SAHM lazy? Whatever!!!

[HeartsOpenWide]

I am not longer going to socialize when I stand in line in the grocery store…UGH!
I ran into Safeway to grab some milk today. I ended up talking to the woman that was standing in line behind her; here is how our conversation went.
Woman: How your day going?
Me: Great I just took my last final for this semester in college.
Woman: Really? What are you studying for?
Me: I am going to be a midwife.
Woman: Oh what a great career, it will keep you very busy I am sure.
Me: Well, actually I only plan to work full time until I have children. Then I will only work part time when my kids are older. But when my kids are young I will put my work on hold and stay at home.
Woman (rolling her eyes and sighing): I hope the government it not wasting money sending you to school. Why work so hard for something and waste all that time and money in school if you are just going to take a lazy woman’s job …what a brainless (uses those quotation mark finger things) “job”. I fought for woman to be able to work when I was your age!

If my jaw was not stuck to the floor I would have dumped the milk I was buying on her head!

[tyedyedeyes]

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Wow. I can't believe she said that.

[sadean]

I'm not a SAHM, but I fully support every woman's right to choose any path.

I probably would have retorted: (LOVE THAT WORD )

"And gee I thought you fought for women's right so we could all be equal and get to CHOOSE our occupation. You get to go to the boardroom if you want to, and I get to go home and care for my children if I want too. We both win. That is what it is all about isn't it (blink blink)?"

She was an ass and I am sorry she said that to you.

[AngelBee]

:sad

How incredible rude!!!

[sweetfeet]

Wow! She made a huge assumption saying that the gov't was wasting their money. How the heck does she know who is paying for your schooling? I think she has some issues. How rude!

[Momto2boysNagirl]

Wow the ignorance of people never ceases to amaze me.

[mamawanabe]

very weird. She must be mentally unbalanced.

But you are probably safe socializing in the grocery store in the future - her reaction was bizarre enough, so far outside of normal social rules and normal thought patterns, that it won't happen again.

[meowee]

[lauraess]

Gosh that's too bad you had to hear that crap! Do a lot of women 'that' age think that way? I like Sadean's would- be retort*(like that too). When I read it the first time i thought it said : you get to go to the bathroom if you want to...."(not boardroom) :LOL
Uggghhhhh, but i feel sorry tho for those that may have worked so hard to work and maybe find out too late their clock is almost finished ticking and their nurturing instincts havent been met. Maybe she was one of those and resented you for it
Anyway, dont stop talking to people in lines. I think it's great to be friendly and you never know who's day you might brighten.
~L

[crunchy_mama]

wow, that is so amazingly rude! Don't listen to her, women like that have completely distorted what women's rights really are...ugh that just infuriates me! Your kids will not be a waste, no child is!

[cjr]

There is a reason we get a year of maternity leave here in Alberta. The government is realizing how important the role of mother is to the family. Even more important is an educated mother, whether she uses her education or not. What happens if curcumstances change and YOU need to be the one to support your family? At least you will have a good education to back you up should that day ever come. Not only that, but you will be a great role model for your kids. Education is important no matter if and when you use it.

She must not have had kids. If she did she must have let someone else raise them. That's just RUDE. I dare her to spend a day in my home, I'd put her to work and she will never say SAHM's are lazy again.

[RyvreWillow]

omg...i just can't believe someone would have the nerve to say that out loud!

I'm afraid i would laugh in her face, and reply with something equally narrow-minded, such as: "Well, thank goodness we're not all bitter old femi-nazis who would rather have a "life" than raise their children. If you're so conserned with "my" generation, maybe you should have spent more time with your kids...or did you make the time to even HAVE kids?" But that would have been equally rude

[Starflower]

I can't believe she actually had the nerve to say that to you. She stepped waaaaay over the boundaries in so many ways.

Here's a for you.

[Amys1st]

Did you ask her about her menopause while in line? It sounds like she has a bad case of it! :LOL

Do yourself a favor and do chat with people but only when its almost your turn so not much a a conversation can happen or stick to the basics like whats on sale or lovely day- in case you hit the menopausel set that saved the world for us a few decades ago that are now hitting their own hormonal time and jealous of what we take for granted or be lazy with our govt funded everything so we can sit home and eat bon bons.
Wow I said that all in one breath whewww

[Spock]

Originally Posted by RyvreWillow

I'm afraid i would laugh in her face, and reply with something equally narrow-minded, such as: "Well, thank goodness we're not all bitter old femi-nazis who would rather have a "life" than raise their children. If you're so conserned with "my" generation, maybe you should have spent more time with your kids...or did you make the time to even HAVE kids?" But that would have been equally rude

Rude? Yes. Completely appropriate? YES!!!!!

Sheesh. What is wrong with some people?

[artgoddess]

Bee-yotch

[mamajama]

Well that person obviously has some mental health issues and cannot be used to gauge people in lines at grocery stores in general. Her points would be considered valid by some but only the absolute imbalanced of those "some" would spout off like that to a complete stranger in a grocery store.

[mamawanabe]

Originally Posted by mamajama

Well that person obviously has some mental health issues and cannot be used to gauge people in lines at grocery stores in general. .

True. Crazy and/or not a mother - every mother, whether she WOH or not, knows that spending time with kids is emotionally and physically if not mentally exhausting. Maybe, when the kids are long gone, they forget. Anyway, there is something wrong with that woman.

[Treasuremapper]

To put it bluntly, she sounds like she has terrible social skills and has no clue whatsoever about what she is talking about.

Lazy???

Ha!

[wildmonkeys]

What a crazy & mean thing to say???

Doesn't shock me though - people say crazy stuff to strangers. I wouldn't stop chatting with people in the grocery store but I wouldn't overshare your plans either (as you never know what sort of hostile person is behind you in line) after she said "that should keep you busy" I probably would have just said "yep"

Back when I was working pt from home - some of the older women in my office who had returned to work ft after having their kids in the 70's/80's were so mean to myself and others who had worked out relaxed at-home job arrangements....I think they were really bitter about how they had had to do it without the FMLA or telecommuting options. I did feel bad for them but got sick of the mudslinging, too.

BJ
Barney & Ben