What would make your job as a SAHM easier? - Page 4

[Heffernhyphen]

ME time in the evening. The only time I can honestly say I resent being there for my boy is between 9 and 11 at night. When I put him to bed, after giving him 110% togetherness all day (and I'm talking, co-sleep, co-shower, sit-on-my-lap-while-I-poop togetherness), I really want a tiny chunk of time to watch a movie or read a book. When he wakes up crying at 9:15 and I end up with him attached and unwilling to let go for half an hour, I have to say I give CIO some thought. And I almost wouldn't mind if he were actually hungry and nursing, but it's just that determined deathgrip on my nipple . . . . Little stinker!

[phathui5]

A drop-in, all-day, Montessori infant/toddler/preschool program in every neighborhood.

That would be beautiful. Absolutely wonderful.

And I'd be willing to settle for some other SAHMs on my street.

[Greaseball]

Originally Posted by phathui5

That would be beautiful. Absolutely wonderful.

And I'd be willing to settle for some other SAHMs on my street.

You know what's funny? I got this in my e-mail, minus the part you quoted, so I assumed it was in reference to my suggestion that we needed another wife.

In that context, "I'd settle for some other SAHMs on my street" has a whole 'nother meaning! :LOL

[cancat]

Originally Posted by Heffernhyphen

ME time in the evening. The only time I can honestly say I resent being there for my boy is between 9 and 11 at night. When I put him to bed, after giving him 110% togetherness all day (and I'm talking, co-sleep, co-shower, sit-on-my-lap-while-I-poop togetherness), I really want a tiny chunk of time to watch a movie or read a book. When he wakes up crying at 9:15 and I end up with him attached and unwilling to let go for half an hour, I have to say I give CIO some thought. And I almost wouldn't mind if he were actually hungry and nursing, but it's just that determined deathgrip on my nipple . . . . Little stinker!

wait, did I write this in a sleep-deprived state? (and forget I have a girl) :LOL

[hjohnson]

Sick Days
Someone to clean house (the task I hate)
children that would sleep past 6am in the morning

[shershine]

Originally Posted by Greaseball

A number you could call if you just feel like you're going to lose it and want to lock your kids in the bedroom all day. Then a woman could come by the house and just hang out with you and talk. No judgment, no threats, no suggestions to put them in daycare, no "why did you have these kids if you couldn't care for them," just relaxing conversation to help a mom get centered.

Some cities provide this service to people who are already in the mental health system, but wouldn't it be nice if it were provided to keep one from getting to that point in the first place?

This is an AMAZING idea! I wonder how it could be implemented? I would try to start something like this if I wasn't in such dire need of it myself! I would be so grateful if there was someone I could call when I'm just about to lose it, when the kids are driving each other crazy, when I just cannot bring myself to unload another dish from the dishwasher. I have just been going crazy around here, the "street" I live on (if you could call it that) is so isolating. It backs up to a driveway so the kids can't even go outside and there are NO other SAHM's that I know of. I kept calling up dp all day and trying to talk to him but he is just so busy at work. Where or where is my village?!?

[T. Elena]

There's an organization like this in Washington State (Parent Trust for Washington Children). They have a help line you can call if you feel like you're "losing it" and need someone to help you recenter. Don't think they'll come to your house to shoot the breeze, but -- hey, such is life. I know someone that works there; it's a good group. . . . Here's the URL:

http://www.parenttrust.org/

Maybe there are similar organizations in other states?

[scheelimama]

I don't know if this has been mentioned yet, but seriously, the thing that would make life he easiest for me is a housekeeper, someone to do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. I cannot keep up w/ it and it stresses me out terribly.

That and a paycheck. :LOL

[malibusunny]

money. period. being poor blows. i'm used to living relatively simply but i am not used to the stress/anxiety of being poor. i have all the emotional support i need, i'm very blessed in that respect. i don't give a flying f_ck if the world at large sees what i'm doing as important because I know it is. but, with me at home we are living at 13% above the fpl and going further into debt on a daily basis, and quite frankly, it sucks.

[Heffernhyphen]

Originally Posted by malibusunny

with me at home we are living at 13% above the fpl and going further into debt on a daily basis, and quite frankly, it sucks.

Can you find some kids to babysit for? When I got pregnant, I knew I'd be a sahm (when I was 12 I knew I'd be a sahm), so I called a sahd friend and offered my services if he ever decided to go back to the office. He took me up on it immediately, not so he could go to work, but so he could play some golf, run some errands, check his e-mail without a kid climbing his leg. Two years later, he has gone back to work and my 15 hour diaper money job has become a 40 hour a week actual paycheck, and my kid gets rental brothers to play with every day. It's such a scam!

Good luck!

[Treasuremapper]

A full time housekeeper, a cook, a secretary to handle bills and those tedious time draining chores, and an errand runner / grocery shopper.

Basically, it sure would help to have a team of servants.

[scheelimama]

Originally Posted by malibusunny

money. period. being poor blows. i'm used to living relatively simply but i am not used to the stress/anxiety of being poor. i have all the emotional support i need, i'm very blessed in that respect. i don't give a flying f_ck if the world at large sees what i'm doing as important because I know it is. but, with me at home we are living at 13% above the fpl and going further into debt on a daily basis, and quite frankly, it sucks.

I know what you mean mama. I'm right there with you. I finally applied for food stamps, 'cuz we just aren't cuttin' it. It royally bites when your friends are doing things that cost money, even a few bucks here and there is not something I have right now. And having to decide which bill is the most important one this week...