The Diapering Forum - Page 7

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well, my unasked for opinion is that i am SO FOR another separate hyena forum.

i'm with hellokitty in that i used to post there a lot, and don't much anymore because i don't feel comfortable anymore.

and...it just feels so...consumer. yk? there's nothing wrong with buying a bunch of expensive diapers, because you use what you like. but it's another thing when people seem to be really honestly addicted, etc. i posted a while back that my elbee number was up several months ago and got no less than SIX PM's from people who wanted in on my order. they were urgent sounding. and when i passed, people got upset with me! yeah, there is a problem there.

anyways, i'm totally rambling on. i got totally caught up in the whole hyena thing for a few months while pregnant with ds and i'm really glad i am no longer that way...now when i do venture in i just ignore the "So and so stocked, run!" etc, posts.

[PatchyMama]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

Yeah but I've never seen a member who posts more on other forums get called a troll in tao.

I've seen people called trolls in lots of forums ... but that isnt the point. No one on this thread said that was ok.

[Camellia]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

Yeah but I've never seen a member who posts more on other forums get called a troll in tao.

UGH, I am about to pull my hair out! ONE person called ONE person a troll. It is unfair and is actually getting annoying to keep hearing that. Just because one member made a poor choice does not mean that the diapering forum is bad and should be split up.

Sorry if I sound snarky, but I just don't think that statement holds much water when judging a whole forum.

[AngelBee]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

Yeah but I've never seen a member who posts more on other forums get called a troll in tao.

Hmmmm....I have been called worse!

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

So I agree its a problem, but I take issue with the fact that its a diapernig mama problem and we need to split the forum because of that. I see it everywhere on MDC ...

I don't think we need to split the forum because of the cliquishness, although I do think that is a major problem. I think we should split it because the main, NFL message of cloth diapering is not spending tons of money on a dipe or a cover. That is a very select subgroup.

[Camellia]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

I've seen people called trolls in lots of forums ... but that isnt the point. No one on this thread said that was ok.

Very good point.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by Lindsaylou

UGH, I am about to pull my hair out! ONE person called ONE person a troll. It is unfair and is actually getting annoying to keep hearing that. Just because one member made a poor choice does not mean that the diapering forum is bad and should be split up.

Sorry if I sound snarky, but I just don't think that statement holds much water when judging a whole forum.

It was two people calling several people a troll, actually.
And I for one am not judging the entire board by it.
But I do feel that it is symptomatic.

[the_lissa]

My point was not judging a whole forum. My point is people keep comparing it to tao when I don't think it is comparable at all, and that is one of the reasons.

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

Yeah but I've never seen a member who posts more on other forums get called a troll in tao.

I think that was a snap judgement of a couple posters and hopefully they realize now that it was hurtful to a lot of people.

Reading 6 pages of this thread made my brain hurt so I have nothing further to add other than that it was nice to share popcorn with people last night while that thread lasted.

[Pynki]

Mama2kyla..

This actually come up when I was posting all the time I was on in diapering.. The diapering mom's feel comfy with the other women (and men on occasion) who post mostly in diapering.. I get that.. We wanted to share our joys with the people we "chatted" with most..

We were told we needed to get out more and explore TAO and that those people don't bite..

And it's true.. People in TAO don't bite.. Just like people in Diapering don't generally bite..

But it is a perception that people who haven't or don't post in diapering often have.. That it is sort of an "elitist" forum.. And before last night I could NEVER figuire out why they felt that way.. I have posted in diapering NUMEROUS times over the last 2 years.. I wouldn't have STARTED cd-ing if it wasn't for that forum and a great friend I made from MDC.. I didn't know that cd's even existed..

I am THANKFUL for the forum.. But many posters don't feel comfortable posting there.. And I not just me or the posters from that thread last night.. And perhaps that's something we all need to look into..

Warm Squsihy Feelings..
Dyan

[Oh the Irony]

Originally Posted by stacey0402

.There were threads in Diapering just a few months ago that started as a joke in the TAO forum. One of the mommas who started a thread asked for hers to be pulled because she felt bad because it was just a joke to see if anybody would respond. I know a lot of mommas remember them clearly.
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: i didn't start that thread, but i was involved and did ask for the thread to be removed. and we communicated in a nice manner about it. i would not participate in a "pick on diaper mamas" thread in the diapering forum.

i did post on the thread last night, and in complete seriousness. i do know some about nym's situation and was happy that she got something that works so well. i used that same type of prefold with my son.

[Camellia]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

It was two people calling several people a troll, actually.
And I for one am not judging the entire board by it.
But I do feel that it is symptomatic.

I guess there were several people insinuating trollish behavior at others. It just seems like when this thread starts to get somewhere someone pops in with the troll comment.

I personally don't care if the forum gets split. I tend to just use the new posts feature and post on whatever thread interests me.

I do find the TAO and Diapering boards similar because they are both busy and have a large number of regular posters. It seems comparable to the two "main groups" in a highschool. :LOL With that high traffic and regular posters comes a culture that "outsiders" don't "get". I think since diapering is a topic that many people need to gather useful info from maybe a seperate section would be good. On the flipside, the "info." board might get neglected and questions may go unanswered.

[PatchyMama]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

I don't think we need to split the forum because of the cliquishness, although I do think that is a major problem. I think we should split it because the main, NFL message of cloth diapering is not spending tons of money on a dipe or a cover. That is a very select subgroup.

I disagree... Natural Family Living doesnt make any restrictions about cost. In fact, when I think of NFL and household items I think of organic cotton stuff.. which many times is expensive. Sure you can find econmoical organic products.... but being NFL doesnt have to mean you have to use the cheapest things you can find. Nor do I think that mothering advocates that. If they did you wouldnt see advertisements for expensive slings on the main page (right now the featured product is a sutemi carrier). You can wear your baby without it, but that doesnt mean its not nice to have. There are numerous products that mothering.com promotes on their site that are complete luxuries and overpriced. Same for expensive diapers.

[IdentityCrisisMama]

I find the diapering forum a little intimidating. I was a simple CDer and would actually like to go back and talk about my experience and help new mamas but diapering is so different from, well…my life.

If I were to start diapering again, I don’t think I would use the forum. But, I *would* definitely get involved in a simple diapering forum. In fact, I would post there now. Recently, I posted for a mama who said she was intimidated by all the choices. I was happy to share my experience.

[stacey0402]

Originally Posted by wolfmama

: i didn't start that thread, but i was involved and did ask for the thread to be removed. and we communicated in a nice manner about it. i would not participate in a "pick on diaper mamas" thread in the diapering forum.

i did post on the thread last night, and in complete seriousness. i do know some about nym's situation and was happy that she got something that works so well. i used that same type of prefold with my son.

My memory is sooo bad, I didn't remember specifically who it was I don't harbor any ill feelings, just trying to give a history of my thought process I feel like crap for what happened to Nym's thread. It just sucks.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

I disagree... Natural Family Living doesnt make any restrictions about cost. In fact, when I think of NFL and household items I think of organic cotton stuff.. which many times is expensive. Sure you can find econmoical organic products.... but being NFL doesnt have to mean you have to use the cheapest things you can find. Nor do I think that mothering advocates that. If they did you wouldnt see advertisements for expensive slings on the main page (right now the featured product is a sutemi carrier). You can wear your baby without it, but that doesnt mean its not nice to have. There are numerous products that mothering.com promotes on their site that are complete luxuries and overpriced. Same for expensive diapers.

I guess that's where we would disagree- I don't find rampant consumerism to be part of NFL. Some aspects of it are expenseive because there isn't a great demand for them, other than for crunchy mamas like us, but for the most part I always felt that NFL embraced simplicity.

As far as the ads- I have no problems with the ads. I have no problem with people spending their money however they wish. I might personally think their nuts, but it's their money. I do have a huge problem with it be glorified to the point where it's acceptable to ridicule others for embracing simpler methods.

[Sustainer]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

I guess my point is- who cares if they were "regular posters" in the diapering forum or not? Why is it a "we" versus "them"?

It isn't about us vs. them! Please re-read what I said: If those first few posters had been regulars in the Diapering forum whom we all knew were friendly toward our diapering culture, there wouldn't have been any suspicion about malicious intent. I don't know how to state that any more clearly, so I'll try using an example. Suppose there's a regular in the Diapering forum named XYZ. I have read many of XYZ's posts expressing her genuine enthusiasm for many different diapers. I know, from reading her posts, that she doesn't have a problem with people buying whatever kinds of diapers they like. I know from reading her posts that she is sympathetic toward someone who wanted to buy a particular diaper but someone else got to it first. Therefore, if XYZ had posted the thread in question, I would have been sure that it must be meant in an entirely innocent way. When someone who isn't a diapering regular comes into the forum and posts such a thread, I don't have any idea what their attitudes are about the above things. What I do have is the knowledge that there are MDCers who are bothered by the above things in the Diapering forum.

[PatchyMama]

I am THANKFUL for the forum.. But many posters don't feel comfortable posting there.. And I not just me or the posters from that thread last night.. And perhaps that's something we all need to look into..

Absolutely, I am not arguing that. But I think it needs to be addressed board wise... not just diapering. I know many christian/Bush supporting mamas (who i am not one of FTR :LOL) dont feel comfortable in the NWEs/Current events forum..... same situation but there isnt a post here about that forum, kwim?

[Jumblepuff]

I don't think we need to split the forum because of the cliquishness, although I do think that is a major problem. I think we should split it because the main, NFL message of cloth diapering is not spending tons of money on a dipe or a cover. That is a very select subgroup.

I think this hits the main problem, and this is coming from someone who has been there, done that with the whole hyena diaper thing.


ETA I don't think it is so much about price even, more that there is just such a focus on buying and continue to buy even when you have plenty. For me that is overconsumption plain and simple and just because we all do it in one area or another doesn't mean there should be a forum dominated by it.

[PatchyMama]

I do have a huge problem with it be glorified to the point where it's acceptable to ridicule others for embracing simpler methods.

But no one was making fun of anyone for using prefolds! Some people thought they were in fact being picked on so they lashed back..... its not ok, but it really has absolutely nothing to do with the prefold itself.