I was actually asking both of you.
I know about the feeling like an evolutionary mistake - my brother, sister and I were all born by c-section, too. My brother was an emergency (a real one, for a change!), and in those days it was "once a c-section, always a c-section" - plus mom had the vertical cut. I've had well-meaning people tell me that without the surgery, mom wouldn't be here and neither would the rest of us (me, my siblings & my babies). The fact is, she probably would have lost my brother, but that doesn't mean she wouldn't have made it. So, there's no reason to assume that the rest of us wouldn't be. My sections have both been for breech, and I've talked to people here who have vaginally delivered breech babies...so it's not as though my son and I were destined to die. People like to second-guess.
I don't think it ever occurs to anybody to wonder how it feels to be told something like that. "You should be thankful to the doctors, because the women in your family are so defective that none of you would be here without them." Gee...thanks. I'm glad the surgery is available - as I said, I'm 99% sure it saved my brother's life. But, out culture is full of birth stories (a lot of them scary) and TV and movies full of "normal" births - although heavily medicated - and the whole c-section issues makes me (and I know I'm not alone) feel like I'm just cut off from a whole huge part of being a woman...and that there's something defective about me.
The big babies...some of them are just large. DD was 10lb., 2oz. - and she wasn't due for another five days when I had the section. This one I'm building right now seems to be shaping up to be another large one.