The Vent:
After recieving form letter #3 denying employment to DH, and watching tears come to his eyes while watching our daughter play; I went to the Welfare office and applied for welfare. They may be able to give us $503 a month 45 days from now. We will have absolutely $0 income as on June 7th when DH graduates from school and loses his trade act / unemployment benefits.
My Jonesy-ish bro who is pulling in about $3k a month, thanks in part to a wife who has no problem screwing the system or people told me I should go get a job at Wal-mart this next week. I told him walking down the street sets me off in hardcore B/H contrax right now 8 weeks before our due date, I don't think working graveyard with a 9 month old baby and with these kind of contrax is a paticularily wise thing to do. When Dwayne heard about this he totally went off, and was irritated all night at the thought someone would think I would need to get a job when it was 'his responsibility' etc. I really shouldn't have repeated what bro said b/c Dwayne is a very proud kind of guy.
So, tonight after Dar and Dwayne went to sleep I started thinking of alternative options. Our house payment (mortgage) is $700 a month and we are one month behind. Electricity (even with watching it!) never goes under $150 a month (and we are $500 in arrears), sewer and water are around $50 a month, phones are around $60 a month (we do have a cell phone), Insurance is $80 a month, and garbage is $50 a month, internet is $22 month.
There is no way that welfare could make our mortgage alone even for one month, basically - Unless a miracle happens, we could be foreclosed on by the end of the summer..
I thought of my dad.
He owns a 3 bedroom, 1 bath home in an itty bitty coastal town of 100 (Nehalem Oregon, beautiful town) and pays approx. $500 a month total to upkeep it. He lives on SS, and is not home all the time. I know he's lonely and he has offered his home for us many times if times got hard.
I've never been really close to my dad, mainly b/c I was brainwashed that he molested me as a kid (thanks mom, I hope those child support payments were worth it), and its only been the last couple years we have started to develop a relationship. He treats Dar WONDERFULLY, and thinks Dwayne's great too. I know we could move in with him, Dwayne could get ANY job and we could pay the bills at the house..Not to sound morbid or anything, but he has already made it clear that when he passes on, it will be willed to me and my two brothers, so his bad health dosen't scare me away from thinking of moving in.
There is a huge place to garden, and its a quiet, nice community that would be perfect to raise a family in...
I guess, its kind of obvious that maybe Dwayne and I should just let go of our home and maybe move in with my dad. It just feels like it would have been a waste of time being here in our home. Both of our babies will have been born here and this is the house that really made us a family...
What would you do in this situation? Is there any way to keep our home that you can see, or should we just pack up and accept the inevitable?
Thanks for letting me vent. Journaling just wasn't helping tonight.
Katie
After recieving form letter #3 denying employment to DH, and watching tears come to his eyes while watching our daughter play; I went to the Welfare office and applied for welfare. They may be able to give us $503 a month 45 days from now. We will have absolutely $0 income as on June 7th when DH graduates from school and loses his trade act / unemployment benefits.
My Jonesy-ish bro who is pulling in about $3k a month, thanks in part to a wife who has no problem screwing the system or people told me I should go get a job at Wal-mart this next week. I told him walking down the street sets me off in hardcore B/H contrax right now 8 weeks before our due date, I don't think working graveyard with a 9 month old baby and with these kind of contrax is a paticularily wise thing to do. When Dwayne heard about this he totally went off, and was irritated all night at the thought someone would think I would need to get a job when it was 'his responsibility' etc. I really shouldn't have repeated what bro said b/c Dwayne is a very proud kind of guy.
So, tonight after Dar and Dwayne went to sleep I started thinking of alternative options. Our house payment (mortgage) is $700 a month and we are one month behind. Electricity (even with watching it!) never goes under $150 a month (and we are $500 in arrears), sewer and water are around $50 a month, phones are around $60 a month (we do have a cell phone), Insurance is $80 a month, and garbage is $50 a month, internet is $22 month.
There is no way that welfare could make our mortgage alone even for one month, basically - Unless a miracle happens, we could be foreclosed on by the end of the summer..
I thought of my dad.
He owns a 3 bedroom, 1 bath home in an itty bitty coastal town of 100 (Nehalem Oregon, beautiful town) and pays approx. $500 a month total to upkeep it. He lives on SS, and is not home all the time. I know he's lonely and he has offered his home for us many times if times got hard.
I've never been really close to my dad, mainly b/c I was brainwashed that he molested me as a kid (thanks mom, I hope those child support payments were worth it), and its only been the last couple years we have started to develop a relationship. He treats Dar WONDERFULLY, and thinks Dwayne's great too. I know we could move in with him, Dwayne could get ANY job and we could pay the bills at the house..Not to sound morbid or anything, but he has already made it clear that when he passes on, it will be willed to me and my two brothers, so his bad health dosen't scare me away from thinking of moving in.
There is a huge place to garden, and its a quiet, nice community that would be perfect to raise a family in...
I guess, its kind of obvious that maybe Dwayne and I should just let go of our home and maybe move in with my dad. It just feels like it would have been a waste of time being here in our home. Both of our babies will have been born here and this is the house that really made us a family...
What would you do in this situation? Is there any way to keep our home that you can see, or should we just pack up and accept the inevitable?
Thanks for letting me vent. Journaling just wasn't helping tonight.
Katie
. Hmmm I know around here there are organizations that will help with electric bills, etc. Don't know about a mortgage though. Reply more later...gg before she bounces me out of the chair. 
