|I don't think that any member of an oppressed group should have to watch what she says because she should be worried about offending a member of the oppressing group because that person is someone she needs as an ally. I really, really hope that isn't what you were saying, because that was the only relevance I could find to this situation from your anecdote.
no, you misunderstood my point. They were asking for us to be understanding and stand on their side when a very unfair law was in the works. But they were unwilling to do the same to others. I do agree that they should not have to do something for "hetro-points" or something, but IMO they were shooting themselves in the foot. I realize that the dominate culture has a lot of advantages over the non-dominate culture so please don't try to twist my words in that way. But I also think that members of the non-dominate culture should be willing to see that not ALL of the members of the other group are against them, in fact some are very much working to make it better. When the news was on showing gay partners getting married in Multnomah County, I called my dd into the room and told her with tears in my eyes that she should remember this day because something big and wonderful happened. When they decided to revoke the licenses, I cried. I can't count how many measures that I have votes against to insure rights for gay people. I have attended gay rights parades and signed this and that. I have even took a shift calling people to encourage them to vote pro-gay in the latest election. I realize here that I am a member of the "oppressing class" but I do try to look at things another way. I do agree with the above poster that a lot of us have been oppressed.
And to assume that I have never been oppressed, made fun of, the butt of jokes, an outsider, would be wrong. And for me to assume that I don't have an extreme amount of previledge based on my color and sexual preference would be wrong on my part.
But because I am hetro, I am the enemy? Maybe we need a bigger way of looking at the world.
And the reason that I choose the word "Attack" is because the OP did not just say that "some of the sigs" were offensive. She took one and labeled that mama as all sorts of things including homophobic and sexist. THAT IMO is attacking that mama.