Are you finding out what the baby is?

[LolaEight]

I know this is a while away for all of us, but it's on my mind!

I didn't want to find out, since we have one of each, but by daughter is CONVINCED that this baby is a girl. I think that if it's a boy, we'll really need to help her get ready for that. I don't want her to be sad or disappointed when she meets her new sibling because it's the wrong sex, you know?

So what are you going to do?

[Persephone]

Nope, not finding out! For one thing, I don't want a US, and another thing, I like the surprise! But you know that old saying about God not giving you more than you can handle? If it's true, I'm having a girl.

[sarahlynne]

Ditto the not finding out - also because I don't plan on an ultrasound. I didn't with my first and won't with this one unless some specific reason comes up.

[jayayenay]

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[ehsclt]

We're going to TRY not to find out this time. I had one US with each of my previous pregnancies and will have one this time (at 20 weeks.) We found out the other times (both girls) and we plan for this to be our last child, if all goes well. I want to know just once what it's like to find out as I deliver.

[Nature]

Dh and I plan on not finding out. Its hard for us to "opt out" of the 20 something week u/s because we unfortunatly are with an OB instead of a midwife. So I've always found out before. This time I thought about it, and even though it will be difficult if we are having a boy. (2 girls and NO boy things in the house whatsoever) I'm wondering how great the surprise factor will be. We'll be happy either way... but just not knowing and then... SURPRISE! It seems it would be such a happy thing. :

[megpaw]

We aren't finding out....our midwife doesn't offer u/s, so that decision was pretty much made for us! I don't think we would choose to find out, though, even if it was an option. Our first pregnancy was so planned out; we underwent IF treatments so even sex was timed, we found out their sex right at 20 weeks, we had a scheduled c-section so not even their date of birth was a surprise. Although I'm glad we found out with dd's (my dad was dying of pancreatic cancer and we wanted him to know the sex of his first grandkids....he died 3 days after we told him), I'm really looking forward to the surprise this time around!

[LoveMyLil'B]

Nope, not finding out! We will have a 20 week u/s, but like last time, we will say it over and over, "no, we don't want to know". I LOVE surprises! There was nothing like the moment they laid our ds on my chest and dh told me he was a boy. I don't want to lose that moment.

And anyway, it drives our friends and family crazy b/c they want to know! I can't pass up another opprotunity like that!

[ehsclt]

WitchyMama2,

Our situation is similar. I wonder if either of us will have a surprise boy this time. Apparently, chances are somewhere around 85% that we'll have another girl, after having two. That makes the surprise even more fun!!

[SMR]

I'm totally finding out. Even though I already know it's a girl... pendulum said so!

[because]

I WANT to find out but there's really no way to find out. We don't do routine u/s (m/w doesn't do them). The only thing I could think of would be to ask a favor of MIL's boss (a conventional OB who does NOT approve of our choices) and I just don't want to get mixed up in that.

Mostly it's an economic thing - if this is a boy then I want to be able to garage sale for him! :LOL

[Benji'sMom]

My Dr does one US during the pregnancy, and I guess we'll go ahead and find out the sex. For some reason I have a strong feeling that she is a girl . . . It would be nice to buy her some pink clothes beforehand.

[hawaiisunflr]

Lurking....

We have one of each so for our last we didn't want to know.
My son has been saying since I was 2 months pg., that this is a girl. I have a feeling it is a boy.
I keep telling him it could be a boy and he gets mad and says "NO, Girl"


We shall see! I think he will like the idea once the baby is here either way.

[ozzyemm]

DH doesn't want to know. I kind of do, but I don't want to be disapointed if it is a girl and i have been thinking this whole time it was a boy.

We will find out in two weeks whether we are having twins. If we are, they will be doing more tests on us (US, etc.) and the choice may be out of our hands. We shall see

[Nature]

Originally Posted by ehsclt

WitchyMama2,

Our situation is similar. I wonder if either of us will have a surprise boy this time. Apparently, chances are somewhere around 85% that we'll have another girl, after having two. That makes the surprise even more fun!!

My dh is convinced that its probably another girl. He has 3 children from his first marriage, 2 girls and 1 boy. We have one girl together. He says the odds are higher that he just seems to give out more girl sperm. :LOL I would be happy either way, though after having 2 girls... I am a bit afraid of having a boy. It would be like unknown territory for me! Though it also is a bit appealing trying something new. Oooh the anxiety!!

Driving everyone around me crazy because we don't want to find out is something I can't wait to do too!! hehehe

[Nature]

Originally Posted by SMR

I'm totally finding out. Even though I already know it's a girl... pendulum said so!

My pendulum does not like me now that I'm pregnant. But when it has its moments, its been saying "boy."

[saramel]

We are going to find out. I figure everything else about our baby will be a surprise (ie, appearance, personality), I don't need the sex to be a surprise. DH is sure it's a girl. At first I would alternately call it "he" and "she", but now I've pretty much settled on "she".. I don't know if that's because I subconsciously know it's a girl or because DH thinks it's a girl.

[OhMel]

Nope, we're not doing any USs this time. We had them with ds but still didn't find out the gender.

[zjandosmom]

We're going for the surprise! My boys are sure it's a girl?! With all our other pg they have always said we were having boys and only boys. Now it's a girl. We'll see.

There are so few amazing surprises in life, we like to let this remain one.

[hottmama]

Nope, I am not going to find out. I found out with Julian because I REALLY wanted a girl and didn't want to be disappointed at birth. Turns out, he's awesome! So I wouldn't mind another boy, although I'd prefer a girl. But it doesn't matter much to either of us. I don't plan to get an U/S, but if I do for some reason, I don't want to find out.