OMG!! What has DH Done!!!??? - Page 2

[Rollermommy]

I agree polka. I know he was just trying to make me feel better and he was soooooo sweet about it Its just so soon. He couldnt stand seeing me so sad and he wanted to "fix" it. I have to say though, when we had the memorial for Tate, he cried his freakin eyes out....he was emotionally invested in him too and it hurt him so bad we couldnt save him. Everybody's been so sad and bummed out around here, i think he was trying to do something special for all of us. He's a wonderful man.

Its me that's being a turd about it.

[Momtwice]

His intentions may have been sweet, but I would be furious if dh brought home another family member without asking me first. Furious. Especially but not exclusively at a time like this.

And we've been through this kind of horrible grief.

You are so not a turd.

[Rollermommy]

Originally Posted by JoAida

gaiamom, I'm sorry if it seemed like I jumped on you, I wasn't meaning to.

It just worried me a whole lot thinking that you might have to go through it again. I'm glad you are getting it all taken care of. Hopefully, Buster will not contract it. Some people just don't know how contagious parvo can be, I'm glad you have talked to your vet. All the best to you.

Not at all JoAida, your concerns were the same as mine

[polka123]

Originally Posted by Momtwice

His intentions may have been sweet, but I would be furious if dh brought home another family member without asking me first. Furious. .

[Joyce in the mts.]

Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise; a gift from Tate. Who knows; who can say how things work really? Maybe Tate touched your dh's heart on a very deep level and led him to Buster...perhaps you could entertain that thought.

It sure is all about love, regardless.

But what do I know?!:
I never did have good timing; not with pets, kids or other choices myself, but always without fail, found the timing to be perfect in retrospect.

Meanwhile, much love and best wishes to you and your family, gaiamom. Pet Buster for me. (Does he have that wonderful puppy smell?)

Joyce in the mts.

[Rollermommy]

Originally Posted by Joyce in the mts.

Does he have that wonderful puppy smell?

Joyce in the mts.

Yes he does

[kathipaul]

What a cutie! Maybe this was not the exact thing you needed right now but it was a really nice and cute thought on dh's part to try and cheer you up. And what a great looking pup!

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

Originally Posted by Emilie

I hope it works out for you- and buster is really cute- what eyes?
He is not there to replace your dog tate- he is there to be buster- and there will always be room for Tate in your heart.
Hugs go out to you mama....
Emilie

what she said.

Gaiamom, i majorly hope you can learn to love buster in time, that was my big bear's name for the 10 + years that he was a part of our family.

Originally Posted by Joyce in the mts.

Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise; a gift from Tate. Who knows; who can say how things work really? Maybe Tate touched your dh's heart on a very deep level and led him to Buster...perhaps you could entertain that thought.

It sure is all about love, regardless.

But what do I know?!:
I never did have good timing; not with pets, kids or other choices myself, but always without fail, found the timing to be perfect in retrospect.

Meanwhile, much love and best wishes to you and your family, gaiamom. Pet Buster for me. (Does he have that wonderful puppy smell?)

<nodding in agreement>

[Rollermommy]

You guys are so right. I should at least try with this pup....I know he's here for a reason.

[boricuaqueen327]

It sounds like you guys are doing everything right to help prevent infection of the new pup. Parvo is so scary...I stepped in a little pan of bleach water each time I left Tyson's side hoping my other dogs wouldn't get it (they've been vaxed but still...it's scary). I really hope you know that you are not a bad person for not being sure about Buster right now. He is adorable. You will love him in your own time.

[PuppyFluffer]

I read the thread title and knew that I would see a picture of a new puppy!

What do the kids think about Buster? While I completely believe your feelings matter and are very important....you may just be outvoted!

I hope Buster grows to be a loving member of your family!

[luv2*b*mom]

omg that is the cutest dog ever!!!

[GoodWillHunter]

Awww, he's soooo cuuuuutttttttte.

[Breathless Wonder]

gaiamom-
I wish you the very best of luck with him. He is a real cutie.

[Avonlea]

I have a question, how safe is it to bring a new puppy into the home so soon after there was a parvo-infection in it ? Has this puppy had any shots yet ? I would be worried about him somehow contracting parvo there .



I know your dh meant well, but I would be upset as well. I had a very beloved dog many years ago, and no other dog has ever taken her place in my heart.

[stirringleaf]

as a mother who had trouble bonding with her human baby, i just wanted to say that its ok if you dont fully bond with this doggie right away. if you treat him with kindness and care, the puppy wont really know the difference right now. to him that's love. give yourself time to grieve. grief doesnt operate on a timeline---everyone processes things so differently---your DH could have shown up with buster a month from now and you may have still felt it was too early, and would have been shocked. its hard no matter what.

sometimes love that builds slowly can be very strong. and i think love is more than a feeling anyway, its actions , too, and i know you will treat that puppy with love.

i still miss my dog that died 3 years ago. i read the other thread about your sick puppy, and i am just very sorry you had to go through that

(and as for my son, he is 3 now and just stopped nursing like a week ago. we have a really strong attachment that means alot to me after what i went through when he was born.)

[shannon0218]

he's a bute, no doubt about it
It could be worse, my neighbor (a farmer) had an old shepherd who went with her everywhere. Chuck was a permanent fixture in the passenger seat of her big dooly truck (as in, if any human needed a ride, they sat in the back seat). I was there the night Chuck died, the vet was on the way but delayed with a horse in foal and I went over to start an IV on the vet's advice and see if that helped (he was in renal failure) There were tears all round and her husband "forbid" her getting a new pup because he never wanted to see her in such pain from loosing a dog again. As common as getting a new pup quick is, the attitude of "I just can't ever go through that pain again" is just as common and in my opinion the wrong approach-anyone who can love a dog as much as my neighbor, as much as me, as much as you, needs to have a dog by her side.

[boricuaqueen327]

I just remembered that the vet told us there was some kind of cleaner that kills parvo virus. it's what some vets usein their offices when a dog dies from parvo. it's stronger than bleach, I"m not sure if you are comfortable using something that strong, (it's kind of expensive too i think) but it might help since you have a new puppy in the house now. You could do a search on google. Of course you could be fine with bleach. I just wanted to give another option in case that would help you feel better. Dont feel rushed into loving this new pup, i'm sure you'll do fine.

[shannon0218]

Yes, Quatsyl and Viakem both kill parvo

[Rollermommy]

Well I just got back a couple of hours ago from the vet with Buster. I got his 2nd set of shots and talked with the vet for a long time about my concerns. I told all the things i'd done, as far as cleaning, and he said that should be more than enough. He also said that since the mother was well taken care of and vaccinated that she would also pass some of that immunity onto her pups. With all the cleaning i've done, buster having had 2 sets of shots....I really do think he'll be fine. The other vet in the office, the one who took care of Tate this weekend, even came in on her way to town to see Buster and second the opinion that he should be fine

I am really warming up to him .....despite another night of no sleep He's so sweet and affectionate.