How I respond depends on the parent. I have a former friend who tried to let his 10 week old cio at my house. That baby wound up in my moby wrap. Interesting story, if you want to read it click my name and find the post I started months ago about bf someone else's baby.
Well, a few months later he came over again and did the same thing. The first time she was crying I went and got her. He got pretty irritated with me. He eventually put her back in the bedroom, and turned the monitor off this time. She fell asleep after crying about 10 minutes. However, I haven't talked to him since and don't plan to. I have decided that I simply don't want to be friends with him anymore, and the cio thing is a major part of the decision (he also did this with his ds and he is a pretty insecure little guy
Now, if I were to meet up with Jennymama, and heard her story, I would not react the same way at all. In fact, I might say something like, "That must've been hard on you to have to resort to that. I understand what it is like to try for hours to put a child down to sleep."
If I think about it, I actually HAVE done CIO. I have held my ds on my chest with him kicking and screaming, crying really hard. This happens after I have been nursing him, rocking him, soothing him, for about an hour. Many times his eyes are just closed and then they pop open and he either wants to play, or wants to cry and throw himself around, or he wants to bite my nipples
: . Meanwhile, this whole time dd has been in the other room all alone. Well, unless you count the tv as a friend
. This is not a good situation and it happens almost daily. I have taken him to the dr 3 times in the past 2 months to make sure nothing is bothering him. I have given him Tylenol for teething. I have given him homeopathic remedies. I have tried taking him on car rides. The sling no longer works. If we owned a crib, I have to admit that I might very well be in Jennymama's shoes. I would hate it, and I don't know if I honestly would really do it. But seriously, you can only up your Zoloft so many times...
I plan to try Dr. Jay's method for nighttime weaning soon, and am working on a good naptime routine. But my point is (after all that...) I understand that there are different degrees of CIO. While I am definitely against it in general, I also know that few parents have truly experienced a really really REALLY
bad sleeper. It is hard to see this over the internet, but when I hear Jennymama say she has a close bonded relationship with her dd, I believe her. I know moms who call themselves AP but don't even notice when their baby is crying on the floor next to them. Then other moms have no idea what AP is, but if observe them for a few minutes it becomes clear they follow the AP philosophy.
Ok, I keep editing this post over and over... it is as clear as it is gonna get. I never was good at essays... :LOL