Once again, i am responding to trollish postings.
i am incurable, I suppose.
How about, if your toddler is running towards traffic, instead of grabbing him and smacking his little butt, you scoop him safely into your arms and cry "Oh, sweetie!! I was so scared you'd be hurt!" I think one's tears would have as great, or greater, an impact as a slap, but would more honesty express your feelings. So instead of thinking, "My Daddy hit me because i was bad" then think the truth- "My Daddy was so scared I'd get hurt. I don;t want to get hurt!"
What kind of horrible person beats on a kid who was just almost killed?
This 'safety' and 'running into the traffic' justification for hitting is just *so* tired already. Your kid is in danger, you swoop him into safety and tell him why you did. What is so dang hard about that?
I know batters of children would prefer to believe that those of us to do not hit our children are raising 'brats', but the statistics of those is prison, on drugs, as well as those who simply avoid their parents as adults, tell a different story.
Some folks simply can't face that respect begets respect. It would mess up your whole mindset about war and stuff.