Originally Posted by pfamilygal
I just wanted to insert something here. My son was circ'ed for religious reasons. We may circ if we have another boy - I am not sure (please do not flame me). For the first 3 days it was a little weepy and red, but has looked absolutely fine since then. I was grateful that we had him circ'ed as we discovered his hypospadias quite a bit sooner and were able to have it repaired at 18 months instead of waiting til he was older. He was given a lidocaine shot, sugar water and nursed immediately afterward. He was also given Tylenol every 4 hrs for 3 days.
It seems like mamas on this board exagerrate how terrible circing looks and all the problems associated with it. For someone like me, who is open to information about non-circ'ing, this makes me shut those people out. When all I hear is how they have a wound forever and it's sticky and horrible and causes the child pain for years, I stop listening. My dh is circ'ed and has never had a problem. We have great sex
. My son is circ'ed and has had no problems. Hyperboles tend to make people tune out.
I know you all mean well, but I think the message gets blurred. Not holding a circ'ed baby seems really strange to me. Other parents make different choices than you sometimes and it seems a *bit* controlling to me to say that you could not be friends with someone who circ'ed their child even when you gave them information. I give information to people about breastfeeding all the time and many of them still use formula. They are still my friends.
Just a few comments/questions
1)Aren't religious circs usually done by a mohel or some other type of ritual circumciser?
2)If you don't want to be flamed for being pro-circ then "The Case Against Circumcision" probably is not the right forum for you to be posting pro-circumcision messages.
3)The whole point of this side of the "debate" is that there is no need for it to ever look weepy and red. Not for three days, not ever. And "looking absolutely fine" is a matter of opinion. He is still scarred.
4)Once the MD noticed he had hypospadias, the operation should have been stopped. Hypospadias is a contraindication for circumcision.
5)As far as how people talk on this board. This is the "Case Against Circumcision" board. We are against
circumcision and as such see it in a negative light. Compared to a normal, unscarred, intact penis, yes I do think a circumcised one looks terrible, especially in one so young, especially since there is no reason for it to look that way in the first place.
6) As far as you shutting people out, that is your choice. The truth is sometimes not very nice to hear, but it doesn't make it any less true.
7) My dh and I have great sex too and he is circed. I did have one lover years ago that had a curvature in his penis due to an uneven and very tight circumcision. Sex was very uncomfortable for me to the point where intercourse was very infrequent. Just because one person has no problems doesn't mean noone has any. Some are not apparent until maturity, when the penis reaches its full size.
8)Losing friendships over circumcision I think has a deeper reason than just
the circumcision. For me, it is the morals and ethics of a person who would choose to put a child through something like a circumcision when they know that there is no valid reason for them to do so. The importance of "looking like Daddy" should not overshadow the health and well being (not to mention the rights and freedoms) of their child.
I hope that explains for you a different POV.