SAHMs with babies/toddlers - do you get to sleep all night? - Page 3

[eightyferrettoes]

DH takes over on weekends; I do feel that it is my job to stay up with DS, since DH gets to drag his butt to work at six. At least I can try to fit in an afternoon nap.

[phathui5]

It takes more work for me to get dh up to go do stuff with the kids at night than to do it myself. I'm wide awake as soon as I hear one of them, whereas he has to be physically rolled out of bed.

[avivaelona]

I can't stand to live in the same house as my husband when he is sleep deprived and since he is incapable of getting by with less than 8 hours of sleep and doesn't nap well we decided before DS was born that I would be on night duty. I just need less sleep/can nap if needed/am less thouroughly miserable if I am sleep deprived. DH does get up at 6am though with DS and lets me sleep by myself for as long as possible in the am. This works pretty well for us now. Early on it was a little more of a problem because DH took "I handle sleep deprivation fairly well" to mean "I don't mind being sleep deprived" and was getting mad at me for being cranky sometimes and waking me for dumb reasons. Now that he grasps the fact that whatever sleep I can get is precious things are mostly good and on most days I don't feel tired.

Aviva

[abac]

It takes more work for me to get dh up to go do stuff with the kids at night than to do it myself. I'm wide awake as soon as I hear one of them, whereas he has to be physically rolled out of bed.

Same here. Dh gets up in the mornings on weekends though. This means he never gets to sleep in (gets up at 6:00 every morning for work), but we agreed it's fair since I never get to sleep all night.

If I'm having a rough night (like during teething when ds is up 20 million times) dh will help out. He used to grumble and growl, but has given up and now helps willingly.

[Sharlla]

WIth my olderst son he was sleeping throught the night since 4 months and I would only get up during the night to change him. But I still had to get up early since he did. This new baby sleeps pretty well and only gets up about twice and goes right back to sleep (after about 15 mins). I guess I got lucky. I go to bed around 11pm- 1 am, depending on if there's any good conversations going on in my forums. and get up for good around 9AM. So I get anywhere from 7-9 hours of sleep a night.

DH goes to bed about 9PM and gets up for work at 5 AM so we basically get around the same amount of sleep. There was a time when DH and I both worked (him on the weekdays and me on the weekends) so he had to take care of our son then. And when he was a SAHD for awhile he took care of our son exclusively during the day while I slept (I worked nights)

[Aeriane]

My kids are terrific sleepers so yeah, getting a good night sleep is up to me (whether I go to bed early/late etc..) I am always the one to get up if someone is having a problem in the night. They'll just carry on for me anyway as I'm the one that's there all day tending to their needs.. Dad helps with them in the evening, yes, but Mom's who the want. Kitty