Still thinking about UC birth
Just wanted to post an intro and let you know we are planning a waterbirth at home with my third, dp's second on Jan. 2 or so. We just had our dd at home in water last July, so a new baby so soon really turned our heads around!
We had planned a Lotus birth with our dd and it was a really peaceful babymoon. Although, I had very bad afterpains and was quite sore, not taking anything but Arnica after the birth. So, by day three some depression set in and my milk wasn't in yet. After some acetomenophin, a nice hot bath, a movie and pizza, the blues passed. Plus, my mom had just passed away after having ALS for about 4-5 yrs. She was just 54 and died two weeks b/f our dd's birth, which meant we travelled about 3000 miles across the country to attend her funeral.
Anyway, we want to mostly do this ourselves with this baby. I guess I kind of had the wind knocked out of my sails when this baby came as such a suprise. You know, the CONTROL thing. We have found a mw who seems very hands off, but did tell us to get an u/s at 9.5 wks for what she thought was an ectopic pregnancy. We went to a mw she knew who had an u/s machine in her house. She thought it was probably a threatened mc, but the whole experience wiped me out for a couple of days.
I have a mw appt scheduled for next Mon., but I have already let dp know my wishes to have a private pg and birth, without a lot of input from anyone else. So, we have the mw until we move in Sept, and by then I can decide if we want to stay with her, have a UC or find someone who will pretty much leave me alone at the birth.
All of my births have been at home, but my first was in a state where midwifery is illegal. My ds was born at 11.8 oz after a long and difficult labor with some shoulder dystocia that wouldn't resolve itself on hands and knees. Truth is, my uterus was exhausted. I have learned so much more since then!!! The mw at my birth gave me a 3mm episiotomy, with no pain relief or stitches, since she couldn't carry that stuff to the birth. I used to be so used to second-guessing my own thoughts about pregnancy and birth, and now I really have educated myself in self-trust and body-trust. I just worry that my dp might psyche me out during the labor or something, so I may need to keep a mw at arms reach, if I need a woman near me.
This is kind of a wild ramble of a post, but I really love your posts, even more than the due dates, respectfully. Natural remedies and cures are why midwifery care appealed to me before I even considered getting pregnant. I think UC and unassisted birth certainly makes a lot of sense in empowering women to communicate with their bodies and babies in an intuitive way.