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I am just curious why you (the OP) would choose such an area to live in if you knew that you wouldn't be compatible with the environment? It's as if you are setting yourself up for failure if you are already judging others around you and hate your living conditions.And why is it that you assume that if a person has money that they can't be AP? That really bugs me...and sweet-3 said that best.
There are some of us who have money (and maybe even lots and lots of it) who are AP because the parenting choice feels right--which doesn't mean that we have to give up our bank accounts. Some of us can still be LLL leaders and have our kids' educations already paid for! What on earth is wrong with that?
It just means that we are either older, or have planned longer, or were born into a little money. That's it--it has nothing to do with parenting style. PERIOD. And lots and lots of people with money do really really good things with that money--like host children from third world countries, give generously to shelters and are not wasteful or harmful to the earth or to animals/other living creatures. Money isn't always evil.
While you are glad that a few posters have helped you heal childhood wounds, you have (most likely) created childhood wounds for someone else.
And that makes your injury to that child just as bad as the ones you are healing from.
I think your original post and your own responses say a lot about what you expect from the world moreso than anything else. You seem to have a sense of entitlement (you expected this child to give up his toys for your child, etc., your judgments on the other mothers around you), and that's not the way the world works.
I'm sorry if that makes you feel bad, but no one ever handed out "fair play" books to any of us at birth--and it's our job as adults to do the best we can in all situations to rectify that--which includes when others treat us poorly because of our social status, or are cruel to our children-- or even when the weather doesn't go our way and we've planned for months for an outside wedding. And if we can't do that, then we certainly have no business passing our poor attitudes and our sense of entitlement down to our children because we are just making the world a little harder to live in for them.
I hope you can make this situation right--good luck to you.
You owe that child an apology!
