Originally Posted by Flor
Well, of course!That was not the point. The point was that you have to repeat things many times before a toddler understands.
But I think this isn't just a question of *quantity* of responses, but also *quality*. This distinction is what I see missing in your posts, and what bothers me.
The "no" a parent gives to a child would (I hope) be qualitatively different than the "no" a parent gives to a child who just killed an animal.
I know that my 2yo dc can tell the difference between the response he gets, say, when he throws his food on the floor and the response he gets when he throws a metal toy truck in our face. He gets that one act is taken more seriously than the other--and he modifies his behavior accordingly. He throws food pretty regularly; throwing metal things in our face, not so much.
There is merit to taking a look at the situation from a toddler's POV, of course; but this doesn't mean that we oversimplify matters and downplay the seriousness of the act.