My mom is very supportive of me being a SAHM. So much so that it makes me a little uncomfortable, because I know she disapproves of women who go back to work unless they are like homeless and in line at a soup kitchen. She also was very interested in going back to work once I was in school all day; my dad opposed it. She liked being a SAHM, but not a housewife, kwim? So, with her
mom's help (my grandmother paid for a lot of my mom's tuition out of her secretary paycheck), she went to college, graduated and then returned to the paid workforce.
I believe in staying home with my baby because I believe a young child's are non-negotiable and staying home with a parent is one
of the best ways to meet those needs. But I find it really hard to stay away from essentialism and the "mommy wars," which unfortunately, I think my mom buys into. She also felt (was?) neglected, herself, because my grandmother was divorced and had to work. My mom, growing up in the fifties, felt like a total freak because all the other kids had SAHMs. People, including the teachers in her parochial school, were openly snide and disapporoving of my mom and grandmother.
To the posters who wrote that their mothers "were and still are SAHMs," do you mean because your mothers are still actively raising dependent children? Or that your mothers, though empty nesters now, have remained outside the labor market?