Originally Posted by Angierae
Okay, I will get to manners.
I've belonged to food coops, playgroups, and gone to LLL meetings with the crunchy moms - I was one of them, but I saw children with no discipline. When their mothers tried to talk to other moms, they would pester, interrupt, try to pull their shirts off to take the breast -- these children were not hungry, they didn't need comfort -- they just wanted to get their mother's attention so she couldn't have attention anywhere else. These children are old enough to know boundaries and what rudeness is. I would see kids be disciplined by their mothers, and the moment they would get in trouble, they would start crying for the breast. These kids didn't need to suck on a boob, they just wanted to divert attention from their wrong doing or what mom was trying to discipline them about. Toddlers aren't stupid.
I've had many of conversations with friends on the phone and my aunt, who breastfed toddlers and the moment the phone rang -- the child would begin to harass the mother to nurse until she gave in to be able to talk just five minutes. I babysat for my aunt for short periods of time when her child was a toddler( and this child weighed over 30lbs, ate full course meals, drank water and juice) and the whole time the child would "Cry" to nurse, tantrums would follow until my aunt came home -- she acted like a brat - and she was not deprived in anyway. She would also pull the same stunts when my aunt and uncle would just try to talk, snuggle on the sofa, or show any affection to one another she would demand to be nursesd.
Now I breastfed toddlers, but after seeing the above I definitely set limits -- healthy boundaries.