Can someone please explain to me what is going on here? - Page 8

[Meisubaby]

I wasn't trying to be rude and typing a message is hard to make a tone.Things can be misconstrued easily in typing because you can't hear the person saying it or see their body language.I am not all hot and hostile just simply stating how I feel.Its all good anyone can buy whatever they want its true.Its how you treat others that can leave a bad taste in your mouth.Speaking in general not at any one person.

[Ravenmoon]

Alot of things can be really misconstrued if i have not had my morning coffee :LOL

[Meisubaby]

Oh I forgot to address a comment that was made to me.someone said they are glad I see sold out at sites.If thats not greed then what is? I am not looking to buy a ton of diapers from one site all once I simply want to try one of everything till I find some cute printed ones that work for us in addition to my plain Wonderoos.I think the prints are adorable but Wonderoos only made a few printed ones in boy colors and they are no longer made or sold.With the exception of ebay every blue moon.I didn't come to this site thinking I am going to snatch stuff from people who buy from places on a regular basis.I came here to learn more about CDing and to get info on different types of diapers etc etc.Along with making friends that believe in the same things as i do such as AP,BF,EN and baby wearing etc etc.Its not common where I live to do what we do and others think we are crazy for what we do.So I came to mingle with people that are the same as we are not to fight and cause anyone to feel bad.

[Moon Faerie]

Originally Posted by Meisubaby

Oh I forgot to address a comment that was made to me.someone said they are glad I see sold out at sites.If thats not greed then what is?

Ok, I'm not the one that made that comment. I too have to say I'm glad to see that too. Here's why. It's because it means those WAHMs are selling their stuff and are able to continue to stay home with their children. I could care less if it's one person buying all of them or every customer buying 1 each. It's the support of WAHM. Greed really has nothing to do with it. How is wanting WAHMs to succeed greedy? Am I missing something here?

[MissSugarKane]

I am back with an opinion..I knew something was off last night when I had nothing to say :LOL

These threads never go anywhere.Everyone has their opinion and no one is going to change how they think.When everyone feels their opinion is right then it is just this long drawn out back and forth petty fighting. It's not even entertaining to watch the drama anymore.It's just sad in a pathetic sort of way. I am not saying I am above it.I get irritated that I can not get anything good off the TP anymore because I don't have the latest hot diaper to trade for it.There is nothing that can be done so I just get over it.More and more I just stay away from here and the TP.Hyena stuff used to be fun but it has gotten out of hand and not something I want to be a part of even if I could afford too.

[JohnnysGirl]

I agree, it's great that some WAHMs have demand for their product. They are successful at what they are trying to do and that's super. There are soooooooooooo many great WAHMs with awesome stock sitting in their stores, though, so whenever I hear the 'everything's sold out' complaint I kind of roll my eyes. Only the things that are the hottest fad in this very moment are all sold out, so maybe just accept that and move onto wonderful, similar items that are available?

[Meisubaby]

It has NOTHING to do with not wanting WAHMs to not succeed! I support WAHMs and what they do.I don't work however I am home with my kids 24-7 and I must say that in itself is a fulltime job! I can't imagine working with the kids underfoot! I give them credit for being able to do that! My point is because someone is glad I can't get any diapers.Thats being greedy of them to be happy they are all sold out so i can't get one to try! Thats what I was saying.Its funny how things are getting misconstrued into being other things. Why would anyone want someone to NOT succeed? thats just crazy talk!

[JohnnysGirl]

Originally Posted by Meisubaby

My point is ...someone is glad I can't get any diapers.Thats being greedy of them to be happy they are all sold out so i can't get one to try! Thats what I was saying.

Um, you sound a bit paranoid. You really think someone on this board is hoping you can't buy any diapers just for the sheer mean-spiritedness of it? (that wouldn't be greed, by the way, just mean-spirited.) I doubt anyone on this board has invested that much emotional energy into your diaper buying experiences and you as a person that they would hope you can't get any diapers you want to try.

Really, we're not all out to get you. :LOL We all just score what we can if it's super popular right this minute and buy lots of stuff that's easy to get, and share the fluffy love via pictures online and talking about it. It's supposed to be fun. Try to lose the sour grapes and paranoia about the stuff you wish you could buy.

[Moon Faerie]

I think you're possibly taking it too personally. It's not like someone's sitting there thinking , "Ha, ha, if I buy this, Meisubaby can't." I personally have never scored anything at a stocking. That's life.

cross-posted with Butterflymom

[Momto2boysNagirl]

Originally Posted by Meisubaby

It has NOTHING to do with not wanting WAHMs to not succeed! I support WAHMs and what they do.I don't work however I am home with my kids 24-7 and I must say that in itself is a fulltime job! I can't imagine working with the kids underfoot! I give them credit for being able to do that! My point is because someone is glad I can't get any diapers.Thats being greedy of them to be happy they are all sold out so i can't get one to try! Thats what I was saying.Its funny how things are getting misconstrued into being other things. Why would anyone want someone to NOT succeed? thats just crazy talk!

She said that she was happy the wahm was sold out cause that meant she was doing well. It had nothing to with you getting one or not.

[Jennisee]

Ok, after getting a bit worked up earlier, I took DD for a wagon ride (her third today) to cool down. I stopped at the tea room across the street, got some ice cream, and thought about this.

I have had people IRL make snide comments about the size of our house or how I am a SAHM. However, what these people choose not to see says more about them than what they choose to see. They choose to not see the 16 year old car we drive, the closet of garage-saled clothes, and the rooms of hand-me-down furniture. They are making judgements about us based on a tiny snapshot of our life, judgements that are completely off-base.

I see that happening here. I see women, kind women, being attacked for something they buy. Something they buy! How can we possibly begin to know what kind of people they are from this? Have we stopped to consider what we're choosing not to see? I know people make judgements about the FCBs in my stash, but choose to not see the $5 recycled wool longies that usually cover them. And even if my FCBs were covered with MMs, how could you possibly know about our car, clothes, or furniture if I hadn't just told you? You wouldn't. So why don't we just stop attacking people and stop assuming things about them based on this tiny snapshot of their lives?

Ok, I think I need another wagon ride now. :LOL

[SugarAndSun]

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

I agree, it's great that some WAHMs have demand for their product. They are successful at what they are trying to do and that's super. There are soooooooooooo many great WAHMs with awesome stock sitting in their stores, though, so whenever I hear the 'everything's sold out' complaint I kind of roll my eyes. Only the things that are the hottest fad in this very moment are all sold out, so maybe just accept that and move onto wonderful, similar items that are available?

Who has wool soakers besides BJ Marketplace in stock?

[ChristinaB]

Originally Posted by faerybugmady

Agreeing with the majority. It's a complete turn-off. And not only is it really NOT classy to hoard hyena diapers and sell for a profit, but what's with all these women who stockpile TONS and TONS of these so-called "hyena" diapers only to show them off on picture threads? These are the moms who have 4 or 5 weeks worth of diapers at their disposal when some of us struggle to get 2 days worth of diapers. I understand some of us are in better financial situations but why stalk the TP looking for great deals, while snatching them away from people who really need them? Seems a bit much, doesn't it? Like taking a lollipop from a child. And TRADING hyena things for other hyena things. These moms won't even accept paypal for those willing to put themselves into hock to TRY one of these diapers or wool. IMHO, "hyenas" have become some bizarre cult. I too am addicted to LOOKING at diapers and love to pet my fluff but for once I'm with my hubby when I say, "they POOP in these things, relax!" Thank goodness I'm okay with prefolds and trying to learn to knit so I can afford wool over my girl's bottom. I'm lucky in that I now have 2wool covers because a mom on here was kind enough to help me out, otherwise we'd be stuck with one that we pray doesn't get dirty.

Meg

AMEN SISTAH!!!!

[mom2kalebnkieran]

*whew!* I am so glad FB's aren't hyena! :LOL

[ChristinaB]

Originally Posted by belleandboo

I agree that it is pretty innocent (although it has the potential to get ugly and I have seen that happen here). I see nothing wrong with having more diapers than you need - I certainly do no matter how hard I try to simplify. :LOL But like Meg said, when mamas spend money they don't have just for the thrill of shopping or showing off what they have, that is sad. I've seen people complain about being broke, then turn around and beg for very expensive diapers that they HAVE to have. :

ETA: I'm not referring to those who have the occasional hard time financially (unexpected illness, house/car repairs, etc), but those who seem to have a chronic problem with it.

I agree Angelica and Kellie. There are people that are healthy about it but some do and are out of control. It's one thing to do it and realize it, then stop (which most of us have) but it's another to continue in the game.

[ChristinaB]

Originally Posted by USAmma

Keep in mind that these same hyenas also donate diapers for free to moms, or fairy them anonymously. The diapering community is so very generous.

That is wonderful! But, I have only seen it done within the "hyenas" and to "friends"

[mommy2sam&keller]

Originally Posted by ChristinaB

That is wonderful! But, I have only seen it done within the "hyenas" and to "friends"

Oh, that's not true! You fairied a gorgeous wool soaker to me forever ago and I have never, ever forgotten your kindness. : In fact, I just passed that soaker along to another mama in need. Even my husband still talks about how shocked we were when you did that - and it was a year ago!!

[Camellia]

Originally Posted by ChristinaB

That is wonderful! But, I have only seen it done within the "hyenas" and to "friends"

When I had been here for maybe two weeks I had the most pitiful stash. 2 dozen infant pfs and 3 ratty covers. My daughter wet constantly so I was washing once a day. Jesse (luxe mama) and todzwife gave me enough doublers and fitteds to cd at night and to get through the days wash without using a sposie. They didn't know me from Adam! I was hardly a hyena or even a friend at the time.

Roll your eyes if you want, but much kindness is given around this board. Just becuase its not screamed from the roof tops doesn't mean it doesn't happen. I could recount at least 5 similar stories, but I think it takes away from the beauty of giving.

[Moon Faerie]

Originally Posted by ChristinaB

That is wonderful! But, I have only seen it done within the "hyenas" and to "friends"

Maybe you don't see it, but it happens.

[USAmma]

I'm locking this to review some of the posts. I think this has gone on long enough. Now let's all go surround ourselves with some soft fluff.