if you could chose gender what would it be?

[FireWithin]

I have been wondering about this a long time, and have been reluctant to post because overall, the gender of a beloved baby simply doesn't matter. I know I would adore and love any child whether boy or girl.

I have been wondering though if we would like a boy or girl next. Our toddler is a boy.
We have always imagined having a little girl and would love one. But, we are enjoying our DS's boyishness so much, and have been really loving the idea of having another boy as our second child. I love the idea of having two little boys playing together. We would then hope to have a girl as our third and last child. Since we plan on having three children, I thought that having two boys together would be a good idea in terms of playing compatibility.

So - if you could choose the gender of your second child would it be the same gender of your first, or would you like the other gender?




: : pictures picked by DS.

[Vermillion]

So - if you could choose the gender of your second child would it be the same gender of your first, or would you like the other gender?

I’m not really sure

I wanted a boy so much (and got him!) I feel like now the pressure is off, so a boy or a girl would be great! Having one of each would be nice, but then again 2 boys would also be nice and easy (no buying new clothes!). I really don’t know!

[zoebugsmom]

We agreed on 2 children and I was really hoping for another girl. I just think it would be easier to have two of the same sex. They could share clothes and a bedroom through most of their childhood and I just always pictured myself as a mom of girls. We're having a boy, though, and it's taken some time to adjust to the new picture. I know we'll love him just as much but I do worry about favoritism and treating them differently because they're different genders.

[NoHiddenFees]

It never occurred to we would/could have a boy until well into each pregnancy. We did find out the sex just in case because we didn't want to feel disappointment at the birth and wanted time to "get over it." We've definitely stopped at two for a number of reasons, but I occasionally think a new baby would be nice and even a boy wouldn't be that bad.

[maya44]

I knew that I really really wanted a daughter. I was so happy when DD1 was born.

And then although I didn't care that much, I did hope dd would get a sister, so I was also happy about dd 2.

By the time dd 3 was born, I just felt like a "girl mom." I am sure I would have been fine with a boy, but was so happy when I got my third girl!

[girlzmommy00]

I have 3 girls now. I've always wanted all girls. I'd love to have more children & if I had a choice, I'd just pick more girls. Nothing wrong with boys, I'm just more of a "girl's mom" kind of person. Does that make sense?

[mamawanabe]

Originally Posted by girlzmommy00

I have 3 girls now. I've always wanted all girls. I'd love to have more children & if I had a choice, I'd just pick more girls. Nothing wrong with boys, I'm just more of a "girl's mom" kind of person. Does that make sense?

Yes, exactly. All girls here too. I'm a little worried about waht will happen if I don't get girls. Can't see myself as a mom to boys.

[Carsonsmama]

Originally Posted by Mammo2Sammo

Our toddler is a boy.
We have always imagined having a little girl and would love one. But, we are enjoying our DS's boyishness so much, and have been really loving the idea of having another boy as our second child. I love the idea of having two little boys playing together. We would then hope to have a girl as our third and last child. Since we plan on having three children, I thought that having two boys together would be a good idea in terms of playing compatibility.

This is what we are thinking too. One more boy then girl would be perfect....although it really doesn't matter.
I think it is also a comfort thing....we have a boy, so we know what to do with them...PLus then DS would have a playmate....and all his clothes that we saved would have a use if this next one is a boy too.

[USAmma]

I very badly wanted a baby. Period.

After I was pg I thought a girl would be nice, but honestly I was just thankful to be pg.

Now I have two girls and that seems really nice to me. But then I probably would have said the same thing no matter what I got! :LOL

[annethcz]

Originally Posted by Mammo2Sammo

So - if you could choose the gender of your second child would it be the same gender of your first, or would you like the other gender?

If I could choose, I would choose the same gender. I am very close to my sister, and I want my kids to have the same thing. I know that personality plays a huge role in the relationship between siblings, but I think gender also makes a difference.

That said, I had a boy, then a girl, then another girl. And my oldest children DS (5) and DD (3) get along FABULOUSLY and play together all the time.

BUT, we also *do* have the opportunity to choose the gender of our next child, because we are in the midst of an international adoption. We have chosen to adopt a boy, which means we will have 2 boys and 2 girls. I think that it will work out great.

[zoebugsmom]

Originally Posted by girlzmommy00

I have 3 girls now. I've always wanted all girls. I'd love to have more children & if I had a choice, I'd just pick more girls. Nothing wrong with boys, I'm just more of a "girl's mom" kind of person. Does that make sense?

It totally makes sense. I'm a bit worried about being a boy's mom. I've got a girl and it's been fabulous. I'm not used to boys.

[Willowrose]

I very badly wanted a baby. Period

I've got to agree with this 100%. Thats all we have wanted each and every time we have been pregnant. I love having my boys close in age, as they are really the best friends. I would love a 3rd boy this time around so that he could join in his brothers. I would love a girl this time, as well. It totally and honestly does not matter to us at all. We will love whichever gender we are blessed with.

[UUMom]

I have 3 by birth, 1 by adoption and never had choices. I just wanted a big family and gender didn't matter. When we adopted our dd, our agency did not allow us to choose the gender and our oldest (first) child was a boy.

I have 2 boys, 2 girls (bgbg). My boys are very sensitive, neither too, too athletic, although not couch potatoes in any way, and my girls are the active types--* and* my girls hate dolls . I was really wanting someone who would give me permission to buy Molly (American Girl) and all her crapola. Sadly, not one of my 4 cares about such things.

I love my kids.

[OnTheFence]

With our first child we both really wanted a girl. And got one.
The next child we adopted. It really didn't matter if we were adopting a boy or girl, and we got a boy.
Then I had a surprise pregnancy. I was just so happy to be pregnant. At times I really wanted another girl, but when I was at my ultrasound and they told me it was a boy, I cried I was so joyous.
With this pregnancy I wanted a girl. BAD. I was wanting to plan a pregnancy and do natural gender selection and use conscience conception meditation to achieve having a girl. We were planning to wait another year, but I had already been focusing and meditation on the timing and gender. (I always wanted an early summer baby) While my pregnancy was a surprise, I did get pregnant in Oct with a July due date. And we are having a girl. I was just thrilled with the prospect of having another daughter and so was my DH.

[bri276]

I'm pregnant now and don't know the sex- I only plan on having ONE!!! and I really don't care at all what the baby's gender is, there are so many great aspects of both. but.....

I was thinking today that if I had a boy, and if someone could absolutely 100% guarantee that I would have a girl next, that I would have to reconsider the only child thing. Not definitely change my mind, but reconsider. Not ever having a daughter is something that is hard to wrap my mind (and heart) around. but we'll see.

[TranscendentalMom]

I already have a boy so if I could choose the next I would choose a girl. But honestly, I'm glad I don't get to choose because there is a part of me that feels that I am more suited to raising boys. (I don't have a close relationship with my mom but I do with my dad) I like that it is left up to a higher power. I really feel that I will be happy with either and that it is a decision that is best left up to the cosmos.

[JavaFinch]

Originally Posted by Mammo2Sammo

So - if you could choose the gender of your second child would it be the same gender of your first, or would you like the other gender?




: : pictures picked by DS.

I've been TTC forever so I've had a lot of time to think about this - I think I have no preference. I LOVE having my son and would love another, but I'd also love a girl, too, so I'd be thrilled either way.

With DS I really wanted a boy, though I of course would have been thrilled with a girl, too, but next time (if there is one) I really won't have a preference.

[mrgypsum]

i have one of each, and both are great, different but equal - if my wife and i were to have a third, which we are not!!!! we would be happy with either.

[littleaugustbaby]

With DD, I really wanted a girl. If I ever have another baby, I feel like I'd be really happy either way. On the one hand, I love having a little girl, and would love another one. But on the other hand, I would love to have a son too.

[Sagesgirl]

I already have two girls, and I am perversely hoping this third is a girl as well, because I am so freaking sick of hearing everyone say "Well, hopefully it will be a boy this time!"