

Originally Posted by zo's ma

Are you thinking electrolisis??? My dd's lower back is pretty hairy too, but she's not even 3 yet. I think if my dd were really bothered by it I'd have something done about it...maybe once she's a teenager.

No, I'd consider Laser actually.I was thinking teenager age,too, but if she is really bothered I have to admit I'd have it done earlier.

I must have done soemthing right though that she still just brushes it away even though other kids have told her that she has hairy arms ( don't think they've seen her back )

[huggerwocky]

Originally Posted by KoalaMommy

I thought maybe you were talking about shaving legs, which I view kinda like make-up, in which case I'd say 13ish, but really dark hair in other places that was embarrassing or opening her up to teasing, I'd allow that earlier if she asked.

surprisingly enough, the hair on her legs is normal dark blonde and not a lot of it either. Whatever happened i wonder?

[UnschoolnMa]

My Dd is going to be 12 this year and she has considered shaving, but hasnt done it yet. Her leg hair is still really light. It's up to her really. If her hair had been dark or bothersome to her at 8 I would let her remove it.

[fluffernutter]

Originally Posted by prmom

I would allow my dd to do something once it becomes something she is aware of and wants it done. Just help her choose to do something that won't make it come back worse. Nairing or waxing would be optimal. I remember my mom doing that when I was in Jr. high, but I think until then I just wore things that didn't reveal that part of my body.

Truth be told I wish it just didn't matter, but unfortunately it seems to.

I agree.

[huggerwocky]

Originally Posted by prmom

Coming from someone who personally has experience with a hairy lower back, mine was down hair from birth too...I would allow my dd to do something once it becomes something she is aware of and wants it done. Just help her choose to do something that won't make it come back worse. Nairing or waxing would be optimal. I remember my mom doing that when I was in Jr. high, but I think until then I just wore things that didn't reveal that part of my body.

Truth be told I wish it just didn't matter, but unfortunately it seems to.

Yes, it does matter.I never would have thought that 8!! year olds comment on hairy arms.I was thinking a permanent removal for the lower back would be more optimal because once you're done with it, you're done and it it is cheaper than waxing it for years which she would have to do ( or do you mean to say it wouldn't come back?)

[stayinghome]

My daughter was 10 when she started to want to shave. I talked to her about how it's perfectly acceptable NOT to shave at all, and that many women don't. However, she still wanted to so I let her. It's her body, kwim?

[Jennifer Z]

I would go the permanent route rather than mess with waxing and such. Right as I hit puberty, my mom took me in to have elecrolysis on my unibrow and moustache. I was young enough that I didn't really care about it yet, and didn't really have issues with it, but issues certainly would have developed if I would not have had it done. I am very glad I never had to deal with that stuff. I still have a few stray hairs here and there, but it is easy to tweeze.

I plan on taking my ds to have the unibrow taken care of when he gets old enough to hold still. Dh has to shave in between his eyes regularly and often has ingrown hair there (plus, it is dark, so he can get a 5 o'clock shadow thing going on there sometimes). I do not want him to suffer because he has hairy parents and unibrow genes. :LOL

[Jen123]

My dd is ten and just this year asked to remove her leg hair before summer. I allowed it , much to my mother's chagrin.

I say if she wants her hair removed let her. Kids can be soooo cruel.

Jen
wanted to shave at ten but was told NO.

[PoppyMama]

If it bothers her I would go the permanent route on the lower back. I would do laser instead of electrolysis though. I also wouldn't buy the package for laser because one or two treatments may get it to a place she can be happy but you will probably be told that she needs five. Good luck.

[AngelBee]

I agree with pps.

I've been plucking my eyebrows since I was 8 or 9 because I felt they were bushy. I would have been horrified if my mom would have said no.

[Ruthla]

I will DEFINITELY talk to my girls about the option of "staying naturally hairy" but I will allow them to remove hair from legs or wherever if they begin to feel uncomfortable about it. I'd probably get an electric shaver for a preteen/teen- less painful than waxing and safer than disposable razors.

I've never had to deal with a child with a hairy back, but honestly, I don't see how my daughters are ever "exposing" their lower backs anyway.

[neveryoumindthere]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

I've never had to deal with a child with a hairy back, but honestly, I don't see how my daughters are ever "exposing" their lower backs anyway.

thats what i was thinking. if it's cuz others might tease her i dont really get when her back would be exposed in the first place.

i guess for me its not really an issue since we cover almost totally anyway except around other females and male family members, so if it bothered her for whatever reason, she could do it whenever she could do 'it'(whatever type of removal she chooses) herself