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post #21 of 258
My 3yo is not very verbal. He is verbal, but he has a speech delay and no one can understand him. His only requirement for his own clothing is that it is not his brother's.

I'd like to say that I would, but I would not. He is incapable of understanding the type of response it would receive, a response that might be dangerous to him.

If my 7yo wanted to wear a dress in public, I'd talk to him about it and explain what types of reactions he might receive. I would not let him wear a dress in public without me there to protect him.
post #22 of 258
Well, if we want to be technical about what "old fashioned" is, there are many men alive today, whose parents PUT them in "dresses" as 3 year olds.

I recall seeing few pictures of my step-father's childhood, but this man's man, "redneck" farm raised boy was wearing "dresses" in all the fancy family pictures, where he was very young.

And I'm suddenly reminded of an older style winnie the pooh book, where christopher robin looks just like an adorable moden-day girl. He's wearing a dress, and has a cute "bob" haircut.

"Old fashioned" people typically had little children dressed in the same particular way, regardless of sex, and then once they reached a certain age, they dressed like the adults of their sex.
post #23 of 258
Yes, If my DS wanted to wear a dress, of course he could..


I also agree with the PP's response to Emzachsmama's comment. Off the top of my head I can think of another example of "old fashioned" boys wearing dresses.
In colonial America boys were corset trained and wore dresses until they got their first pair of breeches and were considered a man.
post #24 of 258
I want to be clear that I wouldn't disuade my 3yo from wearing a dress in public because I'm old fashioned or have some kind of moral objection to it. Mostly, I'd worry for his emotional safety. I don't think anyone would attack a 3yo for wearing a dress, I wouldn't let him out of my reach, but I can only imagine what the response would be.
post #25 of 258
I certainly would without a doubt. It would be fun!! But, if they're not wearing their "cool" skateboarding clothes, I'm often spotted walking around town with mini superheroes.
post #26 of 258
Eh-- he wouldn't be nekkid!
post #27 of 258
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Originally Posted by umbrella

I recall seeing few pictures of my step-father's childhood, but this man's man, "redneck" farm raised boy was wearing "dresses" in all the fancy family pictures, where he was very young.
Very true. My son is named after his great-granddady, who we have photos of wearing a white dress and Looking Verrrry Serious. Precious little guy.

On another note, I have dressed my three-month-old in pink while at a friends' house (ds threw up, all my friend has are pink sleepers) and my dh said "At least he's secure in his manhood"
post #28 of 258
Ok so aparently 'old fashioned' wasn't the best way for me to describe my feelings. :LOL

I guess it just comes down to the fact that I think dresses are for girls and not boys and I wouldn't be comfortable with my son wearing a dress.
post #29 of 258
yes
post #30 of 258
yes, i would. he has already a few times, but he's too young to really pick out his own clothes-his sister picked the times he wore them. even when he wears a blue t shirt people say what a pretty girl i have-but i totally think he looks like a boy.

i hope they won't care what other people think.

i do agree with Mothra, though. Only if I were there to protect him from any potentially mean people.
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post #32 of 258
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Originally Posted by Mothra
I want to be clear that I wouldn't disuade my 3yo from wearing a dress in public because I'm old fashioned or have some kind of moral objection to it. Mostly, I'd worry for his emotional safety. I don't think anyone would attack a 3yo for wearing a dress, I wouldn't let him out of my reach, but I can only imagine what the response would be.
ITA.. in the safety of our own home he can wear whatever he wants..naked, dresses, hula skirts I don't care
post #33 of 258
I would not allow my son to wear a dress out side of the house. For a variety of reasons including but not limited to , personal , moral , and safety.
Boys should dress like boys. Girls just dress like lil girls and not prosti-tots in training. but that's another thread. LOL
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post #35 of 258
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Originally Posted by Jen123
Boys should dress like boys. Girls just dress like lil girls and not prosti-tots in training. but that's another thread. LOL
Are you cool with little girls wearing pants? Or blue? Those are traditionally boys clothing. I agree with the “prosti-tot” thing but I’m not into clothing, hairstyles, and things of nature to be for one gender or the other. It is a little unfair that little girls can be tom boys without criticism but a boy in “girls” clothing is ridiculed.

Anyway, I’d have no problem with my DS wearing a dress but it hasn’t come up yet. He hasn’t shown any interest in wearing one and I don’t own any, so…

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Originally Posted by lotusdebi
I did paint his nails recently. He wanted pink nails like Mommy.
My little guy is rocking silver toenails right now. He wants to be just like mama as he says
post #36 of 258
ITA with Mothra.
post #37 of 258
lol at prosti-tots Jen.
post #38 of 258
I think prostitots is the most pffensive thing I have read in a while.
post #39 of 258
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Originally Posted by Mothra
I want to be clear that I wouldn't disuade my 3yo from wearing a dress in public because I'm old fashioned or have some kind of moral objection to it. Mostly, I'd worry for his emotional safety. I don't think anyone would attack a 3yo for wearing a dress, I wouldn't let him out of my reach, but I can only imagine what the response would be.
I understand what you’re saying, but the same thing can be said about a lot of things… A boy having long hair…. a doll, breastfeeding in public! There are a lot of uptight people out there who want to force their expectations on to others, when do we stop letting them dictate our decisions especially regarding things our kids are comfortable with?

I understand you don’t want your child’s feelings to be hurt over someone else’s ignorant, negative response… I go nuts when my child gets hurt and would love to be able to avoid it all. But on the other hand I don’t want to teach my son that his decisions should be influenced by someone else’s personal feelings on matters that don’t even concern them. I want him to be him own person, always, even if others feel it is wrong.

Anyway, my apologies for going off there
post #40 of 258
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