This is such a heated topic. I am a SAHM, and sometimes feel like I am looked down on for it, but heard the same thing from friends who work!! For a long time, I was to say I was a SAHM myself. I would always preface it with before I had ds, I used to.... Isn't funny what we do to each other and ourselves. To me feminism is all about choices. I chose ot stay home, and made lots of sacrifices to do it. But I have to say, when I found myself pregnant with ds1 I was surprised. Got married to my dh, and we started with almost nothing. So each step has been a step up for us. I think doing it the other way is a lot harder. Going from being well off financiallly to giving things up is rough. My sister had fertility problems, and by the time she got pregnant, her husband and she already owned a house, so they would have had to give up the house for her to stay home. Luckily, she and he dh's schedule differ so their daughter only spend 2 hrs a week in daycare. It is such a tough job, and sometimes I have friends who I think everyone would be better off if they worked, because they are so miserable being home!
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5/14/05 at 10:41am