Wow! Lots of intersting posts. I'll probably repeat alot, but just some thoughts.
(1) I've stopped buying Mothering Magazine (a magazine I in fact love), because it almost seems to me like Marie Aintoinettes saying "Let them eat Cake!" (Remember the article about the mother who spent all her time sewing costumes for her little girl - not criticizing the mother, that was very creative, but what percentage of the population could consider spending that much time sewing their child's toys? Totally out of touch of the reality of most mothers' lives. And, for balance, I don't see any articles about poor, homeless women trying to AP their baby/child - but I know this exists, and that it's very, very important. Who will be their voice?). So, the magazine was making me feel like one of the poor peasants listening to Marie Antoinette speaking so flippantly from her gorgeous, artificial, pristine copy of a peasant village.
(2)Is there any other magazine that supports stay-at-home moms? Everything I've seen seems to support working mothers, and I've read that writers are admonished by editors to skew things towards the working mothers' side. So, it seems that we really need, in the interest of balance, at least, something that supports stay-at home mothers and TEACHES that it is an option, and a good one for children and mother.
It seems like everything in society is pressuring mothers to be a working mother - the loss of power a non-earning mother has, the loss of status, the magazines and books, ect..... Only, in this comparatively small world of AP are the roles reversed.
(3) Haven't I often read that not only do baby monkeys deprived of a mommy figure end up violent, but also baby monkeys deprived of other age companions to play with? How is a working-at-home mother supposed to find time to make sure her children have adequate time with other children -in the way our society is set up.
(4) I think the problem is the way our society is set up, as people here have noted. Women are not supposed to choose between staying at home and not working vs. working away from home. Everything is supposed to be all mixed up - and children witnessing the work done in society by mothers and fathers while being cared for by both. True feminism would adress this - not women comparing themselves to men to decide what feminisn should be, but asking, as bloody and birthing women with passions, energy, ect... what is it we want and how will we as a group go around getting it? How will we make children a part of the adult world, rather than excluded (so that stay-at-home mothers must then be excluded )
(5) I have more to say, but my child needs me. Since the reality is many mothers need to work or face homelessness, and others feel a strong desire to, maybe it would help if Mothering Magazine published a monthly feature on businesses that support AP parenting, how, ect...along with a list of such businesses in the US. RThen we could support those businesses with our money, and encourage new ones. And a monthly feature on how women manage to combine earning money with AP parenting.
(6) But, please, remember, Mothering Mag needs to push back hard on all the influences pushing non-staying-at home mothering - because no'one else is. But I agree that we need to be inclusive.