Nov/Dec/Jan UCrs (WINTER birthers, come on in!) - Page 3

[MamaFern]

quite often? ive seen her once this pregnancy, but she was my midwife at my sons birth as i said before, and we became good friends.. nothing more than that if thats what you were implying :LOL though she is very beautiful!

[Mamaperk]

I'm due December 18 - 23 ... must go by conception rather than LMP because there was only one weekend that we could have conceived, and even if I 'technically' ovulated a few days after that weekend ... there is no way my LMP due date of 12/14 would work! LOL! So based on the conception being Easter Weekend ... and the latest possible ovulation ... I figure I'm due between 12/18 and 12/23. I'm just praying for the baby to come BEFORE Christmas!

[DreamsInDigital]

After a very powerful dream I had about a UC, I am very seriously considering it over a hospital waterbirth with the same CNM that delivered Kolaiah. My DP is fully supporting whatever decision I make, thankfully. He is a little comfortable with the idea of a UC but he trusts my decisions, and I trust my body's ability to birth babies easily. So I'm here, not decided yet but seriously considering.

[librarian]

I'm due around Thanksgiving, but giving people a vague "around the holidays". I've got lots of kicking going on--even dh can feel it!
This is my 5th pregnancy, 3rd baby, hoping to be my first (but not last!) UC.

[Rockies5]

My checking in...

after trying to decide between 2 different things (mw prenatals, or fully paid OB care) I decided to just forget the whole thing.

know what? my severe sorning sickness is instantly gone and I feel fantastic. :LOL :LOL Must have been due to stress.

This baby is mine and so is the pregnancy, noone can make certain or double check my insticts...so thats the end of it.

I'm really enjoying myself now

Who was it that said I should have one more to make it an even #?? that's been the problem all along. I want an odd number, and he wants even. He's getting fixed next month so I win. I just know so many has been tough on my body, I don't have the best genes in the world and am already in a good deal of pain from my joints. limited energy and creativity and time. More children does mean compromise.

ha ha I'll be using my co-pay for the chiropractor instead of the OBGYN. You know, when I called (the ob) they said they don't give interviews and then preceeded to tell me to "expect a pelvic exam" I mean, ick. So thn the next day the BILLING OFFICE calls me. they don't even have time for a conversation, but the do have the means for a billng office and want me to come in and sign stuff and what not. I told them to blow it out their ears.

anyone know how to find a good chiro? questions to ask etc? I

[Arora The Explorer]

Whew! I haven't checked in for a little while and there are so many posts! It's so cool to see our little group getting to know each other better!

MamaFern, I was just trying to figure out if you loved your MW because you all grew up together or she's your cousin or something! But, you're friends - you guys get together regularly then even when you're not pregnant. I get it now. I mean, a MW WOULD be a pretty cool person to have for a lover, but that wasn't what I was thinking. It seems like on so many more mainstream boards moms LOVE their OBs. And, so your use of the word, made me wonder how you meant it. Typically when I hear someone LOVING their OB, they'll go onto explain how their OB was there for them and saved them in some way or another. That kind of love puts me off, because it's like the OB is taking away the emotions that should be for the woman's partner or the woman herself and her baby. That kind of love in my mind should be reserved for the people actually doing the birthing. It's like a displaced kind of love, just because the OB was the savior. Insert frequently heard comment like, "If my OB hadn't been there I couldn't have done it/my baby would have died/I would have wanted to die/etc."

Sherry -- I'll pray your baby comes before Christmas, too! Dec is just SUCH a busy month. How will we ever find the time to birth!!! :LOL It would be much nicer to have a baby in arms by Christmas or whatever holiday is celebrated in everyone's famililies. I'm a little concerned about not getting the postpartum support needed having a baby during the holidays. I had another holiday baby and suffered PPD after that. I'm trying to figure out how to get the help I need after this baby. We have free doulas here, but they want to attend your birth... um, that Idon't want. Now... can I afford a Post Partum doula? Can I afford to not have a Post Partum doula? I don't know!

Ashe, glad you're here to explore. This thread is just the tip of the iceburg as far as the informaion resources here on this board. I believe in your body to birth your baby free from outside interventions.

Welcome Librarian! Looking forward to getting to know you better. This will be my 3rd homebirth, but first UC as well.

Carrie -- glad your M/S went away! That's NICE. ok, and ewww about the OB. Yuck. Good chiro... I'd ask around IRL for rec's. For me I don't want anyone that will POUNCE on me. I like slow gentle chiro, even just that pressure clicky thing is nice.

Wishing you all a wonderful day.

[cathicog]

Tell nosybodies that you are waiting til 43 weeks, when you know the baby will probably be ready by then so you can avoid the typical preemie that arises when doc says its time and mom knows better but he/she won't listen to her....

[hottmama]

I'm 12 weeks tomorrow, and ALL my symptoms are gone. I haven't even felt the fetus in a while. Freaks me out a bit but I know it's normal for this stage- I just wish I'd get to the point where it's impossible to think something's gone wrong (kicking lots, heartbeat, etc).
My babe is due Dec. 26 and I really do not want him/her born before Xmas.
I'm pretty sure my son has whooping cough, but so far I don't. I couldn't find anything saying it was dangerous to fetuses, just to newborns whose pregnant moms had it during the last month of pregnancy.

[littleteapot]

hottmama -
I also haven't felt much movement. This time last pregnancy I was feeling a lot, but in this one I've felt maybe one or two movements a day, and even then I have to be paying attention. I think this baby and DD are just VERY different temperments.

[MamaFern]

arora: thanks for that in depth explination :LOL

i love her because she supported me to have the birth i wanted with my son.. not because she saved my life or anything like that. and in so many ways i felt so empowered that i feel like i can do it alone this time around. i know a lot of woman who choose UC ebcause they have had bad experiences with midwifes, ob's.. i guess i feel lucky to be the other way around.

[kynd mama]

I'm actually with you, mama!

Because of my first two waterbirths with my sons with a midwife, I feel more empowered than ever. (It was L's "surgical removal" that sucked. : ) Now, assuming that I never met her, though... I wonder if I would have perhaps done it freestyle all along? hmmm... there's a thought to ponder!

I was a mere 19 when I was pregnant with my first, and just about everyone I knew thought I was insane for even CONSIDERING a waterbirth, or even a midwife at my birth! I fired my OB the first time I met her, right there on the spot... :LOL (The other 2 appts. I had, I only saw her nurse). I did some soul searching first, then educated myself second. LOL

Freestyle is the way to go!!!
...and I'm virtually certain the babes give it two poopy diapers, too!! boy: girl:

[folkymom]

Wow, I've missed a lot recently! You chatty cathies!

Carrie - the best kind of chiro to look for is a non-force. Officially it's called DNFT - Directional Non-Force Technique. Check out http://www.nonforce.com/ and there's a referral list there to help find one in your area.

I'm 17 weeks this week, and shrinking! My belly was much smaller last week than it had been for the previous several weeks (not my fundal height, which is up around 23-24cms. . .just my actual belly!). I have also stopped feeling much movement. I would be a little freaked if my dh hadn't reminded me that this basically happened last pregnancy too. I went back to my notes and yes - at week 16 I had an "I'm-shrinking" freakout. (I couldn't believe his memory!) I guess things are just re-settling or something. I also sort of feel like my placenta might be *right* in front, which is limiting my ability to feel baby movement. That will be a bummer if it stays there!

[DreamsInDigital]

I have been feeling a lot of movement lately, I'm 17w2d and I think the baby had the hiccups this morning!
Phew! I have been having so many headaches lately. Yuck.
Thanks for the warm welcome Arora. Hopefully I'll stick around. I'm definitely on the hunt for as much info as I can, mostly for DP's comfort.

[Castle]

Hi! I'm joining you guys.

I'm "due" December 11, but my first came at 38 weeks, so maybe I'll have a November baby? Only time will tell.

I had a planned UC with my first, and she'll be two at the end of the month. I can't believe it's been that long! Her birth was excellent, everything I had envisioned, except for a tear that I wanted stitched, so required a trip to the hospital. I had gone for OB prenatal care the whole pregnancy, I "discovered" UC halfway through that pregnancy and decided to keep up the charade. DH and I never told anyone but my one best friend about our UC plans, and even after the successful UC, we told people it was an accident. Gradually over time since then I've spilled to friends and family that it was planned.

With this one, I've decided I want professional prenatal care again. I just like the routine of going somewhere, getting weighed and hearing the heartbeat, plus having someone in real life (besides DH) that wants to hear about how I'm feeling and doing. So I'm seeing midwives at a birth center, since my insurance covers it, and I'm keeping my UC plans secret from them so far, since I'm not sure yet if they're the type who support UC.

Well, there I've gone and gotten all long-winded. LOL

[Rockies5]

WELCOME CASTLE!! : Congrats on your newest bean.

I'm around 10-13 weeks and my bump is shrinking as well. I'll just blame it on formerly poor posture and gas, from all the fruit and veggies I felt i SHOULD EAT. I've gone back to my normal diet, well because my diet was already great and I was stuffing myself b/c a book told me to before

My IL's are visiting from ou of town and it's fun to keep my little secret. Still did they always think I was a slob? MIL is doing all the cleaning and childcare (cept for my sweet baby) and I'm wearing stretchy pants and spending my afternoons knitting :LOL :LOL

havent booked with any chiros yet, no time no time. I did find that my insurance covers about 25 in my town, so I have a good chance of finding a nice one that wont crack and wrentch me outta shape. thats for the advice.

I'm up late making some skirts to wear to work, wish me well and straight hems!

Happy Fathers Day

[Rockies5]

WELCOME CASTLE!! : Congrats on your newest bean.

I'm around 10-13 weeks and my bump is shrinking as well. I'll just blame it on formerly poor posture and gas, from all the fruit and veggies I felt i SHOULD EAT. I've gone back to my normal diet, well because my diet was already great and I was stuffing myself b/c a book told me to before

My IL's are visiting from ou of town and it's fun to keep my little secret. Still did they always think I was a slob? MIL is doing all the cleaning and childcare (cept for my sweet baby) and I'm wearing stretchy pants and spending my afternoons knitting :LOL :LOL

havent booked with any chiros yet, no time no time. I did find that my insurance covers about 25 in my town, so I have a good chance of finding a nice one that wont crack and wrentch me outta shape. thats for the advice.

I'm up late making some skirts to wear to work, wish me well and straight hems!

Happy Fathers Day

[MamaFern]

i thought i'd come say hello.. its been a while

not much excitement these days. baby is moving lots, especially yesterday.. we were at an all day street festival in our community and baby loved the music! im 19 weeks and...3 days? something like that. my belly is definitly growing! fundal height is still a bit high, but im not worried.. its not so high that im thinking twins, and i recall from my first pregnancy that i measured big till about 30 weeks and then tapered off, so i dunno.. at this point i feel like its silly for me to check but i cant help it when i ve got my hands on my belly

im going to continue with my midwifery care, mostly because i enjoy the talks we have, im not doing any testing or vag exams or doppler or ultrasound, tjhough id be excited to hear baby next week withthe fetascope if all goes well.. i think i may get one, just for fun. my doula ( who was with me at elwynns birth) is staying with me for a few days from out of twon. she is moving back in august, hopefully to go to the midwifery program here.. ive asked her to attend the birth, but i feel like when it comes down to it i may just not call anyone, but i might at the same time. i want to leave the path for this baby free and clear and do what feels right at the time.

[DreamsInDigital]

Hi all! 18w2d here and I am continuing to get prenatal care under the ruse that this UC will be unplanned. My family is not very crunchy and would not understand. I don't want anyone worrying about us when the baby comes. I have done a lot of soul searching and this UC is definitely what I want. I am a little scared but I think with time and knowledge I can become more comfortable with the idea. I am more scared of the idea of being induced for being "postdates" and being forced to lay in a hospital bed strapped to a fetal monitor being treated like a patient with an illness.
How are you handling unsupportive family members?

[Arora The Explorer]

Hi, all. I find myself coming to this forum in spurts. It's like I busy myself with my other children, my life, my other activities and am not focusing so much on the details of pregnancy and birth... I just feel like everything is going as it should be. I'm almost 17 weeks along and still battling nausea and vomiting. That kind of takes my mind off things, too. :LOL In some ways birth still seems so far off. And, I'm feeling blasé about it. I think maybe the indifference stems from just not taking the time to focus on it... or maybe it's tied up in fears right now.

I feel like I'm covering some fears under the surface. I'm going to have to deal with those. My biggest fear has been with me from day one and that is that this baby won't live. Sorry. I know that's a biggie. I've just had this feeling from the get go. It's hard to shake. I need to just deal with it so I can move on. I'm not one for worry.

Welcome Castle! Congrats on your first UC and the next one coming! So, how did you know that you wanted the tear stitched? What tipped you off?

Carrie -- hope your hems are straight! :LOL

MamaFern -- I always like fundal height for trivia and fun. It really is cool to feel it & measure it. I haven't with this pregnancy, but my last I loved it! Although, then it grew really out of proportion and invited too many what ifs in... I kind of steered away from it then. But, as long as it's fun and you enjoy it, keep on truckin'!

Ashe -- how am I handling unsupportive family members? This is my 3rd. And my first two were with the same MW at home. I haven't met with the MW yet, but I probably will a few times. Everyone just assumes we're busy seeing her and will have her attend the birth. I don't go into it with them. My husband still has reservations... I can't imagine my MIL jumping for joy!

[ozzyemm]

I will have to read all of these later. DH and I are UCing-- well, at least we are laboring at home. i do NOT want all the intervetions that come with hospital birth. DH is very supportive. He is hesitant about cutting the cord. I told him he didn't have to, unless it was an emergency-- cord too short, tied too tightly around the neck. He is okay cutting at that time .

Our big question is "when do we go to the hospital?" We want to make sure the baby is okay, get the PKU (this one is necessary, right?). We just want to avoid the chaos that happens right away.

I think we could both be talked out of going to the hospital if we got LOTS of info and good advice .

Thanks!