Who have you told?

[EllasMummy]

DH and I are trying to keep this pregnancy a secret untill 12 weeks. With DD we were so excited we told everyone we knew straight away but I was really worried that if anything happened we would have to untell everyone.

So far we have told just my mother and the midwife of course! DD and I are off to see MIL this afternoon. Its so hard not to tell her but she is so bad at keeping a secret.

I'm so glad I have you mamas to talk to about it or I would be going crazy!

What about you? Have you told or are you keeping it secret for now?

[augustmom]

I have just told my mother and best friend. I used to tell the world, but not this time around. I'm waiting until 10-12 weeks.

[OhMel]

I've told just about everyone with whom I've come in contact. I'm not good at secrets.

[gethane]

my dh and my best friend. We're waiting to tell the grandparents and kids til later, at least 8 weeks, 10 would be better. We'll see how sick and tired I get this time though. Sometimes necessity dictates you tell sooner

[hottmama]

I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow, but I told everyone as soon as I found out, at 4 weeks! I can't keep a secret and wouldn't want to. I told most people around 6 weeks when I was pregnant with Jules, just because I was in Nova Scotia when I found out and wanted to tell people in person.

[LoveMyLil'B]

Just my dh and a few friends. We'll tell the grandparents in a couple weeks I suppose. I will have an u/s at my first appointment at 8 weeks, so we might try to wait that long.

[because]

Everyone.

Except a few people with whom I'm only in contact with via email anymore. I figure those would be the really ackward ones to "unannounce" it to so we're waiting 10ish weeks for them. Literally everyone else knows, though.

[Getz]

Hi, I am Jen and new to Mothering! I got my long awaited BFP this week! (we tried for 2 years).

Anyway, we told my sister, DH's brother, and my best friend. I can't wait to get a bit farther along so I can tell the world!

[Persephone]

First I told dh, then I told you guys at MDC, and other places online. Then I told the doulas at the doula meeting I went to, then I told my parents, and then my friends. I've been telling everyone I meet, lol. We will tell dh's side of the family when the come here for the end of the month.

[ehsclt]

I had planned on waiting until 12 weeks, but I've been so sick, tired and incompetent mentally that I've felt the need to explain myself to many people. So, lots of people know. Also, I really am beginning to show and one person actually figured it out by looking at my belly (brave woman!) and asked.

[Sweeney]

What ehsclt said!

I tell people because I want to make sure they know that I'm not like this usually! It's only because I'm pregnant that I can't do simple math, pronounce words correctly, burp often, etc. I SWEAR! And it's nothing personal if I gag when speaking to you!

Also with my family there's this thing where if you tell one person, you need to tell everyone else as well- or you'll be badgered about it until you die.

So DH knows, both our families know, some close friends know, the midwives know, the person I got recommendations for midwives from knows... Oh, and DH told everyone at work. So only about half the western world

[jillyofthevalley]

Well, we just found out we're expecting yesterday but we're not going to tell anyone for a while yet. I've had 2 miscarriages in the past and it really sucks having to unannounce a pregnancy. Once the morning sickness starts though, it's very hard to keep the secret! Here's hoping it's not too bad this time around.

[ahuva]

This is fun! Last time we told some close friends and family starting at 5-6 weeks, mostly because I wasn't feeling well and needed to explain it. This time, though, we're living abroad and it's easier to wait a bit longer. I guess I'm a little over 5 weeks and we'll probably wait until 8 weeks or so and start making phone calls. I'm having a hard time keeping it from people here--one friend has already guessed-- but it helps to have this board and my midwife who is also a friend. It's nice to see such a range of responses. Last time I actually felt guilty that I told so early, I guess because we're "supposed" to wait, or at least that's how I felt. Now, though, I think that the pressure not to tell cuts women off from support. So we asked ourselves, who would we want to know if a m/c happened so that we could have support? That helped. Glad to have you all!

[EllasMummy]

Thanks for all your replies. Its so so hard to keep it a secret but DH really wants to so I guess we will.

Saw MIL yesterday and managed not to tell her although I am sure she has guessed. I had to pee 4 times in the 3 hours that we were there!lol

[ehsclt]

I am sorry, this is a little off of the topic, but Sweeney, thank you for explaining that you also have trouble with words, math, etc. It seems more pronounced to me this time around and I am glad I'm not alone!!

[gethane]

Originally Posted by ehsclt

I am sorry, this is a little off of the topic, but Sweeney, thank you for explaining that you also have trouble with words, math, etc. It seems more pronounced to me this time around and I am glad I'm not alone!!

And the dropping of stuff! I had a bunch of family over yesterday for a daughter's bday and I was sure they were going to guess because I had a terrible case of the "dropsies." I couldn't keep ahold of anything if my life depended on it .

[Persephone]

Haha, I was dropping stuff all the time too. I'm still like that a bit! I think it had to do with me being so distracted and nervous about being pregnant. I get so clumsy when I get nervous!

[AAK]

So far, my dh, kids and a couple of close friends. One bil knows but he is my chiropractor too so I felt that I needed to tell before a treatment. DH likes to wait to tell--last time we waited to see the hb. However, I will NOT have an early u/s this time so we won't get that early visual. And I know that I look pg far earlier than one would expect--and since swimming season is here that will be hard to hide. So, since my out of town sister is coming in next weekend (assuming that my bloodwork on Mon is good) we will tell at the family BBQ (my family) we will tell dh family that day too. I think I will be 6 weeks then. A bit early...but in my family you can't tell just one person (unless it is my mom--and then she has a hard time with secrets). I have had one m/c at 5.5 weeks but my counts weren't ever good with that one.

Amy

[Benji'sMom]

Only DH & I know. We also want to wait a while, just in case. Well, we told Ben, but of course he didn't understand!

[megpaw]

Well, dh knows of course, and I've told my cousin and sister. I had to tell my cousin so she could help me keep the secret from my sister at a bachlorette party we were all attending (I knew sis would get suspicious if she noticed I wasn't drinking), and then I ended up telling my sister when she tried to smoke in the car. I just couldn't come up with a lie fast enough, so I blurted out "I'm pregnant!" Her cigarette flew out the car window, ha ha. We're planning on telling my mom and the in-laws this weekend, although I know MIL and SIL already suspect. We'll probably blab to everyone after that.

I'd planned on waiting longer, until we got to 10-12 weeks, but I'm too afraid my belly will be obvious before then and everyone will figure it out for themselves. My pants are already getting snug!