Originally Posted by loving-my-babies
we started talking about how the only people that WE know that do this, are not from here (from the US) and that it's like a dirty little secret because if you DARE tell anyone here they will automatically think that you're a bad, irresponsible mother.
My question is.. where does this come from? Was there some kind of a campaign in the US to encourage the use of carseats, that it made it so deep in the minds of people that "carseat=good parent, no carseat=bad parent"? I mean, I agree that carseats are SUPER important, but if I had to put that in a scale and compare it to breastfeeding (since THAT is such a choice here) I'd say carseats are less important than breastfeeding, because carseats only save you IF you have an accident.ry or required by law (not many people own cars, btw) and I never had one when I was a baby OR when my own daughter was a baby (we lived in Chile until she was 15 months)
I had my first baby in 1980. It was not law until 1983 when my second baby was born. I still would put my big girl in the back and buckle her up and nurse her brother in my lap in the passenger seat in the front. At that time only babies under eighteen months needed to be in a carseat, so she did not even need to be in a carseat.
Now the law says children up to sixty pounds need to be in a carseat which can be up to nine years of age for some; school buses should then have carseats!!
AND YES!, I nursed my baby when she cried. Why not?
I remember when the first laws were passed and some of the news items that came over the news reels at the time. I can recall one mother in remote Maine being pulled over as she breastfed; her DH was driving. The policman let them off with a warning.
There were even court cases in which the judge ruled that the baby's needs to nurse were more important than the need to be in the carseat, so some common sense and discretion was used.
However, over the years, the people who sat in those first mandatory carseats are the ones now buckling up their own children into carseats. It has been a generation now.
No one can recall what people did in the past.
I can remember STANDING in the backseat of my parents' 1957 Plymouth Belvedere. It was a two door. The backs of the front seats flipped forward, and did NOT snap back in place. So, when my Father stepped suddenly on the brake, everyone, including my two sisters and I STANDING UP in the back, leaned forward with the motion. My mom sat in the front seat, nursing my third sister.
WE ALL LIVED through the experience.
I know that the laboratory evidence with the demolition dummies showed terrible physical damage to little ones in head-on crashes, but most of the people who did the experiments lived the same way I have lived, standing up in the backseat with the front seats un-secured, leaning forward with each braking motion.
The propaganda from the police departments and from the people who do the experiments and from strong enforcement of the law kept us in line.
You should know that some of the early car seats were dangerous. There are now head supports for supporting the little heads of little ones who cannot support their own head in the early months.
Also, regarding seat belts - the first seat belts were lap belts which have been shown to cause lumbar separation in a front end collision; you must know that something was wrong with them when the manufacturers quietly changed over exclusively to shoulder harnesses.