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post #41 of 160
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Originally Posted by Jachut
You would hope that it's a case of someone nice thinking "well I'm in and I can buy so I'll grab a heap and help others out". But I suspect it's more often a case of "I can buy this dipe for $25 and probably get $50 for it on ebay". I hate that.
Yep! Exactly what I was thinking. If it's the first part of your post I don't have a problem. The latter part, I have a big problem with. IMO, that's a cheap way to make money off the WAHM and that is NOT okay.

Now, if we're talking about helping others out (like a really nice mama did for me today on Little Fishy...she has a faster connection) I'm all for it. But, buying just to hoard and make mega $$$ is not in good taste.
post #42 of 160
I think most of the time when you see a FM diaper on the TP right after a stocking, they have a damn good reason, its not JUST b/c they bought to sell on the TP, like Ravenmoon said, they probably grabbed something for themselves or for others and the others didnt like it. Im sorry, but when you are at a stocking like FM, you dont even really have a chance to LOOK at the diaper, the print, etc, if you want something, you just have to take the chance and add it to cart and come up with a quantity of items youd like to try for rather than a specific print(s) you wanted. So therefore, their may be times when you get something you dont LOVE. I have a few here that I couldnt manage to sell b/c I love FM, but I cant say that I LOVE the print. Who cares really if I decided to sell it?

And I also see nothing wrong with offering to PAY a finders fee if someone gives something up that they got, and you really wanted?? Again, Who really cares? On the other hand, requesting a finders fee seems a tad unclassy, but whatever. LOL

AND, LOL, I see nothing wrong with buying a hyena item just to trade it, who cares?? If you NEED another item and the only way to get say a Luxe Baby Fitted is to buy A FM fitted, pah, why not? Who cares really?

No hard feelings, I just dont get why people get their panties in a twist over such silly things. LOL As long as its ethical, I see nothing wrong with it.
post #43 of 160
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Just*Lindsay
As long as its ethical, I see nothing wrong with it.
Ethics are a matter of opinion.
post #44 of 160
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Originally Posted by Just*Lindsay
I think most of the time when you see a FM diaper on the TP right after a stocking, they have a damn good reason, its not JUST b/c they bought to sell on the TP, like Ravenmoon said, they probably grabbed something for themselves or for others and the others didnt like it. Im sorry, but when you are at a stocking like FM, you dont even really have a chance to LOOK at the diaper, the print, etc, if you want something, you just have to take the chance and add it to cart and come up with a quantity of items youd like to try for rather than a specific print(s) you wanted. So therefore, their may be times when you get something you dont LOVE. I have a few here that I couldnt manage to sell b/c I love FM, but I cant say that I LOVE the print. Who cares really if I decided to sell it?

And I also see nothing wrong with offering to PAY a finders fee if someone gives something up that they got, and you really wanted?? Again, Who really cares? On the other hand, requesting a finders fee seems a tad unclassy, but whatever. LOL

AND, LOL, I see nothing wrong with buying a hyena item just to trade it, who cares?? If you NEED another item and the only way to get say a Luxe Baby Fitted is to buy A FM fitted, pah, why not? Who cares really?

No hard feelings, I just dont get why people get their panties in a twist over such silly things. LOL As long as its ethical, I see nothing wrong with it.
Lindsay I would agree with you especially if you get a super hyena dipe and it doesn't work for you why not try to trade for one that does. I personally would not go out of my way to stalk for things that don't work for us but if you have the time and energy who's to say you're wrong... I think the mama's that posted here all had good intentions

What has put me off lately is Ebay - hyena diapers listed with a BIN over retail and ebay sellers running their own auctions on the side - I have no idea whether they are MDC mama's or not but that whole thing has really put me off the past few days...
post #45 of 160
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Originally Posted by jmunch
Ethics are a matter of opinion.
I agree, and something that is somewhat innocent will quickly turn evil. I've seen it other places and it happends very easily. I'm not saying everyone has ill intentions on the TP, but something like people are speaking of here I'm sure will go too far.

I'm pretty new, so some people will probably roll their eyes at me anyways LOL, but doing things like charging people money for finding something is just the beginning. Pretty soon that will turn into something a little more, and so on, untill no one wants anything to do with the TP because it's jut a bunch of hungry hounds. Just my opinion, I just think it should be a place to *share* at a fair price or trade, not make money. Maybe I'm just overly-honest and would hope that others are the same way.
post #46 of 160
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Originally Posted by jmunch
Ethics are a matter of opinion.
I agree, I knew someone would say that. But I guess I just dont see how selling a new diaper that you have never used is wrong as long as your not trying to make a profit off the WAHM.
post #47 of 160
Well at the last Fm stocking before today's, I stalked for the rush and fun of it knowing that I was not going to use the diaper. It was my first stalking ( I was on spring break so I was actually home at the time!) I did score a diaper and then offered it to a person who had posted that they were iso that particular dipe. I asked for the actual amount I paid. I do hate it when people offer a dipe for 10 times what it is worth. (and I must admit, I am jealous of the person who can afford to pay that amount for one diaper.)

So, in short, I did it for the rush and just to see if I could actually score, even though I knew I was not going to keep it.
post #48 of 160
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Originally Posted by 425lisamarie
I agree, and something that is somewhat innocent will quickly turn evil. I've seen it other places and it happends very easily. I'm not saying everyone has ill intentions on the TP, but something like people are speaking of here I'm sure will go too far.

I'm pretty new, so some people will probably roll their eyes at me anyways LOL, but doing things like charging people money for finding something is just the beginning. Pretty soon that will turn into something a little more, and so on, untill no one wants anything to do with the TP because it's jut a bunch of hungry hounds. Just my opinion, I just think it should be a place to *share* at a fair price or trade, not make money. Maybe I'm just overly-honest and would hope that others are the same way.

I think I have been very fortunate to have found mama's that are more than honest in their dealings on the TP. We tend to trade things back and forth because we know we can trust each other. I'm happy selling something for what I got it for (or less if I used it) and pretty much know the mama's that do the same. I stalk for them and vice versa - never a fee involved - I think that's what being part of a community is all about and not just using the TP for commerce.
post #49 of 160
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Originally Posted by Just*Lindsay
I agree, I knew someone would say that. But I guess I just dont see how selling a new diaper that you have never used is wrong as long as your not trying to make a profit off the WAHM.
My problem with buying a diaper or such that I don't want in order to trade it for something that I do want is the fact that I took it away from someone who did want or need it. It wasn't that we both wanted it and I got there first, which is a different story. I would be putting someone at a disadvantage for selfish gain.

Just my thoughts on the matter.
post #50 of 160
I totaly missed the stocking and didn't get anything. I badly wanted to try any lc diaper. I did get a lc diaper of the tp for what they paid Thanks mama. So i am all for it. Some of us just can't get these diapers on our own. Help is always appriciated. I know i wouldn't not have a lc diaper if it wasn't for mama's here buying diapers to sell to others.
post #51 of 160
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Originally Posted by zexplorers
I think I have been very fortunate to have found mama's that are more than honest in their dealings on the TP. We tend to trade things back and forth because we know we can trust each other. I'm happy selling something for what I got it for (or less if I used it) and pretty much know the mama's that do the same. I stalk for them and vice versa - never a fee involved - I think that's what being part of a community is all about and not just using the TP for commerce.
I don't think there is anything wrong with that, I'm sure I would be grateful for people helping me out too. I just would hope it doesn't turn into more than that because that would be unfair.
post #52 of 160
Quoting my DH" I don't know why you girls get so worked up over something the kids going to poop in!"

I have bought stuff, say Fluffymail, todays hot topic, and it was a cool rush when I got it yeay! then you look at it when you get it and your like oh crap I just spent $90+ on 3 diapers and my DS is almost potty learned! SO what do I do sell them on TP for what I paid for them. Which is what I think is fair to other mama's. But honestly there are people who want to get what they can get, and that fine for them. As long as you have the demand you'll continue to see used diapers and new selling for far more than what was paid for them.
post #53 of 160
I am tired-LOL. . .but I'll make it quick.

I agree with Lindsay. I have bought things at stockings thinking that I have seen so many ISOs for it on here, thinking I was helping someone out. I think that was what Ravenmoon intended. I don't see anything wrong with her getting some dipes and putting them on the TP. I think there were a lot of mamas who were grateful for her. Ebay is a whole different issue, though.
post #54 of 160
It's official...I am no longer a hyena.I can sit and read this thread and not give a care either way.I have no opinion

Okay now back to my :
post #55 of 160
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Originally Posted by brigmaman
Totally OT...Marsupialmuma...I love the name you've chosen.

Thanks!
post #56 of 160
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Originally Posted by jmunch
Ethics are a matter of opinion.
post #57 of 160
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Originally Posted by MissSugarKane
It's official...I am no longer a hyena.I can sit and read this thread and not give a care either way.I have no opinion

Okay now back to my :

Jamie..I was waiting for you to chime in and make me laugh! :LOL
post #58 of 160
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Originally Posted by Goddess3_2005
Quoting my DH" I don't know why you girls get so worked up over something the kids going to poop in!"
I always wonder what people on the "outside" would think of people being adddicted to diapers! Wouldn't that make a great Dr. Phil! :LOL
post #59 of 160
You know the whole hyena thing doesn't appeal to me the slightest little bit, and this kind of behavior provides a perfect example of why.

Don't get me wrong, if you could actually purchase the diapers in a reasonable way I would buy them. It would be nice to have about half my stash be something like SOS. It's the behavior you have to engage in/be subjected to in order to get them that I don't go for. And when the diapers seem like they are valued more as totems of status and power than for their functional utility I actually stop liking the diapers.

Anyway, don't mind me. I hope you all who missed out today have better luck in the future. I do know the pain of wanting to be able to get a certain type of dipe that works well for your child and not being able to get it!
post #60 of 160
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Originally Posted by mamasboys4me
I always wonder what people on the "outside" would think of people being adddicted to diapers! Wouldn't that make a great Dr. Phil! :LOL
: oh how I could just see that!
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