Originally Posted by UnschoolnMa
How does forcing someone to do something bring the family together? Not being snarky (really!) but how good of a shared family experience will it be if one person is only participating because they are being made to?
"Force" is such a harsh word that invokes images of yelling , pushing , shoving , do-it-or-else , angry situations. It's kind of a scary word.
In our home force means
Let's do this together tomorrow at 4pm. The park ? sure we could read at the park. no , we'll bring the bikes next time. yup we'll be done at 5pm so you can go to your friend's house. I know you don't want to , but it's a gorgeous day out there and we are all going. I promise it won't be too painful. What are you going to wear ? Sandals are a great idea. Tell your sisters and we'll read down by the lakefront at the park.
If we never set forth a set time for us all to be together and engage in a family activity , we'd never sit together. My kids' social calendar is already overrunning the family calendar. DH and I have decided to implement a 'forced' time together. We read , play a game , talk about upcoming events , play cards , clean the garage, etc.... It is forced in that no one (including myself) barring illness , can exempt out of it. Our kids , and I speak for ours only , do better if they are told to do something up front. It's been our experience that the kids actually like the forced time. (thru unsolicited feedback from them).
They participate because they are told to , they follow thru because they like it.