"Embarrassed" about how I was during birth - Page 3

[soccerchic21]

Sorry I didn't read all the replies to I apologize if I am repeating what someone else said....

Oh honey! What you did is so natural. I moaned very loudly with my first birth and I was VERY rude to DH and my mom at times. I even made my mom cry.

I think that we watch these wonderful births on tv or in movies and think that all women just hold their breath and push but most births aren't like that.

[crayon]

I am a screamer! YES BABY I AM!!! I warned my MW's :LOL My MIL told me about when she had DH how this lady was in another room screaming and she just didnt get it. I had to tell her that I screamed my head off. With DD1 it was so I could drowned out the damn doctor and nurses- I was a self transfer to the hospital and I was so upset I just didnt want anyone to even touch me let alone talk to me- so I figured the louder I screamed the less of them I had to hear. And with DD2 it was the way I got my energy to push her out. I dont mind being a screamer, it gives me funny stories to tell people! Yes I am the crazy screaming laboring woman!

[mweb]

Cath Toria, thanks for posting this - you sound brave and wonderful to me. I feel pretty sure I'll be loud and rude myself - my goals are simply to not have it result in a lawsuit, arrest for GBH, or a divorce.

Oh, and to the praying atheist - me too, and I already found myself reacting to a slightly scary (non-pg related) situation with "Jesus Mary & Joseph"! I'd imagine I'll be "celebrating" a whole Mass during transition! :LOL

[because]

Originally Posted by CathToria

has anyone else exrerienced this? Does it "feel" better as time passes???
TIA

Yes!! To both questions.

I was reeeaaally loud during my labor with DD. I actually had a sore throat the next day. It wasn't at all how I had planned to be but I guess I shouldn't have been surprised since I've always been vocal. It doesn't help that my parents (who were both there) still tease me about it. My dad even kept a "log" of some of the funny things I said and the times.

It was a long time before I felt good and empowered by the birth even though it was a practically textbook good homebirth. I didn't watch the video until maybe 6 months?

But as time passed and I finally did watch the video and I saw the photos and I read more birth stories and knew what it actually meant when the authors said they yelled alot... I became OK with it and then I started to revel in it and feel like the goddess I should have recognized within myself to begin with.

Give it some time and be gentle on yourself. You are amazing and knew exactly what to do for yourself at the time. I promise you will look back on this in awe of yourself.

[Moonstone'sMom]

You're not alone! I was hospitalized for six weeks during my pregnancy. My room was next to the water birth room, so most births in there were natural. You wouldn't believe how much screaming I heard. My doctor friend told me to visualize being in a brothel next time. That gave me a chuckle!

[FrumDoula]

Originally Posted by Moonstone'sMom

You're not alone! I was hospitalized for six weeks during my pregnancy. My room was next to the water birth room, so most births in there were natural. You wouldn't believe how much screaming I heard. My doctor friend told me to visualize being in a brothel next time. That gave me a chuckle!

I am always struck by how similar natural childbirth sounds are to good sex sounds! In fact, I think that's one of the reasons that medical personnel tend to push meds so often - perhaps they're uncomfortable with sexy sounding women in a birth room?

[Britishmum]

Originally Posted by doctorjen

I've also noticed in my clinical practice that if a generally mild mannered laboring woman says the F word, a baby shows up pretty soon.

That's so funny. My m/w told me that she'd been about to leave the centre for a while when she heard my change in tone and umm, colourful language. I'd only been labouring for 15 minutes or so, but she came back into the room and ds was born two contractions later.

She said if I wasnt normally so British and polite, she wouldnt have realised and may have missed the birth. :LOL

OP, I won't tell you here what I yelled at dh as I had baby#3. It still makes me embarrassed to think about it. But both my m/w and my doula later told me that they had thought it was very amusing (he was talking about getting the camera organised and told me to 'hang on a minute' )