Frank: more restoration ?'s

[Kathryn]

Ok, well my husband got on the net with me last night and he looked over a bunch of restoration stuff. He's really excited now. He's not that upset about his body anymore, he's just excited. He ordered the TLC cone (not the tugger) to put over the glans for now to get it more sensitive again. He's not really sure what device to use. I suggested the P.U.D, but he thinks the TLC Tugger would be just fine. I think he's saying that because he doesn't want to dish out the $150 for the P.U.D. Do you have any recommendations as to what to get? He can't use tape because bandaids rip his skin off and he doesn't want the chance of that happening "down there". :LOL He wants to do it as quickly as possible, but understands it's a year long or more process.
When we were looking at all the sites he asked me why there were so many infants cut in the 70's,but not now and I told him that alot of it had to do with the fact that consent wasn't asked. He looked at me horrified and said "But they never get our consent" : I love my dh.

Anyway, whatever you can help me with is awesome.
--Kathryn

[Kathryn]

Frank?

[Nathan1097]

I know of one kit, but it uses tape.

Do a search on Google for "foreskin restoration". I'm sure you'll come up with plenty!

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by Kathryn

Ok, well my husband got on the net with me last night and he looked over a bunch of restoration stuff. He's really excited now. He's not that upset about his body anymore, he's just excited. He ordered the TLC cone (not the tugger) to put over the glans for now to get it more sensitive again. He's not really sure what device to use. I suggested the P.U.D, but he thinks the TLC Tugger would be just fine. I think he's saying that because he doesn't want to dish out the $150 for the P.U.D. Do you have any recommendations as to what to get? He can't use tape because bandaids rip his skin off and he doesn't want the chance of that happening "down there". :LOL

What works is different for every man. I tried a couple of the devices but they were painful to me. I couldn't even use them for an hour before they came off. I ended up using tape and elastic. It was totally comfortable. 3M micropore tape is a surgical tape made of paper and thus can be soaked off with soap and water so that may be an answer. The adhesive is also sensitive to water and comes off easily once wet.

The manufactured devices are expensive because they are hand made, one by one. If you buy one and it doesn't work for you, the money is gone and a lot of experimentation could get very expensive. I decided to try the other methods first and found one that worked for me. It's my modification of the "T-Tape method."

He wants to do it as quickly as possible, but understands it's a year long or more process.

I don't want to discourage him but I don't want him to have unrealistic expectations either. He should realistically figure on three years.

When we were looking at all the sites he asked me why there were so many infants cut in the 70's,but not now and I told him that alot of it had to do with the fact that consent wasn't asked. He looked at me horrified and said "But they never get our consent" : I love my dh.

How true! They didn't ask the only one that mattered!


Frank

[Acksiom]

Originally Posted by Kathryn

Ok, well my husband got on the net with me last night and he looked over a bunch of restoration stuff. He's really excited now. He's not that upset about his body anymore, he's just excited.

:LOL Kool beanz.

Originally Posted by Kathryn

He ordered the TLC cone (not the tugger) to put over the glans for now to get it more sensitive again. He's not really sure what device to use. I suggested the P.U.D, but he thinks the TLC Tugger would be just fine. I think he's saying that because he doesn't want to dish out the $150 for the P.U.D. Do you have any recommendations as to what to get?

Well, Frank is absolutely right about how it's different for every man. It really is -- first there's the physical skin aspects like degree of dryness/oiliness, allergenic irritability, growth rate factors, sensitivity, circulation, age, elasticity, etc., and that's just scratching the surface. Then there's the environmental aspects such as what he does all day, how he dresses, what kind of urination facilities he has access to, how much privacy he wants or needs. . .again just scratching the surface. Then there's the personal aspects; aesthetics, committment, attitude, sensory likes and dislikes, etc.

So finding the 'right' method is basically a mixture of self-knowledge, gut instinct, trial and error, and luck. And to top it off, some restorers hit plateaus where their progress slows to a crawl, and what we've found helps with that is changing methods entirely. So your DH may end up deliberately using multiple methods over the course of his restoration. Which means the best thing to do is to become as informed as possible about the topic.

Originally Posted by Kathryn

He can't use tape because bandaids rip his skin off and he doesn't want the chance of that happening "down there". :LOL

Can't blame 'im! But that's a good example of how there's no one-size-fits-all answer -- tape works very well for many men, but there are some guys for whom it just doesn't or won't work at all.

That might also be why he doesn't want to use the PUD -- it's a tape device too (you tape it to the foreskin and let it all hang out, baby).

So my first recommendation is that with him being so eager, he should start with manual tugging while getting better informed in general. The first few weeks he'll most likely just be wearing out the skin elasticity that's already there anyways, regardless of method.

Second, he should subscribe to Gary Burlingame's excellent Restore-List, here: http://www.eskimo.com/~gburlin/restore/rest.html And for manual tugging, longtime Restore-List member Dave Leary has a great selection of PDFs and JPGs here, including both of Doug Ward's Manual Tugging printouts to get started with: http://homepage.mac.com/dfleary/FileSharing14.html

Third, he should seriously consider getting a print or e-book copy of Jim Bigelow's "The Joy of Uncircumcising", which is back in print again. It's available at the NORM site, here: http://www.norm.org/joy.html HIGHLY recommended -- it's the core manual, the M in RTFM!

Finally, there's a new restoration hub site that shows a lot of promise here: http://foreskinrestorationchat.info/

Good luck, to you for being so supportive, and I hope to hear from him on the Restore-List!

[susienjay]

It's been awhile since dh and I looked at the restoring sites but I don't remember there being too many devices that didn't have to be taped on. My dh does t-tapes with 3M micropore tape. The tape comes off really easy if it gets wet at all. The t-tapes are nice because they can be worn at night. I'm not sure if all the other ones can and my dh generally only restores at night.

I'd never seen the TLC cone before so I did a search on it. It looks good but I'm sure my dh still probably couldn't use it. He was cut very tight and he probably still doesn't have enough skin to roll forward to get the thing on and still be comfortable. A while back I got him o-rings thinking it would at least help keeping the glans covered but he just doesn't have enough skin yet. Depending how tight your dh was cut he may not be able to use that yet. He might need to grow some new skin first.

[Kathryn]

Huh. I didn't realize that PUD used tape. Well, I will share with him all this stuff (and ask if he wants to join that chat site) and see what he does.

[Kathryn]

Originally Posted by errejasu

I'd never seen the TLC cone before so I did a search on it. It looks good but I'm sure my dh still probably couldn't use it. He was cut very tight and he probably still doesn't have enough skin to roll forward to get the thing on and still be comfortable. A while back I got him o-rings thinking it would at least help keeping the glans covered but he just doesn't have enough skin yet. Depending how tight your dh was cut he may not be able to use that yet. He might need to grow some new skin first.

It said that you can use it if you have enough skin to cover your glans when flaccid and he does so we figured it will probably work.