Originally Posted by Kincaid
Would I let my son (when he is 3) wear a dress? No.
My partner and I (both lesbian, both feminists) think dresses are constrictive and connotate certain qualities that we would not want projected onto a 3 year old. Girl or boy. Not everyone thinks frilly and fru-fru are charming. Honestly, I am dismayed by all the princessness crap that is done to little girls. Bringing boys along for the ride doesn't make sense to me either. This is just my opinion, mind you.
Same with nail polish. We would not paint a boy or girl child's nails, no way. Ditto makeup - in my opinion this is not the right message to send a child and not a good way for a child to "play." I feel sorry for the babies and toddlers I see whose parents have their toenails painted or makeup on their faces. I don't feel comfortable with that message.
As for wearing cowboy boots in public? Superheros garb? First, we would not allow a boy or girl child to own anything that is associated with "fighting" or violence. The fantasy and make believe items that we think are okay (there are plenty that don't involve either princesses or fighting figures), those we feel are ok at home but aren't appropriate out and about. I say this having seen a child in cowboy boots go down a slide at the park too quicky after another child, and his boot heel caught her in the eye. Required two dozen stitches. The kid should have had on appropriate footgear at public play equipment for safety reasons. So now when I see a kid in boots out to "play" I see an accident waiting to happen.
As far as the freak accident with the cowboy boot, is that the only reason you wouldn't allow cowboy boots? I mean, I am willing to bet that about a million times more often, accidents happen at the park because kids are running around playing and burning off steam, than because someone got a cowboy boot in the eye.