I'm at work today, also my due date. I have scheduled an accupressure "induction" for Sunday if things don't get moving before that. I have made progress but that doesn't mean that everything's going to just move. But I'm not in any particular danger of anything, so I am willing to wait the two weeks or so after the due date if I don't go into labor. Here's how I'm thinking about it:
1) the baby's estimated weight is about 7.5 lbs. Until and unless it gets over 10 lbs., no pharmacological induction for me. My pelvis can handle a big baby! I am woman, hear me roar! Etc. etc. ad nauseum.
2) As soon as the midwife thinks it's an issue, I would get the placenta checked. One of the big issues of going past date is that the placenta can crap out (technical term?) and the baby won't be nourished. As long as it's working, I don't need to be induced because the baby is OK. I am woman, etc. etc. etc. blah blah blah.
3) I can wait at least 5 days after my due date, because when I had the midterm ultrasound they said I should adjust my due date five days. It's true that my groin is increasingly painful, but I'll just use heat or cold or whatever. Or learn more cowboy songs. Or scream and cry, that's always good.
4) I can wait seven days after that, I'll just count them down. Though I might not want to work at that point! By then I will stand a good chance of delivering on dh's b-day, which would be cool. At that point I might try the castor oil or stripping the membranes. One of my co-workers said his partner used the castor oil in o.j. before she went into labor with their dd. He said it was fine. (bleh.)
At 14 days past due, they can give me the damn artificial oxytocin.
Of course, my water COULD break at work today! I have planned for that contingency and brought sweatpants just in case!
Chelle, whatever you decide to do, at the end of it, you will have a baby. If you get the pitocin today, it might be hard, but at the end--baby! To me, that is the MAIN THING. You are under some pressures that I'm not, since you have two older children and a lot of responsibilities. But don't let your nice doctor pressure you into anything... if anything is pressuring you into a decision, it should be the baby's HEAD!