here is a compiled list of reasons so far:
1. unwanted drugs will not be pushed on you at home
2. Your baby won't get switched with another at home
3. You are used to the germs at your own house.
4. MW's don't carry Electronic Fetal Monitoring machines that strap you to the bed.
5. No one to tell you not to eat or drink
6.Your baby won't get its toe chopped off when the nurse is removing the ankle band.
7. your baby won't be given carbon monoxide instead of oxygen and rendered brain damaged.
8. You don't have to get in a car during labor (unless you want to! - does anyone want to?).
9. Privacy, Privacy, Privacy!
10. Less disturbance to your hormones and sphincters.
11. Get to hear the wind, rain, birds chirping, water flowing, kids playing while you labor.
12. Birth gets to be treated with the sacredness it deserves
13. no one yells at you to push/don't push
14. familiar smells, familiar surroundings
15. anyone you want in attendance
16. At home, your baby is not required to spend the night in a separate room away from your room.
17. At home, you can have your pets in the room with you!
18. at home no one will assault you perineum with an episiotomy rendering you sex-less for 6 weeks
19. Nobody will tell you, with a straight face, to "Get Some Rest" while at the same time coming in and waking you up every 2-4 hours to take your temp and BP ALL NIGHT LONG!!!!!!!!!!
20. Every time your husband uses his favorite towel you can remember your 10-minute old baby wrapped in it.
21. For that matter, while you are preparing the punch for your baby's first birthday party, you can remember when it held his placenta!
22. You can kick people out your home at will...
23. No nurses around to give your baby a bottle to "see if she will suck"
24. You know where the good food is kept
25. Your towels are big enough to go around a pregnant woman
26. Your pillows are way better
27. No one bled, vomited, pooped or peed on the bed or floor where you will give birth (unless you are related!)
28. There is no financial incentive at home for "saving" you from a birth "complication"
29. The only stranger you'll see is the postperson bringing baby fluffymail
30. you, and your relationship with your baby, will be treated with respect
31. No one will take off with your baby a few minutes after birth to do "tests" and "observations"
32. You can have your midwife stay right next to you through a 40-hour ordeal, instead of one who just stops in every hour to stick her arm inside you!
33. You can lock your bedroom door where you are laboring to keep people out.
34. You can have as many people in the room as you want, no policy you have to follow.
35. When you shower you actually have soap to do it with.
36. You don't have to share your room pp with a complete stranger and their baby.
37. At a homebirth your child will not be given a Hepatitis B shot against your wishes while you're too out-of-it to notice until it's too late.
38. At a homebirth your midwife will not harass you about circumcision.
39. At a homebirth no one will offer you a birth control shot 2 hours ppm
40.you don't have to get in a car to go home newly postpartum and it hurts to sit
41. No nosocomial infections
42. you can poop and pee on the home throne
43. You can make out with your partner during labor if you feel like it.
44. You don't need to feel uninhibited about nipple or clitoral stimulation.
45. You won't have to go through any red tape to get "permission" to labor/birth in water.
46. You can choose who gets to be around you and your baby -- and pick only people who you can depend on for the utmost respect.
47. You don't have to worry about a hungover resident puking on you during a vaginal exam.
48. You don't have to worry about some misogynistic of a resident hurting you during a vaginal exam because he's pissed about having been woken up and called in.
49. You don't have to do any vaginal exams at all unless you want to!
50. You don't have to have permission to push
51. Nobody will check to make sure you're legs still work. (A nurse did this hours after my unmedicated hospital birth)
52. If you want to take a walk around the neighborhood, you won't have to worry about scaring the other laboring women
53. You can cook, dance, paint, read, sing, garden, play on the net and phone all your friends in labour.
54. Your partner has to clean up your poo and you can remind them about it for years and years and years and years....
55. When someone asks where you're having the baby you only have to point.
56. You can sleep forever in the bed you laboured or birthed in and it's the same bed you conceived in.
57. Your other children can play in the birth pool with you
58: You do not have to share a room with someone who has an endless parade of visitors, when all you want to do is sleep.
59: You do not have to shuffle past said visitors to get to the bathroom after having given birth a few hours prior. (Meaning you get all the privacy you want!)
60: You can be alone with your baby in the dark if you want. (Yes, this was the rule at the hospital I birthed #1 at.)
61: Your husband can run out for takeout at your favorite place around the corner.
62. Big comfy recliner for nursing.
63: No nurses who dislike the CNM who delivers your babe in the hospital and make disparaging remarks about her before she gets there.
64: No IV with continuous fluids to make you all swollen after the birth.
65: You can return to MDC the next morning
66. You don't have to fake that you're not pushing so you can "accidentally" birth your baby in the water.
67. (My personal favorite from my last birth) You get to sandwich your sweet cuddly newborn between dh & yourself in your very own bed so you can all go to sleep - only an hour after her birth - with candles lit all night so you'll have just enough light for those first night nursings, and you gaze at her through that light in awe and beauty and peace. I'll NEVER forget that.
68. walking up and down your rural driveway at 2am, squatting with each contraction, being followed by your cats and dog each lap, and finally "pop" water breaks while squatting in the grass! knowing the entire cove is sleeping!
69. kneeling on the bed, facing the wall, using the headboard for leverage while pushing.
70. delivering a beautiful, baby girl in the bed she was concieved in and the bed her grandma was born in 63 years before. it's dd bed now!
71. having dh gush how beautiful, radiant, and confident you looked the entire time (not the cornered hospital look)
72. The midwives told me they wouldn't take it personally if I wanted to yell and scream at them.
73. You won't be hounded to vaccinate your minutes-old baby for a disease that is spread through IV drug use or sex
74. delivering on the toilet if desired
75. being able to burn my fertility candle next to me, in my own hot bath, in a dark locked room ~ where i felt completely safe and unhindered
76. having my partner catch our daughter!! what a great experience!
77. no stench of hospital chemicals around us
78. no exams
79. no PRESSURE
80. nobody telling me to shut up when i vocalized
81. You won't be used as a teaching tool without your permission
82. Your birth attendants are under the employ of no one but YOU ... not a medical group, not a hospital
83. You get to keep your placenta, bury it under a tree , cook it and eat it, whatever..... without having to go through great amounts of red tape to get the hospital to release your "biomedical waste" back to you
84. ut the "routines" they follow are just that instead of going case by case
to this i add:
85. having your toddler offer you her favorite security device by running across the hall
86. knowing you will be home to greet your school aged children when they get home from school.
87. having your toddler sit in bed and stroke your hair to help ease you through contractions