Getting re-married to a man who has never parented a child!

[BathrobeGoddess]

I am to be married this coming May to a wonderful man who has never lived, fathered or been close to children. He is trying very, very hard but my 7 yr old DD has taken his inexsperince and turned it against him. She has figured out how to push his buttons! And he is at a loss. I have tried to guide him in my ways but, alas, they don't seem to work for him. What would be your fatherly help I could share with him? He is afraid he is going to "damage her."
(DD is still in contact with her dad and sees him 3-5 times a week but never sleeps over. Dad and new DH get along great as do I and X. Just a little background)

[familyman]

ds is close to 8 and over the past year he is stretching his boundries, and pushing my buttons in the process, just tell dh to embrace chaos in his life, it is working ok 4 me. maaybe if x and dh get along, all three of them should try doing things together so dd sees dh is not trying to push her daddy out of the picture?