I generally stick to diapering on MDC, but the last couple months have been increasingly rougher for me and I thought i'd pop by the working mom area and look for some support, or atleast sympathy
I started reading this thread and i'm really really sad. Not only does it really hit on the reason i was upset in the first place, but makes me feel even worse about it!
I make more than DH, but not by much. We both don't make very much at all. Unfortunately, DH makes about 50 bucks A MONTH too much to qualify us for any government help, but that gives you a idea of how little he does make. I make like 100/mth more than he does.
I did the math, over and over and over again. If we just stayed in a 1bdrm apartment. If we sold one of the cars (both of which are paid for)
If I clipped every coupon, and shopped every sale.
If I could only just find money where there wasn't any.
But the facts remain, we need X ammt of gas to get my hubby to work.
We need X ammt of money for food. I can live on 60-70 a month, but my hubby likes to eat more than once a day
We need roughly 200/month for medical shit for my hub, between scripts and dr's appts.
No matter how I wangled it, I still had to work.
And i'd need daycare. And working parttime/retail wouldn't cut it because i'd be making what I was paying daycare, and what sense is there in that??
I an a very very poorly paid IT sys admin. (less than half industry standard) but they don't give me TOO much grief when I call in "sick" because i've had a migrane for 3 days and haven't slept, and C decided to keep me up til 4am to boot...
Or when I call in because DS has a ear infection, or hives from his vax's (monday)...
And until recently I worked M-W-F, and usually a couple hours either at nights on tues/thurs if needed, or on the weekends (very common)
but since we have moved offices, i've been working my BUTT off. 100-120hr workweeks (all for about 3 bucks a hour. yipee)
I breastfeed, I'm a totally attached parent, and I cloth diaper...
It really makes me sad that I can't stay home with my DS. I'm working on a plan right now (i'm gonna see if I can't land a better paying M-F job and save up for a year, eventho it kills me to spend LESS time with my baby boy) to work and save for awhile, then start a daycare at home. With 2-3 babies I'd be making as much doing daycare as I make right now working insane crazy hours.
It really upsets me to think that not only are people judging me a "bad mother" for working, when believe me, i'd much rather be a SAHM, but also feel like i'm not welcome at mothering because of that.
If mothering will provide me with a DH that makes about 40-50K a year, i'd be happy to be a SAHM. Just let me know where to email my mailing address.