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post #21 of 58
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Originally Posted by CluckyInAZ
I have only told one family member about my UC plans (besides my husband) and that is my little sister. I am getting tired of making up answers to questions about the birth center, but I don't want to deal with the negative energy of my family if they knew what we are going to do. They fight me even on basic pregnancy knowledge, like I told them women CAN eat during labor and they flipped out saying I am stupid, and foolish if I believe that.
GOOD LUCK with your UC !!!! It's the best thing that'll ever happen to you. One mistake we made though - My husband called everyone immediately after the birth. In turn, someone called 911 on us (I'm pretty sure I know who....just can't prove it : ). Once the paramedics realized that it wasn't an emergency and that we planned the UC, they left and apoligized for bothering us. However, that first minute or two when they came into our house I was terrified. Fear gripped my body for the first time that day. Trust me, you don't want that happening to you!!!!!
post #22 of 58
It's amazing to me how people treat pregnant women. Especially, as some of you have commented, how they won't accept the most commonsense answers to their questions. As for not eating during labor, the reason people believe you can't do it is because for years doctors wouldn't allow it. Of course, that's a holdover from when they used scopolamine during labor and you could choke to death or aspirate vomit while in the twilight sleep–which was not sleep at all but a nightmare state you didn't remember afterwards.

I smile and refuse to discuss labor, birth, pregnancy these days. I figure if it's so important for labor to go a certain way for these people, they can darned well go have their own babies and leave me alone!

Keep your spirits up and I would wait a bit before calling people after the birth too–so you don't end up with someone calling 911 on you. What a nightmare.

Argh. Well, at least we are all hanging in there and in control of our lives and bodies. Woohoo! More power to us all.
post #23 of 58
hey all!
just subscribing here.

and telling everyone how excited I am to have our new computer. Ours had been broken forever. yippee.

and how excited I am to almost be done with pregnancy. I am not one who loves benign pg. and this pg was pretty easy, I feel mostly ok, but the aches and pains are really getting to me. Sleep is almost a joke now. I sleep for maybe an hour at a time. Oh, well, just a few more weeks.

Skim,
I called Madison to check on the rules and they said that they didn't really care about the timeline as long as it was pretty soon after birth. They aren't going to get upset about going after five days.
The women also said that you didn't have to have a birth attendant, they actually preferred to have a ped. check the baby out for the bc. I am not sure that that makes any difference in your situation, but they seem flexible. I will get you the names of the two women who deal with this stuff and their numbers. I am sure that you can figure something out. She was really nice.

And I have never known anyone to get in big trouble for declining tests and such in WI. I think that the rules are pretty flexible if you talk to the right people.

Wish me luck on my finals! I have my first one this week. I am so glad to be almost done with the semester. That will really free up my mind and hopefully this birth will hurry up and happen right after that.

Ok, I am off to make lunch. hope all is well with everyone.
Louise
post #24 of 58
Congrats on your new computer! That must make your end of the semester life sooo much easier.

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Originally Posted by june'smom
Skim,
I called Madison to check on the rules and they said that they didn't really care about the timeline as long as it was pretty soon after birth. They aren't going to get upset about going after five days.
The women also said that you didn't have to have a birth attendant, they actually preferred to have a ped. check the baby out for the bc. I am not sure that that makes any difference in your situation, but they seem flexible. I will get you the names of the two women who deal with this stuff and their numbers. I am sure that you can figure something out. She was really nice.

And I have never known anyone to get in big trouble for declining tests and such in WI. I think that the rules are pretty flexible if you talk to the right people.

Wish me luck on my finals! I have my first one this week. I am so glad to be almost done with the semester. That will really free up my mind and hopefully this birth will hurry up and happen right after that.
Thanks for sharing the info about what the madison folks said. Glad to know the 5 day rule is flexible. But... since I have no intention of taking babe to a doc for any reason unless s/he needs medical care, especially "pretty soon" after the birth, I'm back where I started as far as getting that form signed. I think we're just going to ask our chiropractor (hmmm) if she'll sign it. If not, we'll try to arrange for someone to come over and fill out the darned form!

And I think we've decided not to do the newborn heel stick/screen, too. So many decisions. Oy!

Good luck on your finals!!!

And zamber: I've never even thought of someone calling 911... Holy cow! We'll definitely be waiting a while before we share the news. Thanks for the warning.

Kim
post #25 of 58

Another UC for ME!!

Hi all, it's late so I will just post an intro and save the catching up for tomorrow I'm Carrie. I was here for awhile last year for our first UC (then I was "carrieanders" I'm happy to see the story is still linked!!) I couldn't recall my password so...

anyhow. I found out this AM that we have another one on the way. I'm still in shock, but thought I'd drop by here and try to gather some excitement! I don't know what to do with another baby, honestly.... I'm still uncertian whetehr the test was correct but they can't be wrong.

But being only 2 weeks pregnant, and unplanned, and number 5 I suppose its OK to feel that way for now.

Looking forward to meeting you all (again) Happy restful night to all of us.

Carrie
post #26 of 58
Congratulations!!!!
post #27 of 58
Thread Starter 
Welcome back Carrie

Brandi
post #28 of 58
Just checking in on y'all. Wow, Brandi, you're really coming along, aren't you?
I don't come very often to the UC forum (all of Birth and Beyond, really) since Marcos was born. I think I just figured out why: it just makes me yearn to be pregnant again. Minutes after his birth I was thinking I wanted to do it again! I loved my UC so much. When I read the posts by mamas whose births are coming up, it feels a little painful because I'm not sure I'll get to do it again. All the questions from the first-timers... I remember the feeling and I want it again! :
post #29 of 58
Hello all, mind if I join you?

I am 11weeks pregnant and seriously considering UC. I never thought I would consider it, but I really don't want another hospital delivery. Dh and I have talked about it, and he said we could do whatever I want since I am the one who has to deliver the baby any way. I am now trying to get my head around the logistics of this. Right now I am seeing a midwife for prenatal care. She is the same midwife I saw for both of my other pregnancies and I really like her, but she is a CNM and only delivers out of a hospital. I was thinking I could go ahead and continue with my prenatal care, and then when I went into labor just not go to the hospital. Is that possible? I mean is it naive to think I could do it that way? I feel like I definately need prenatal care, I had pre-e with ds, and I lost my daughter in still birth. I just wouldn't feel comfortable completely going without prenatal care, but I still want to deliver at home if this pregnancy goes well.

Well anyway that is my story. I look forward to getting to know you all.
post #30 of 58
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Originally Posted by Lula's Mom
I don't come very often to the UC forum (all of Birth and Beyond, really) since Marcos was born. I think I just figured out why: it just makes me yearn to be pregnant again. Minutes after his birth I was thinking I wanted to do it again! I loved my UC so much. When I read the posts by mamas whose births are coming up, it feels a little painful because I'm not sure I'll get to do it again. All the questions from the first-timers... I remember the feeling and I want it again! :
yep. I had to stay away as well. just loved that time too much. Congrats on your little one
post #31 of 58
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Originally Posted by iris0110
Hello all, mind if I join you?
I was thinking I could go ahead and continue with my prenatal care, and then when I went into labor just not go to the hospital. Is that possible? I mean is it naive to think I could do it that way?
Well anyway that is my story. I look forward to getting to know you all.
not at all naive! it's actually JUST THAT SIMPLE.

Congrats on the bundle to be, and
post #32 of 58

question

Medicaid, Anyone?

has anyone used Medicaid as a backup? or for prenatals with a CPM or OB (ick) then had a UC?

I've never dealt with them, but we are more then qualified. I'm leery for a few reasons

1) hate generic prenatal "care"

2) do they keep tabs? like will I have to go monthly and then they'll wonder where the baby was? Wondering if it will make it unusually sticky, like they'll come looking for me or demad to see the baby or such when I file a BC.

I need proof of preg or prenatal care for the birth cirt. I also need a medical person to see the baby and vouch that it's ours (think we're too close to the border l :LOL )

I do want prenatal care, but MW is only partially covered and I'll feel as if I'm using her. I think there are a few CPMs that do take MC though (at least 1)
post #33 of 58
Thank you for the welcome. And thank you for telling me I am not naive to think this could work.

I don't know about medicaid and UC. I had medicaid when I was pregnant with Ds. I will admit that they are a little weird when you start wanting to do things differently (like selective vaxing). They are a government agency, so there is a chance they might over react when you had the baby at home. Is there anyone in your area who you could ask these kinds of questions?
post #34 of 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by Rockies5
Medicaid, Anyone?

has anyone used Medicaid as a backup? or for prenatals with a CPM or OB (ick) then had a UC?

I've never dealt with them, but we are more then qualified. I'm leery for a few reasons

1) hate generic prenatal "care"

2) do they keep tabs? like will I have to go monthly and then they'll wonder where the baby was? Wondering if it will make it unusually sticky, like they'll come looking for me or demad to see the baby or such when I file a BC.

I need proof of preg or prenatal care for the birth cirt. I also need a medical person to see the baby and vouch that it's ours (think we're too close to the border l :LOL )

I do want prenatal care, but MW is only partially covered and I'll feel as if I'm using her. I think there are a few CPMs that do take MC though (at least 1)

For my pregnancy, I was on Medicaid and saw an OB . At the very begining, I did everything by the book like a good little patient. That landed me with five ultrasounds because the doctor never took more than ten seconds to find a heartbeat, a nasty glucose test, and a false positive AlphaFetoprotein (Down's Syndrome) test, with which the doctor told me I must get Amniocentesis done, so that if it was a true positive I could get an abortion. That did not sit right with me at all. I mean, even if my son did have a genetic deformity, how could I give up someone I created? However, he kept pushing me to schedule the amnio and saying "you don't want to have a messed up baby!". So, I called the clinic he wanted me to go to to schedule the procedure. Well, come to find out they didn't accept my insurance, and it would cost something like $4,000. So, I had my excuse not to get it done (thank the gods). It was at this point I started questioning everything being done to me, and during my searching I found UC. I tolerated the OB for as long as I could stand. When he started getting rude with me (I was almost eight months pregnant), I called and cancelled my appointment and told the receptionist I no longer required his services. When they asked why, I told them it was personal. I remember they once tried to call me to schedule my delivery (you know babies are incapable of picking their own b-days!), but I ignored them. I then went on to successfully deliver a 10 pound 6 ounce healthy baby boy without even a scratch (Oh yeah, and the doc had said he was going to be a girl, so I had all of this pink and purple stuff!). I was 40 weeks and three days, going on twenty-three years old, and was in labor for thirteen hours.

When he was two days old, we took him to our chiropracter to make sure his spine was in alignment, and then at about two weeks old took him to a family practice MD who specialized in holistic medicine, and was supportive of our choice to breastfeed, keep our son intact, and not to vaccinate. That way we had proof that he was perfectly healthy (the doctor was amazed at how healthy he was, and told us we did an excellent job). From that point we went to our local government's office, where they told us that since I had prenatal care, they wanted proof of that (I had an ultrasound picture, but they wanted a written document of some sort). Oh, going back to that OB's office was a moment of anxiety for me. However, it went easier than I thought, because all I had to do was talk to the lady running the desk and she wrote me up a note with the dates I went there. I never once told her I had a UC, and she never asked.

Next time I am just going to pay for one prenatal visit at a clinic to prove I'm pregnant, that's it. They don't need to know what I'm doing. Just be polite and firm to whoever you are talking to.
post #35 of 58
Thread Starter 
Welcome Shannon I am so happy that you joined us! There are many women who have had prenatal care and just stayed home for birth. The most important thing is to listen to yourself and your babe and do what feels right to you.

I cannot believe I will be hitting the third trimester in another week and a half! So happy to be getting closer to holding my boy.

Brandi
post #36 of 58
I am going to get medicaid to have just in case, but I have to have a dr.'s note saying that i'm pregnant in order to get it. It seems stupid to me, and I don't even have a dr. so I have to find one. I want to get a pap done, anyways, and I just found out planned parenthood won't even give a pap to a pregnant woman- grrr.

My son is on medicaid and is unvaxed, and we've never gotten any grief about that. I told my caseworker I was planning a homebirth and wanted medicaid just in case, and he didn't act like there'd be any problems, although he was like "You aren't going to see a doctor?!?"
post #37 of 58
hottmama, I have read that a pap during pregnancy is a bad idea. I can't remember why, something about the results being inacurate. My midwife said that while it is the policy at her practice she doesn't usually do them, and any way my insurance won't cover a pap on a pregnant woman. So there must be some reason. However a positive pregnancy test from planned parenthood should be enough for medicaid. I know it was for me.
post #38 of 58
Huh, I've never heard that. I meant to get one before I conceived (the last one I had was at my first prenatal appt. w/ Julian), but kept putting it off. In fact, the only pap I've ever had was while pregnant, as that was my first ob/gyn appt. in my life (I was 18, am now 21). Well, can't say I'll mind too much if that's the case. I also want to get tested for STI's, just in case. I haven't been tested in 3 years, and my partner has never been tested. I doubt that I have anything, but of course need to know for sure.
post #39 of 58
Just popping in. I'm still sick. But, sending my love to my UC mamas!
post #40 of 58
Hope you're feeling better soon Aurora.

"childoftheMoon" you are geeting close. I wish I had my beginning third trimester belly already
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