Originally Posted by Vicitoria
It's not not MDC isn't supportive. I think it is. Unfortunately it's difficult to find a whole group of people who think exactly like you. I thought I would find that when I came to MCD but I didn't. I never realized how vast AP can be. I think the positive and the negative on this thread can be helpful to the mom who started the thread. APmomma, do what you want. I'm all for free choice. I have nothing negative to say about how your personal choices effect your life. I can share my experiences, thought and opinions and that provides healing for me and possibly other people. By listening to others to the same it all changes for me and I can grow and become a better person and mom. That is a supportive environment. If a mom is having problems with night nursing it can also be supportive to let her know she doesn't have to do it and it's OK. Or, if co-sleeping isn't working, not doing that can be OK too. AP isn't, or shouldn't be a life or death religion.
What you described IS a supportive environment. Listening to others and learning about different opinions and situations definetly has made me a better mother and I have learned a lot. This however is not what I am seeing on this thread. There are broad generalizations and an overall attitude of "my way is better". It's the same kind of crap you read on mainstream boards, just a little tiny bit sugar-coated. Basically, this thread is saying in one way or another that older children nursing are "manipulative" don't have "manners", most come from families with "discipline issues", they have "bad sleep habits". I mean, come on. How are comments like that the kind of comments that anyone can "learn" from. There is a big difference between learning about different AP approaches (including night-weaning, etc. Believe me, I am by no means a "die hard" AP follower. We all make our own modifications. By dd is NOT always soothed by a breast. Far from it. She is disciplined, she has to cry sometimes) and just reading negetive opinions directed toward different AP practices. It's just the overall negetive tone that is disappointing to see.