One last thing.
Here is where I am confused. UnSchooln might help me see the light here
I let me son make most of his decisions--what to wear, what route to take to the store, where to sit on the bus, what to eat, what to play. If he wants to stay up to 3 AM, I let him. I am very child led in everything I do.
But I think he (and other young children) has less developed cognitive and decision making abilities than a preteen or teenager. He would readily jump out in front of oncoming traffic or walk out of the grocery store with some strawberries without paying. He has not learned these things yet. He clearly does not have the ability, as a young child, to make all decisions to meet societal norm (paying for something, following pedestrain traffic signals, not stealing, etc.) at all times. Sometimes is does not matter or affect others--he wants to wear a skirt and no shirt in December, I am all for it (while carrying a coat if he gets cold). But is he wants to play in the middle of the day on Broadway (the very busy street), you better believe I am going to veto that. If my son decides he wants to steal, should I sit back and watch him and if he gets caught, he gets caught? Should I encourage it? Or should I instill in him the principles of karma, the consequences of theft, talk to him about it, offer alternatives to get what he wants, find ways to meet the needs he is exhibiting?
This is how I feel about TV. I exists, and it will for a long time. I can tell my son TV does this to your brain, give him the facts (the proven ones, not my conclusions based on little evidence), show him alternatives (if he wants to learn about trains, lets go to a train. Into animals, hit the zoo) and let him decide if TV is healthy for him. But I feel at his toddler age he might not be able to consider all the information and weigh the sides. Do you all think they can make sound judgements across the board? I feel perhaps at 6 or 7. Most likely by 10 or 11. But if you think a toddler can make sound judgements, but not across the board, how did you conclude TV was one of those things? And other things were not?