Homeschooling w/o DH's support.....

[Kindermama]

DH is seeing me struggle at home this past year with a new pregnancy, "adopting" his son (he's home with me fulltime & his mom is basically out of the pic), new baby, new town etc. Things have been crazy at times. So, now he thinks that I'm "unfit" to homeschool...he says "I already have too much on my plate" to which he is right...but as Ellery is growing, everyday seems to get easier than the last. I already bent on my homeschooling plans by sending Kaya to a montessori kindergarten this year because back in Sept. I was still adjusting to my "new" life. But I was looking forward to homeschooling this September (have the curriculum & most of the supplies already and I have access to a homeschooling group in my area), to which he was supportive last year...but is not now. He wants her to go to the public school 3 blocks down because after all its one of the top 30 public schools in the state.
I'm finding it hard to "argue" with him. But I'm assuming homeschooling is a no-go if your partner isn't supportive of it, right? Any experience in this dept?

[Jen123]

homeschooling is easiest when both adults involved agree. Kids pick up on the littlest disagreements between parents. (at least mine do)

if his sole worry is you being overwhelmed you can point out all the activities you'll have to do when the child is in public school. Room mom , field trips , dropping off , picking up , school plays , pep rallys , parent/teacher meetings , room parties ,monitoring homework , etc..... and most of those things you'll need a sitter for. Younger kids aren't welcome. So add finding babysitters to that list.

In many ways you'd be exchanging one set of stresses (having kids home all day every day) for another set of imo , more demanding stresses.

My husband often worries about me overwhelming myself. He says I have too much on my plate to take on new things. I welcome his critique. He knows me better than anyone else. There have been times when he sees my load more clearly than I do. You are blessed to have a man who is concerned about your mental/physical health.

[baybones]

Hi Erica. I wonder if he'd let you do some during the summer as a time that you can prove it and show him how wondeful it can be? Kind of a way to meet in the middle? I don't think it should be his way or the highway... but I don't think that it should be that way for you either.....there's got to be some common ground that you can agree on....even if you do a trial period or something. I wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted!

Sarah

[mama_kass]

Jen123, excellent post!

I don't know your situation well enough to lend any helpful advice. I do think that both parents have to agree on their child's education. You both need to sit down and talk about this further.

[Kindermama]

Originally Posted by baybones

Hi Erica. I wonder if he'd let you do some during the summer as a time that you can prove it and show him how wondeful it can be? Kind of a way to meet in the middle? I don't think it should be his way or the highway... but I don't think that it should be that way for you either.....there's got to be some common ground that you can agree on....even if you do a trial period or something. I wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted!

Sarah

heyyy I know you! :LOL

We talked a lot last night & he gave me the "go-ahead" to start in August and see how it goes...if it doesn't "go"....public school starts in Sept!
The pressure!! The pressure!!

[baybones]

Originally Posted by Kindermama

heyyy I know you! :LOL

We talked a lot last night & he gave me the "go-ahead" to start in August and see how it goes...if it doesn't "go"....public school starts in Sept!
The pressure!! The pressure!!

That's great that he's willing to give it a try!! You will have a lot of pressure, but at least you have a couple of months to fine tune your plan and hopefully it will go smoothly! I plan to school right through the summer this year, since I'll be birthing in late August/early September. I know I'll need some time off after this baby is born!

Sarah