J is not adament about anything, nor am I - we're always checking in with each other to make sure we're happy with the situation we're in. I think we both feel pretty strongly that the girls are with either one of us most of the time, but I imagine how that looks will change over time. At first, I was at university part time and J. had flexible hours at work. Now that I've graduated I'm at home full time and loving it. Eventually J. would like to spend more time with the girls, so we're trying to figure out ways to live on less so that he can work less, and eventually for me to work 2-3 days and him to do the same. But I still want a couple more kids, so we'll see how it all progresses. An ongoing discussion and evolution!
I, for one, would get my back up with him "insisting". Though I know he prefers the way things are right now (every time we talk about it, he says things like "unless you personally want to go back to work I don't see why we want to change things" )- I know that he would be supportive, but I also know that he really enjoys how nice it is to have me here, y'know!