Help Clingy Mom!!

[kiahnsmum]

My wonderful 5 year old ds, moved to his own room at 3 years old but would end up in ours most nights, after i had my dd he was feeling a little left out because she was in our bed so we set a bed up in our room for him and was in there permanantly. I love this arrangement most people think we're mad, some have though its cos we're trying to save money on heating . Anyway 2 days ago he asked me if he could sleep in his own bed, i was a little shocked he seemed happy where he was but i didnt show it and pretended i was happy for him, the thing is im not . Hes had a cold so he woke up coughing last night and i was so pleased hed came and snuggled up to me at midnight. Im trying hard to encourage his independance, (i hate it when he goes to school too, i want to be there to see everything and to comfort him when he needs it).
Will i get over this or am i gonna be sobbing outside the gate at his high school

[MotherEarthMom]

I can sympathize,my daughter is 5 also and she sleeps in our room too,and she will go to kindergarden this year and I am panicked about letting her go.I know I will be a emotional basket when she does go the first day.I have no advice,just hugs and sympathy.

[cozymama]

I am quite sure I will be sobbing when he goes to college :LOL I still miss dp when he goes to work....no shame in that.

You're not "clingy" in a bad sense- you're a mommy, a good AP one who has found a solution that works and is gently growing great kids

[PancakeGoddess]

this isn't clingy! It's well-connected. I highly recommend the book _Hold On To Your Kids_ by Gordon Neufeld

[grahamsmom98]

When ds moved into his own room/bed a year ago (at age 5.5), I finally got a chance to use that baby monitor that my in-laws bought for us before he was born! He'd always slept with us, so it was still in the box! :LOL

Anyway, we hooked it up, and it was like he was still there next to us, only I didn't get kicked or shoved around anymore. I could still hear every breath and sigh.

We let him fall asleep in our bed and then move him into his own. Half the time, he still wakes up and comes into our bed sometime in the night and snuggles down and is out immediately. It doesn't bother either dh or me, we cherish every minute we are with him!

We are homeschooling, but I do wonder about how I'll do when he leaves for "the world" (whether that is school or college)!! Ds has it already planned. We had the following conversation when he was 5:

Me: When you grow up, are you going to still live with us?

Ds: No, I'll be in Chicago working with Paul Sereno or Niger digging up dinosaurs.

Me: Well, we could come live with you in Chicago and take care of your home for you.

Ds: Um, well, what about the birds? ((We have a pair of cockatiels))

Me: We'll bring them with us! They can have a cage in Chicago, too.

Ds: What about Daddy's garden?

Me: We can live with a garden in Chicago.

Ds: Mom, STOP! You and Daddy have to stay here. Don't worry about me, I'll call you on my cell phone.

So much for separation anxiety as regards HIM!

Sigh.......................

[kiahnsmum]

Originally Posted by benjalo

this isn't clingy! It's well-connected. I highly recommend the book _Hold On To Your Kids_ by Gordon Neufeld

Thanks for that i'll check it out.
Sometimes when i go to pick ds from school hes like "why are you here so early, can you wait over there so i can play before we go!" OOOOOOHHH the rejection!!