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post #21 of 38
4/27/05 at 6:40pm
Ok, I must really be behind the times. Is lazering a modern equivelent to electrolysis? Is is perm.? painful?
post #22 of 38
4/27/05 at 6:41pm
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Originally Posted by Ruthla
I've never had to deal with a child with a hairy back, but honestly, I don't see how my daughters are ever "exposing" their lower backs anyway.
Swimsuit, maybe?
post #23 of 38
4/27/05 at 6:45pm
I have a hairy body. My mom didnt let me shave until I was 13. The hair on my back is blond, and noone even notices it, and if they do. I dont care. I have super black hairy arms...It is natural and it grows that way. I had a few other girls in my class that were hairy. As for the shaving the legs thing, I would take my dd to get her legs waxed. I have a freind whos mom was an esitician(sp) and she had my friends legs waxed 5 times and the hair never grew back. It might hurt a little, but she never had to shave again in her life, its been about 15 years now.

darkstar
post #24 of 38
4/27/05 at 6:53pm
Laser hair removal is supposed to be perm. but who knows. It appears to permanently reduce hair growth pretty well and is less tedious and uncomfortable than electrolysis but not pain-free. Waxing does reduce hair growth but is not even in the same ball park for reduction as laser. I am an aesthetician/esthetician and went to school in L.A. with a lot of women who had started waxing very young (family/cultural) and by the time they were in their early 20's the new growth was much less than it would have been and the discomfort level during waxing was pretty nonexistent. Some people are luckier in the reduction department than others and hormonal hair growth is impossible to control totally with any method. I generally fall into it is their body I will follow their lead camp.
post #25 of 38
4/27/05 at 6:58pm
I was teased and beyond for being hairy as a child and mom wouldn't let me do anything about it. I don't want my girls to go through that. I think when they are old enough to know what they are doing and be responsible for it, they should be able to do hair removal. (of course 20 years later and I'm a mostly hairy gal by choice, but it doesn't bother me as much now to have people say stuff about it).
post #26 of 38
4/27/05 at 8:09pm
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Ruthla
I will DEFINITELY talk to my girls about the option of "staying naturally hairy" but I will allow them to remove hair from legs or wherever if they begin to feel uncomfortable about it. I'd probably get an electric shaver for a preteen/teen- less painful than waxing and safer than disposable razors.

I've never had to deal with a child with a hairy back, but honestly, I don't see how my daughters are ever "exposing" their lower backs anyway.
she's not going bare bellied either, but the t-shirt does slide up while playing which I guess seems to be enough for other children to notice.
post #27 of 38
4/27/05 at 8:12pm
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Jennifer Z
Ok, I must really be behind the times. Is lazering a modern equivelent to electrolysis? Is is perm.? painful?

Well, I inquired and it is not suppsed to be painful and it is permanent.

see here
post #28 of 38
4/27/05 at 8:13pm
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Wabi Sabi
Swimsuit, maybe?
That, too

She takes swimming classes.
post #29 of 38
4/27/05 at 10:00pm
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Originally Posted by Persephone
Yes, I'd let my dd get hair removal. If she wanted it. Kids can be really cruel, and I'd rather save her the humiliation.


One of my piano students (she's 10) has this tuft of hair growing on her adam's apple and her mom is really worried about this very same thing. She has dark hair and so the hair on her arms and legs is dark but not so noticeable. However, it's very noticeable on her neck. And, kids are already being cruel to her about it.
post #30 of 38
4/27/05 at 10:24pm
Kids can be horrible. If it's something that I can do to make the transition from "everyone's opinion matters" to "I don't care what others think" easier, I will be all over it. My friend's daughter has a hairy back. She's darker skinned, with dark hair and eyes, it's very noticable in a bathing suit or even a tank top. They already joke about her laser treatment fund.

My mom gave me hell about wearing a bra (seriously everyone else had one, just not me) and shaving my legs. She didn't get that to me, it really was the end of the world. So what if she didn't shave, I wanted to! If letting my kids do something that I don't understand but is very important to them makes their teen years a little easier, I promise I'll do it. It's hard enough to fit in without being the hairy girl.
post #31 of 38
4/27/05 at 10:30pm
As a hairy person- who has had problems with it- since childhood- I commend you so much for talking to your daughter about this and taking her seriously.
Having hair on your legs is different- than having it in places that many girls do not have it that thick.
I still to this day am very self conscience about it and wish i had it removed.
Now I have to save and save and maybe someday!!!
I would reccomend taking her . I wish my mom had showed concern about how I felt.
It is really tough to be the hairy girl. She will have enough of a chance to go thru teen struggles without this battle.
Good for you mama
Emilie
post #32 of 38
4/27/05 at 11:03pm
My sister gets laser hair removal almost everywhere she has hair, except for her head. Personally, I think she has went a *little* overboard because I don't think arms look natural with no hair on them, but it's her choice and her money and I'm behind her 100%.

The laser is slightly to moderately painful according to her. She has done her upper lip, her underarms, her entire arms her entire legs and her bakini area. She has the initial thing done and then goes back once a month for a touch-up. After about 6 months of this, she can go every 2 months and then only once or twice a year. It is pretty expensive. She and her dh don't want kids yet, so she is trying to do all she can now while the extra money is more plentiful.

I think it is so nice to hear a girl's feelings being taken into consideration. When I was a kid and had horribly dark hairy legs, my mother thought I was too young to shave. I must have been 11 when I finally got the razor and did it myself and cut my legs all up . If I ever have a dd, I will let her shave at whatever age the hair begins to bother her (within reason, of course).
post #33 of 38
4/27/05 at 11:17pm
Moving this to Preteens and Teens...
post #34 of 38
4/27/05 at 11:18pm
Dd is 10 and hairy, legs, arms, pits, pubes, and has been for years, but the only thing she has ever asked to shave is her pits, which we have allowed. I think I want her to wax her legs when the time comes, rather than shave.
post #35 of 38
4/28/05 at 2:23am
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Originally Posted by HeatherE
My daughter was 10 when she started to want to shave. I talked to her about how it's perfectly acceptable NOT to shave at all, and that many women don't. However, she still wanted to so I let her. It's her body, kwim?

I agree 100%. DD started being bothered by it at around age 9. I didn't let her shave because I felt she was too young. I tried to tell her it wasn't a big deal but she was so bothered by it she stopped wearing shorts (she'd wear pants in 103 degree weather) so at 10 I started letting her.
post #36 of 38
4/28/05 at 2:26am
Over in the hairy mamas tribe http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...d.php?t=244711, we're trying to blaze a trail to a new world where women are free to remove their body hair or not, as they please, and where hair on women will be as much a non-issue as hair on men.
But sadly this world doesn't exist yet and it could be hard to be made fun of. If this happens, maybe she'll want to remove the hair, or maybe she'll brush off any remarks. I'd follow her lead and if she really wants to get it taken off then help her find a good way to do it. Maybe waxing? (This may sound crazy but I'm thinking nothing totally permanent because what if she decides when she's older she likes the natural hairy look?)
Sounds like she's cool with it so far, if she said "I'm hairy but that's not bad, right?" so I'd just wait and keep an eye out and be ready to offer whatever support she needs. Just like you are already doing! As for age, she's eight already, I'd say anytime now if she starts to think it's really important.

Jen
post #37 of 38
4/28/05 at 5:45pm
Yes, when I was 10 I started getting pubic hair, and armpit hair. Then the hair on my legs got dark and thick. My mom said I was too young to be shaving, but I got teased so horribly that I wouldn't wear shorts or skirts anymore...finally I just snuck her razor and did it anyway.

-Heather
post #38 of 38
5/9/05 at 8:51pm
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Originally Posted by Persephone
Yes, I'd let my dd get hair removal. If she wanted it. Kids can be really cruel, and I'd rather save her the humiliation.

I absolutely agree.
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